Any way i can still get him back?

Question

I have been dating this guy for 3 years. Sure, we had our ups and downs but for the most part we were good together. About three months ago we started drifting apart, and although i loved him dearly i felt he needed some space, so we decided to take a break for a little while. I distanced myself a little and he started acting more interested in me than ever before. We decided to get back together, but now (about a month later) he came right back saying hes not sure if a relationship is what he wants right now, and he doesn't want to become "committed" to something he doesn't know he 100% in to. we met up and talked about things, and i poured out my feelings for him and how i love him so, and he came right back saying he still feels like he doesn't want any kind of relationship going into a new part in his life, but yet, he kept the possibility open of getting back together. He said things may change and that this may not be over forever. I feel i made the mistake of contacting him again in the first place to meet up, everything i read says to avoid all unnecessary contact... Is there any way i can get him back?

Answer 1

I hate to say this, but it sounds like a guy I know, who loves the girl that he's been on and off again with for years, but who also loves dating several other women too. There is clearly a reason that he is not sure he want to committ to you 100% and it's not because of his work schedule, or his dog...it's prolly because of another woman or other women. This is based on my experience anyway. And I really want to know: what is it about a man who dumps a woman and then always wants her back when she appears to have moved on and lost interst in him? UGH...I've been there too. Sorry girlie but as a friend once told me: There are more dogs in the kennel! And you deserve better

Answer 2

Ahh yes you want him to want you but he doesn't. It was a big mistake to pour out your heart. Makes you look needy. Now to fix all of this you need to be busy. Last minute plans with this guy is out. If he wants to see you, you need to be a little hard to get. Always have something to do and when you see him you can laugh about what you have done. Did you see his pattern? You chase him and he gets bored.

You make it hard for him and he chases you. Be feminine and learn the ways of being female.. Hedonism is a good topic to explore. Learn this and the world is yours.

Answer 3

You will make your decisions, and he will make his. Two makes one, RIGHT? You have to stop crying to him, pouring out your feelings to him, even though you feel like you need to. He wants to see a loving person with confidence. You can either back away and get over it, or try by being with him. Even if he ends it, that isnt the end of the world! You can still do it! Just believe in yourself. Be confident. Show him who you are.



Tony

Answer 4

You've got to set a date with him by which the two of you will either get back together or decide that it's a complete split. Once you have the date set, leave him alone until that date.

Answer 5

honey, he sounds like he really doesn't like you all that much.

sorry if its not what you want to hear, but if your poured out your heart and soul to him and he wrote it off with a "i dont want a relationship at this time in my life" speech, then that doesnt mean he doesnt want a relationship, it means he doesnt want a relationship with you.



i am so sorry. i hope this doesnt sound too mean, but honey you need to get back out there and meet a guy who truely deserves you. you seem like a wonderful lady who i'm sure a ton a guys are dying for a chance with, so give them one!

Answer 6

Here's my solution to problems like these; it's guaranteed. You will go out with friends, meet new people, and maybe even meet a new guy. It's called moving on and works wonders.



Good Luck

Answer 7

Happiness in a relationship is 2 yes's. I know it sucks but he's being honest. You can't ask for more than that.

Answer 8

it seems like he doesn't like you sorry if thats not what you wanna hear if he pulled off that stupid 'dont wanna relationship' speach hes a cheapskape find yourselve a nother guy who is interested and deserves you just cuz hes stubborn doesn't mean you have to be

Answer 9

Hey...it sounds like he isnt really sure what he wants. Dont let his indecisions upset your life. Maybe you should try dating other people until he figures out what he really wants ?

Answer 10

just chill and dont get desperate let him come to you dont chase him other wise he will never come back

Answer 11

yes follow your heart..but unless he is committed, dont be with him

Answer 12

are you a guy or girl? i love you anyway