GIRLS, I NEED HELP. I can't get into a relationship :(?

Question

I try to be a nice guy and my friends (girls) say that im a really cute, nice, genuine guy. Im not one of these blokes that sit in front of the mirror doing my hair and choosing what to wear at the weekend but then again in the looks department i am very capable of getting girls.

Im not the most confident of guys so approaching girls that i don't know is kinda hard but my personality makes up for that when im speaking to them. I try to be kind and stuff but you know what they say, nice guys finish last. Then again i don't want to come off as a total arrogant jerk. I like to see others happy and will do a lot to make that happen. e.g. a girl who i get on well with (friend) wanted this perfume for christmas but she didn't get it. As shes a really nice, person i offered to buy her it.

Im 16 and am not desperate for a girlfriend but i would like one. I like hanging out with those who i care about and im not one of these guys who dates a girl just because of her looks.

Answer 1

you know what..

wierd you seem like an ideal guy =) and i'd like a guy like you and tbh dont worry. just do what you do and talk to girls the way you do.

there must be someone you know that already likes you and your get bound to get that girlfriend really soon.



if theres anyone you like, maybe you should make the move and they would probably accept.

Answer 2

Yeah nice guys finish last, but it is just like that theory "it was the last place i looked".. the point is, of course you finish last because generally the nice guys are the last guy a girl will date because their relationships last longer than if a girl is with a jerk. Why would a girl date a jerk after she dated a nice guy?



Anyway, work on being brave enough to walk up to a girl and say "Hey, I like you." If you get turned down, oh well, that is the girl's loss and that means there is someone else out there for you. Life is about taking chances so go take a chance and ask a girl out already.

Answer 3

Just give it time - you're only 16. I'm 31 and have had a string of relationships with horrible nasty liars. Nice guys do not finish last, believe me. I can understand why you're saying that though. At the end of the day, i'd sooner go out with a genuine nice guy than an asshole anyday, and all my mates feel the same. Don't stop being who you are - someone will come along soon, usually when you least expect it. Good luck.

Answer 4

I'm the same way, and I've been getting around that. I've realized that you can't be a completely nice guy because 99% of girls just aren't attracted to that. They want a guy who shows they have balls and can act like a man. If you see a girl you are interested, just walk up to them, ask them some stupid question and ask if they want to see a movie. Thats it. If they turn you down then move on. If they accept, then go on the date confident. Be nice on the date, open doors, smile a lot, and be geniune. But don't be a push over. Have a date planned out. Where you are going to go, what you are going to do, and where you are going to eat. Basically, take control of the situation.

Answer 5

omg! why dont u have a gf, u sound sooooooo nice, im 15 and have a similair problem, i jsut find it hard to approach people and would like to have a boyfriend just to be with, go shopping, cinema and stuff but knowone seems to like me, its really hard i know but i think if u just stick around u never know what could happen and maybe go into town and ask some girl who looks nice and your type 4 directions or something and then see what happens



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Answer 6

sounds like ur a nice guy. my advice would be, to Any guy, good looking or not: u gotta be able to take Risks. dont' be afraid of rejection. that shows u are Confident and know what u want. and u r not afraid of scaring them off or them saying No. of course, u dont want to come off like a stalker or anything, but i mean if u like a girl, go for it. give her a flower, ask her out for coffee.. almost 100% of the time she will at least be FLATTERED. and if u objective is to make a girl feel Special, then she will feel special if u do something nice like that to single her out! :)



good luck....and dont compare urself to other people. u never know, what if a guy that was less good looking than u had more confidence to risk her saying no? he already has a better chance than u. so go for it :)...as long as u continue to learn what girls like and what makes them feel special u'll be way ahead...

Answer 7

Now eactly why can't you get into a relationship? You can easily talk to girls it seems (not approaching, just regular conversation). Really, if you would like a girlfriend, then just ask her out at the end if your conversation or something. You don't need to approach a girl and ask her out the first thing. If you can at least get into a conversation in some way with a girl, then just ask her out in the end or something.

Answer 8

It's nice to hear that you are not one of those who only go for looks in a girl, as you know, beauty is only skin deep..

Don't rush, just enjoy being friends with girls like you are now.

you will know when the time is right for you, you will feel it in your heart and know that this is the girl who you want to be with all the time and perhaps spend the rest of your life with.

It takes time to find that right person so take your time. Also always be the person that you are.

You are only young remember..

Answer 9

If I knew you, was able to date (parents), and could really see that you are the nice "gentleman" everyone dreams about. And that you're not arrogant, and constantly thinking of...whatever most guys you....I'd go out with you. I like that in guys. It doesn't make me completely hate the male species.

Answer 10

you are still very young you have plenty of time to have girlfriends, now is just not your time, but dont give up theres someone out there for you. when she comes along youll know. until then be patient and let things go at their own pace. your not doing anything wrong, you cant change who you are and when you find the right girlfriend she wont want you to change.

Answer 11

girls like romantic things----when u find the girl that u like do something romantic-maybe secret admirer flowers or somethin?--- dont rush into getting into a relationship just to have one--slow things down...when the right person comes along, you'll know what to do

Answer 12

what you can do is just be your self.if you try to hard then your going to stay this way.some girls like bad boys and some like cute or just nice boys like you. 1.find the girl of your dreams 2.get to know her (find out her b-day,favorite color,favorite food,favorite singer..etc.etc) 3.ask her if she has a boyfriend 4.then if no ask her out just like i said in the begining some like nice,cute funny,serious,bad,boys.so it just matters who you pickP.S good luck

Answer 13

just be urself and a girl will decide to go out with u. ask some chicks out u never know if one will say yes.good luck<3

Answer 14

Hey there! Okay, you sound like a really nice person! =] But I'm not sure what the question is......



- Jess

Answer 15

you seem like a rely sweet guy, but i cant think of one time I asked a dude out... the gy has always asked ME out and stuff... besides maybe they are afraid of rejection from YOU intead of YOU afraid of THEM... maybe they think you are too far out of their league of w/e

Answer 16

I think you should keep looking and the right one will come along sooner or later!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 17

ah you're still really young, it will all come to you in time!

Answer 18

do you have a myspace? :D