Why did my Ex-Girlfriend randomly email me after 6 months?

Question

My ex and I had an emotionally violent break up. Our relationship lasted for 7-8 months, and for the first 5 months it was mostly okay. The last 3 months were extremely turbulent and we ended up breaking up, trying again, breaking up again, etc. Then I went to Japan for 6 months, in order to just forget her.

I really loved her, and I needed an escape. It was taking a massive toll on me (watching her hurt herself physically and emotionally for her then current job).

When I came back, she called me non stop. I refused to answer. Finally I caved, and she said she just wanted to "see how I was doing". This really conflicted me (as I could see she was reaching out because she missed me. Nobody just "calls an ex" to "see how they're doing"), so I ended up telling her if she wanted to try again, we could. This set her off, and she became an emotional timebomb again, with our last emails being exchanged from China, where she ended up moving to. She said in her last email to me "I regret ever meeting you. You were a stain in my life. I don't ever want to speak to you again."

Ok. Whatever.

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But then this morning, I woke up to find an email from her. In it was only a simple link, and in the link was some photos of an event with a ton of Doraemon (a famous Chinese/Japanese TV Character). Normally this wouldn't pose any sort of questioning from someone... they would just think it's spam mail.

But for my ex and I, we used to have a toy stuffed Doraemon that we would snuggle up to while we were in bed together. She knew it meant a lot to me, and it was the one thing we shared when we broke up, that I didn't just give out right to her.

So she sent me the email, it wasn't spam, and it was of something that was really close to us when we were together.

What do I make of this? Do I even respond? What do I say? Just last night I was thinking about how much I miss her... is she reaching out? I don't get it.

Someone please help me, as I'm now a nervous wreck.

Answer 1

She seems to have emotional problems and probably can't let go. I do think she still thinks of you. But it might have been a drunk email or a nostalgic weak moment. Let her contact you, don't contact her yourself yet. If she has something to say, she will.

Answer 2

If anyone tells you to act like you're happy without her, don't. If you want her back you need to grovel.

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Do something romantic. Nobody does that anymore. Leave flowers at her door. Write her a letter, and put it in her mailbox or with the flowers or something.



If you really love her that much, get her back.



I would say other than just pouring your heart out, all you can do is move on. But don't ignore her, don't put on a front... Or you will never have her back.



No guarantee that grovelling will work, but if you really want her, and you're already unhappy what else could go wrong? You don't have anything to lose.

I grovelled to a guy I loved. We were in so deep that we nearly hated each other. I grovelled so hard that I was crying. And we were together for maybe a week or two, and then he left town. Life's cruel.

But you have to live the heck out of it. The things that you will remember are the things you pour your heart and soul into.

Answer 3

You tried the first time it didn't work out you even went to Japan for 6months to get over her and then you came back obviously doing just fine but then.... oh she contacted you again and you give it another shot and once again it doesn't work out she has now moved away and is still reaching out. This relationship should of been cut of along time ago because it clearly just isn't working and long distance isn't going to work either.

Dont reply and continue on with your life, go out and meet new people im sure you will meet someone who treats you right.

Answer 4

Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/NC1Na



Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.



The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.



Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

Answer 5

Well that was weird... She probably can't stop thinking about you, but if you don't feel comfortable her sharing your past... Block her on Email and something like that.



But that was very odd saying that she doesn't ever wants to speak to you again... Just let her be... I guess.

Answer 6

Alright, from what you've told, i think it's best to just move on. if it was meant to be i'm sure you'd be together. if the relationship is just causing issues for you both the best thing to do is just let her know you're done and move on, and she will have to do the same. take what good came from the relationship and leave the rest behind. plain and simple. **** like this is was causes neverending suffering for people.

Answer 7

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