should i message her again?

Question

Two years ago I met this girl, we hit it off amazing at first. Very much so attracted to each other. Well we talk for a few weeks, nothing ever happens and than one day I basically just stop hearing from her. Find out she got back with her ex drug dealing bf. Tried talking a few times after but never got anywhere.

Fast forward to a last month, and I noticed she checked out my profile on okcupid (the day before my birthday which is the day we actually had our date two years prior). I sent her a simple message saying "long time no talk, how have you been?" and never got a response. Well this girl was amazing, and probably still is amazing, and I want an opportunity to try my luck again.

Should I send a second message, perhaps more detailed, or should I let this one go? Really anyones suggestions on how to strike up a conversation in this situation would be helpful.

Answer 1

My first suggestion is to stay away. She may have seemed amazing, but anyone willing to be with a drug dealer is very, very bad news.



If you are insistent on trying it, thought, you may need to try something simple, yet blunt, like, "Hey, I saw you checked out my profile, will you at least say something back?"

You don't have to be rude, but if she's just ignoring you, then there's another reason to just stay away.



Hope this helps.

Answer 2

Chances are, she was just nosey and curious. I think that if you really wanted to message her again you should do it, but it could just end up being a waste of your time. Once you send a second message and never get a reply, then you know for a fact that you need to move on. It's okay though, some people just need a little reassurance and second chances make you feel better with your decisions for the most part.

Answer 3

If i where you i would talk to her face to face because these kinds of things cant be said over the phone.

If you see her tell her how much you mean to her. She might be going down the wrong road help her clime out of this bad situation . so the best think is to talk to her i bet she jut feels bad i know i would and is probably afraid to send to a message.

Answer 4

I think you did enough by saying long time no see. If she really wanted to talk to you she would of responded to that but instead she ignored it.

Answer 5

Let it go. She obviously didn't like you enough the first time around because she picked the drug dealer over you. :-/

Answer 6

She was just curious and took a peek. If she is on that site, she is looking too. She just recognized you and wanted to peek. I would NOT email again.

Answer 7

dont message her again if she didn reply 2 ur message cuz she prob dnt wanna tlk 2 u sorry

Answer 8

let it go..