How do I get over looks?

Question

I am dating a red head with very fair skin. Personality wise she is great. But, I have always been really attracted to brunettes that tan. Any ideas how to change my perspective?

Answer 1

There are a few ways to address your question. An answerer already gave the "beauty is only skin deep" response, and while that is quite true, it is not much of a consolation. Ive found that as my love for a woman grows, my tastes change. People change over time. I know its not very PC to suggest that you try to change your mate, but lets be realistic. Hair dye exists, and (remember rose mcgowan) nothing is hotter than a pale skinned brunette. If you really think she is cool, give yourself time to grow into her, it might be worth the time.

Answer 2

Matt,



As the saying goes, "beauty is only skin deep". If you like this redhead girl, I think you should think about why that is. Since you're dating her, there is obviously some attraction on your part. In the end, it's all about the way you connect with someone on every level. This is not always so easy for us men, but try and be led by your heart and the head that sits above your shoulders.

Answer 3

Why change? That's your preference and that's what you're happy with. You shouldn't feel guilty because everyone's not your type. You might think it's shallow, but in the end, if it's what makes you happy in a woman, then stick with it.

Answer 4

I guess you need to really look at what you want in a relationship; do you want a superficial relationship built on looks, (which do change throughout the years), or do you want a relationship built on mutual trust, friendship, and love?



When you find the one that you just can't live without, her looks aren't going to matter. :)