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2013-06-19 04:27:53 UTC
Here's some history if it helps to answer my question (sorry that it's long, I really appreciate your help):
My ex (28) and I (24) broke up for the second time in June last year; I told him over the phone that I love him but can't marry him. After 3.5 years of dating, he had just put down a deposit on a wedding ring for me, even though he hadn't officially proposed as I had found a ring I liked and he offered to get it for me seeing we had an understanding that we would get married in the future. At the time of the break up, I was under a lot of pressure as a result of losing my job and I was feeling very impulsive, which led to my feeling a sense of urgency to break up with my ex as I no longer felt I had the energy to sustain it. There had also been strong family pressure against the relationship from day 1 given he has a different cultural background. We do, however, share the same faith. Things were pretty messy when we broke up. We had sex a few times and it was pretty confusing for both of us. He thought us having sex meant we were getting back together but I was feeling a little messed up and told him I didn't want that. I have no idea why I acted like that, I love him immensely. If he ever takes me back, I will never hurt him like that again.
Nowadays, my ex and I see each other several times a week; just as regularly as we did when we were dating. We do the same things, I spend a great deal of time at his family home and see his parents, brother and extended family on a regular basis. I helped him find a property to buy and I am always there for him. We talk pretty much every day. I still attend his family events, e.g. his great grandfather's funeral and wake yesterday. I'm not sure some of his family realise we are no longer an item, but do I blame them? On the surface it would appear we are still very much a couple.
I have asked my ex if he thinks we might get back together in the future and he says probably not. When I ask why, he says he doesn't want to be in a relationship, maybe not ever again. But I know that he has created an online dating profile since we broke up :/ He is not dating anyone at present. Also, when I tell him I still love him, he tells me he loves me as a friend.
Do you think he will ever want to get back with me? I am deeply in love with him, imagine a life with him, having his children etc. I know he wants children one day too.
Please tell me what I can do/say to try get him back! I know he still loves me, we hang out all the time. In fact, aside from his work friends, I am the only person he hangs out with outside of work. Do you think we have a chance of getting back together??
Do you think him replying "You wanna come over tonight?" to my text "Thanks for calling me back :) I've missed you the past few days" is a good sign that he might take me back? I ended up replying that I couldn't come over as I had a pilates class to go but just wondering why you think he asked me to come over tonight? Do you think it was in direct response to me saying I missed him, did he want sex or what? Need help deciphering him... guys, tell me what you think pls :)