Is he cheating?????????

Question

ok i have been with him for 8 months. He tells me all the time that he hates cheaters and as far as i know.he has never cheated on me..our relationship is a lil rocky right now though...For some reason i just have this gut instinct that hes talking to someone else..I dont really have any reason other than i THINK he might have been on the other line lastnight when I called him but I'm not 100% sure..hes a firefighter and goes to the firestation alot..but everytime he goes somewhere I talk to him multiple times while hes gone...But lately hes not been wanting to spend time with me..Could this be bc of the rocky times right now? Plus he doesnt have any money for gas and I live about 30 mins away..I just have a bad feeling about the cheatng thing..Idk why? Am i being paranoid? I need some advice..
PS. His facebook page is alllll about me....Also i put his name on topix. and nobody is posting on it or saying anything bad.


PS.TODAY HE SAID HE WANTED SOME SPACE AND FOR ME TO NOT BE SO CLINGY.....

Answer 1

You sound clingy, love him don't stalk him and if you don't act so easy to get then he'll be interested in you and not other girls because he'll have enough on his plate as it is.

Answer 2

A lot of the answer depends on the details of why your relationship is rocky right now. You did not give that in your question. You did not give any reason to mistrust him. You did say he goes to the firehouse often. You did say that when he is gone you call him multiple times. Nothing and I mean nothing will strain a relationship more than the multiple calls when you are around your guy friends. What happens is the guys say when the phone rings "its so and so" checking to see if you are still here. Ring ring, Its so and so, man you are so PW'ed. Ring, ring, man don't she ever let up? Ring, ring! So I suspect there is a feeling of being manipulated or controlled going on. His facebook is all about you right now. If you want it to stay that way, listen to what he is telling you. I mean really listen in such a way that you hear what he is saying. When you hear what he is saying respond by changing what you are doing to drive him away. Here is where the situation takes a turn. either you hear, pay attention and react in a meaningful way or the relationship deteriorates further. By giving him the space he will slip further away or realize you care enough to change and he will return to you. Either way you win. If he is window shopping he will have the rope to hang himself or you continue together in a manner he can tolerate. If he is window shopping you want him to hang himself because you deserve the real deal.

Answer 3

imagine how you would feel if the relationship was destroyed because of your worries.

if it turned out that he wasn't doing anything wrong, but it was just your thoughts that poisoned the relationship



no need to think about the future and what could happen.. think about the present, and presently there is no concrete evidence that he is doing anything wrong. try to be happy that you guys are together, even if it's a bit rocky. and i agree with the other answerers, give him a little space maybe he's stressed out with other things in his life and you might just be adding to his stress.



good luck, i hope he isn't cheating on you

Answer 4

You should be aware that posting about him on Topix could damage his life FOREVER. Topix posts are never taken down. However there are hundreds of people trying to stop TOPIX and should they succeed you could become a target of a class action lawsuit. I would steer clear of Topix for this personal purpose.

Answer 5

You are driving him away by obsessing about the relationship.

It doesn't sound like he is cheating. And phones usually make a special beep when the person is on another line.

Answer 6

Regardless of whether he is cheating you are being paranoid, but that doesn't mean you're not right. He could be cheating, but it sounds to me like he just wants some time to himself. Either way i think you need to give him some space.