Childish boyfriend has thrown the towel in...?

Question

Myself and my boyfriend have had a row which has lasted since tuesday (now thursday). I tried to talk it through and bring the argument to an end yesterday, saying all will be forgotten but he kept saying 'we'll talk tomorrow'. So today I went to his work to see him at lunch, after me asking he told me that he doesn't think he wants to be with me anymore. I asked how long he'd felt this way and shock horror he said only since we've had this argument and commented how nice our weekend together was. I knew this was the case because whenever we have an argument he says 'I don't want to be with you anymore' like a child. I said to him 'if you are going to throw a 4 year relationship away because of a pathetic argument then (excuse the language) F-off, I don't want to be with someone who just crumbles at the first hurdle' and he said 'ok then', said it was over and walked off.

Now, I'm not taking this too seriously because, as I say, he always says this rubbish and I know everything will be ok. I love him to pieces and I don't want to end the relationship, but I seriously don't want to be with someone who just throws the towel in as soon as the going gets tough, like a child. In my opinion a relationship is a commitment and we all have problems, we all want our partners to bugger off when we're angry with them. But in my opinion only children go 'we've had an argument so we're over' and then get back together a day later - I HATE people that do this.

What do you advise me to do about the matter?

Answer 1

"he always says this rubbish and I know everything will be ok"



How exactly can everything be okay when this keeps happening? You're right. You can't make it work with someone who handles conflict in this way, and since he's shown no indication that he recognizes this is a problem, you need to stick to your guns and move on for real this time. Or, if you don't think you can make that stick, make counseling a non-negotiable condition of you coming back so the two of you can learn how to handle this better together.

Answer 2

If you have been in a four year relationship, he didn't throw in the towel over one little fight. He threw in the towel because he learned something about the two of you during that little fight.



Now if he didn't throw in the towel and is just manipulating you, it's a different story--but if that's the case then you probably need to avoid him to get the upper hand back. One more thing--namecalling and trying to prove you are superior to him are probably the things that did you two in. If he does something you don't like and you are going to say "childish" and fight about it for a week, then he needs to break up with you.

Answer 3

Stronger minds are stable and invulnerable to bs