I wish I could find the right person?

Question

I know everybody goes through this and I'm still very young but I'm far beyond my years, (I'm 18), I've been through a lot as a young person I had trouble with my mother and her husband who's family never accepted me nothing was ever good enough for him and my dad didn't have much money so he'd struggle to keep me... I grew up fast and learnt a lot I was travelling the UK at age 14 seeing different places and experiencing different things... I never really had a loving mother she never did anything with me I'm not exaggerating either she really hasn't she's rather selfish... anyway I'm blabbing that's a lil back story. I have had 2 serious relationships the first guy had sex with two of my 'friends' and the second was so manipulative and controlling... he was going to Oxford and just because I'm not they didn't accept me. I have then had a few dotted 1 week well I wouldn't call them proper relationships but 'seeing each other' and a lot of guys have messed me around I'm just sick of it I just want to find somebody I can trust and tell anything too. I want something beyond anything I've ever felt something warm, safe and special with a spark most of all I just feel like it's never going to happen and don't want to sound needy but I always seem to be the girl who gets walked all over and makes all the effort :-/

Answer 1

Sounds like you've been through a rough time, and for the first guy you went out with to sleep with two of your friends is disgusting! You'll find someone that you will feel that way for, you just have to be patient but i promise you you'll find someone who'll treat you right soon. You might meet allot of pr**ks in your life but in the end you'll have someone who loves you and who treats you right, also your still young no worries :)

Answer 2

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Answer 3

This isn't meant to sound rude, but maybe you're letting the wrong type of men into your life. Get to know a man before getting emotionally involved. Go on dates, but don't let them have sex straight away. That's something that will only attract the sort of guys you hate. The guys worth knowing will be happy to take you out and make you feel special. Then decide whether or not to let them in to your world.

Answer 4

Tale a good look at yourself and acknowledge that you are special, wonderful, intelligent, beautiful, desirable and fantastic...in every way. Know that you are somebody special. Accept yourself as you are and acknowledge yourself for the special person you are. Do not judge yourself, don't compare yourself with others-it's not fair to you or them. Judgments are bad because that is when we compare ourselves with others and decide somehow we are lesser. That's nonsense. We are all perfect as we are. So focus on you, focus on making choices that honor you. An evaluation is a determination that something or someone is good or not good FOR YOU. This doesn't mean they are good or not good for others, just for you (or not for you). Evaluate people from the standpoint they are good for you or not. They may be good for someone else, they may be handsome, nice or whatever but for you...not good. If you can accept yourself without judgment and recognize that others should also be accepted without judgment (but with evaluation) then you will honor yourself by the choices you make. Trust your instincts in this. If you are dating someone and start seeing things that you feel are not good for you, get out of the relationship. Honor yourself and others will be attracted to you because you are non-judgmental, fun to be with and a very nice person. And you will find the one (or more than one) of the kind of people you can like and trust and have a good relationship with. Try it.

Answer 5

This is going to sound silly but here it goes... Write out what you are looking for in your mate. I say mate because it sounds to me that's what you're looking for. A life partner, husband, etc... Anyway, write it all out - add to the list when you need to, remove from the list if you have to, etc. Keep that list nearby and read it everyday. When you meet a man think about your list. When you date think about your list. Don't allow yourself to date someone beneath your standards because in the end you'll only be unhappy. Note: This list should not be what he looks like or that he's rich. It should be something like "makes me laugh, tells me he loves me everyday, thinks I'm beautiful, responsible, stabile, etc" Talk more about character than physical attributes and tangible assets. - El

Answer 6

Maybe you should pick better guys. Change your criteria. You seem to be picking guys that are duds.



Try to remember this: If you want things to change, you have to change. Of course the other side of that coin is: If you don't change, things are going to pretty much stay the same.



I wish you well.

Answer 7

Sometimes people go through crap when they are young. Life isn't the same for all. Don't lose hope. Make friends, go to the mall, shop or do regular things girls your age do. The right person will come along when the time is right. Don't stress over it too much. Enjoy your life. :)