He was seeing someone else...?

Question

I just started seeing this guy two weeks ago and things moved REALLY fast with us. Something just clicked. I usually take things slow, but things felt right.

Last night he came over to take care of me cuz I was sick... This morning he was in my shower and his cell alarm was going off so I opened his phone to turn it off and found a text message from someone named Shalina. "We will make it through this"

So, of course, I checked out a few more messages and he is obviously seeing someone else and instead of being with coworkers last night he was obviously with her.

I straight up told him that I had seen the messages. I said "Who is Shalina" and he said "the girl I have to break up with." I asked him to leave.

He has been texting me and asking me to reconsider and talk through this. I don't think there is anything to talk through. He started our 'thing' off with lies. Should I give him a chance because things DID happen so quickly? Or am I right and this guy needs to be gone.

Answer 1

If you really feel this guy is worth another shot then you may want to consider that once you let him go handle his business with the girl he's "trying to break up with"...but you said in her message she said . "We will make it through this"...she sounds pretty hopeful to me and doesn't seem to want to let him go....are you prepared for this situation to possibly turn ugly?Also did you so happen read his responses? I've been down this road before and I read both sides of the story..her comments and his responses......I don't know this just sounds like a sticky situation for me that could get ugly..and me personally would just walk away from it...it's only been two weeks..this guy can't be your life already.....but.....once again if you think it's worth it then.......the decision is ultimately yours.......good luck with whatever you do.........



I just think it's messed up you had to find out about her this way instead of him being upfront and honest with you..that's definitely something to think about..what else is he keeping from you?

Answer 2

I think you made a big mistake by letting things go so quickly...no matter how "RIGHT" something feels if it is right then it's not going anywhere, I never understood why people don't take their time with matters of the heart....it almost ALWAYS ends up in disappointment, and I know this from experience...but back to your issue...your guy was dishonest FROM THE BEGINNING...not a good way to start a so called relationship.....and if you didn't find those messages, you would have still been in the dark about her, sounds like he's trouble to be honest and I would get out now while everything is still brand new...sorry you had to learn your lesson the hard way but...it's best you know about this guy now....you're lucky..you've been spared probably a worst scenario down the road........ditch him..you'll be better off......best of luck.....

Answer 3

Life is full of Choices and Chances, at least that is how I see it. **** happen when you move fast but Love will always stay the same. You make that choice. Follow your heart. So hit it head on or leave it. Good Luck with it.

Answer 4

When you are absolutely positive he has broken it off with the other girl then you can give him another chance.



Only this time take it real slow. No more sleeping together until you are going out.

Answer 5

Wow, you sound like a really strong person that sticks to your guns! Good for you. As for your question, I would tell him he needs to figure out what he's going to do with his life before he tries to hook up with you, and that if he wants you in it then he needs to end it with this other girl. Don't do anything with him until you are sure that all he wants is you. Good luck!:)

Answer 6

you should probably give him another chance, maybe it was hard for him to break things off with this other girl, it might have needed some time. he should have told you, but i think another chance is what you should give him, just don't trust him easily and watch what he is doing. good luck.

Answer 7

So each and each and every theistic faith is nice? you're high-quality as long as you aren't any more atheist? those who worship one god, the holy trinity, or dissimilar gods (a number of whom are recognized as "evil") are all interior a similar boat? it truly is a clean one...

Answer 8

WOW! he screwed up big time..but i think u should give him another chance to prove that he's genuinely down for you