Question:
why would he just stop talking to me?
Laura
2009-10-14 22:34:50 UTC
i meet this guy and we hung out a couple of times we went here and there together. he even introduced me as his girlfriend in front of his friends. its been two weeks since he has text-ed me or tried to contact me. I tried to contact him and he never called back or wrote back. does this mean he doesn't want anything with me any more?
what does this mean? he doesn't want anything with me anymore? did he ever want something series
21 answers:
anonymous
2009-10-15 00:37:21 UTC
Oh Laura, I feel your pain.

I, too, met an amazing guy who was all about me -- told me he couldn't stop thinking/talking about me to everyone, immediately introduced me to many friends, was planning trips for the two of us... then stopped returning my phone calls/messages for over a week.



Finally, I mustered up the courage to ask... no response.

Now, days later, he's finally responded with that he's in "a weird mental spot and is sorry for dropping off the way he did." A weird mental spot... sounds like a cop out, huh?



The truth is, even after this response from him, I still don't have an answer.



The best answer I can give you is that he is not worth it. He is not a decent guy to leave you in this crappy limbo land.



The possibilities I came up with for my own situation, that can also apply to your's : He depressed/has a mental illness so he can't call (maybe can't get out of bed/feels terrible/etc.), he has a girlfriend/other women (he's a player scumbag), he just doesn't want to let you go (perhaps wants to keep you around as a booty call but also doesn't want to commit so he doesn't call frequently), he got what he wanted and bailed (hopefully you didn't "give up the goods" like I unfortunately did). The list goes on and on.



The bottom line is that this guy sucks. He turned out to be someone completely different than who you thought he was. I know how bad this sucks because hell, I'm experiencing it right now too.



The only thing you can do is move on. There is no other option.



At least try to find solace in the fact that you found out that he isn't a good person now, instead of months or years down the road.



Good luck, sweets

Best wishes to you <3
?
2009-10-15 05:42:50 UTC
Hi Laura, it sounds as if things were off to a good start with you too, but the reality from what you just wrote is that he's probably lost interest. No texting or calling for two weeks is a long time. Think about it, when you first start liking someone you wanna spend all your time with them, and talk to them all the time right? He's doing the opposite, so it seems as if he's no longer interested. Don't worry about it girl, after a few days you'll be okay.. there's a hugh ocean out there filled with lots more guys... you'll find your special someone. Forget about him.. Good luck!!
Gloria A
2009-10-15 05:48:47 UTC
Who knows why he stop talking to you. Some guys/girls are like that. They know you and introduce you to their friend as a girlfriend. I think they usually do that with other girls/guys. If you haven't done anything, you don't have to worry about. Move on and the one who is to be for you will stay. The main thing is to be yourself.
Truth Hurts
2009-10-15 05:45:54 UTC
He introduced you to his girlfriend for crying out loud. What part of that makes you think he wants you? He probably ran because he was sensing that you had feelings for him knowing he has a girlfriend. He did the right thing! SMH
DJC
2009-10-15 05:38:35 UTC
If he did not call or write you back, yes that means he does not want to talk to you anymore. The reason that we date other people is to find out if they are someone that we want to have a continued relationship with. Evidently he found out that he did not wish to do so.
Helen
2009-10-15 05:49:47 UTC
Forget him. He's not going to call you. The limit is one and a half weeks, and he's passed that. He didn't lose your number, he hasn't been too busy, he just is an *** and doesn't like you. Honestly, you sound like a nice girl and deserve someone much better. Don't call him, don't try to contact him, if you see him anywhere don't acknowledge his existence. Don't go up to him and start talking to him. Find someone much better, someone that will want to call you and try to get to you. Overall tip: Dont call guys. If they like you, they'll call you. If they don't call you, they're jerks that dont.
Paul
2009-10-15 05:38:05 UTC
if hes not responding to texts or calls, then no he is not interested anymore. If he wanted something serious, he would find some way to contact you.
katherinesays
2009-10-15 05:41:29 UTC
hmm...guys arent dificult to guess so as an outsider i would definately agree he wants nothing to do with you...im sorry. its really sucky of a guy to not even tell you. :( he probably didnt or possibly he did want something serious or something (or someONE) distracted him. if hes ignoring you its best not to sit and fret of what happened or what went wrong...most likely you didnt and he wasnt man enough to tell u he wanted nothing more. another thing is his phone broke and his light and phone bill went off? ha...minimal possibility...
Kind
2009-10-15 06:42:51 UTC
He's been/being unreasonable, not rational -- all the asking why? thinking in the world will not explain when someone is off on their own trip! I wouldn't worry about him, so much, if it was me, anyways -- because, it's actually not reasonable to be boyfriend-girlfriend in like, 5 minutes :OD or a couple of meetings -- see, you cannot actually know that his friends were actually longtime friends, that way -- or, his motive(-s) for calling you his girl in front of whomever they were -- for example, maybe, they criticized him for being with someone else -- and he was just in a hurry to find someone else to 'show (them)..or, it could be that someone dared him he couldn't get someone to believe him, for money (guys do dumb weird things, some of them, sometimes..they don't have to make sense, so, they don't!)..or, maybe someone publicly humiliated him, because he was the only one in the group without a partner..and so on,who knows. Guess I would just say, that you sound so open -- hm, it might be wise to relax, really get to know someone, understand where or how much inside them is reasonable, logical, can be relied on, expected or counted on -- and how much is weird, illogical, twisted or makes you feel unclear or uncertain -- everyone may have some of both..but, what is/are his intentions, what are his motives -- take more time, watch and notice, observe, not just what he says and does -- but the unsaid, what is under the words, why do you feel such and such a way -- how is he manipulating your feelings, deliberately causing or forcing/pressuring/coercing you to act, say, not say or be. If his weirdness is too much, or violent, even in little ways/things, let alone big ones (like, if he doesn't share major details, maybe where he goes/who he is with/what he does --which, it sounds like this dude you describe is into -- that is a form of mis-use of you, aka 'abuse', emotional and mental abuse..that can precede physical abuse, look it up, not as uncommon as we'd all like to think)..the cost isn't worth it, the price you pay, your self-esteem/confidence, living in a fog instead of clear peaceful open level-headed understanding, instead of feeling consistently openly loved..asking why, and secretly or openly wondering why, what did you do to cause the unreasonable, him not making sense, going from hot to cold, maybe even suddenly re-appearing aka him being hot again -- answer: he came that way, he is weird, you di not cause it, you are not responsible, for him/his strangeness -- you don't owe him, you are not guilty -- and in fact, he is trouble -- to be avoided. Yes, he might suddenly turn up again -- best to protect you, put up boundaries -- if he talks to your vm or answer machine, don't pick it up. If he texts, remember, a couple of meetings doesn't mean that you know him -- often, what you describe, comes with a twist -- like, he has a wife/partner, or several, used you (sorry, but, pointing out tht, when you have just met a partner, he might be selfish, anything but! a real partner) -- guys like that often have cold-blooded flings, not caring -- can be passionate, but not in the feelings still being there, consistent, reliable way -- std's, wiping out others' bank accounts, eventual physical violence, and/or ongoing abuses, again, not only physical violences -- manipulators, selfishly getting what they want, nothing to do with anyone else. So, to answer your Q's, it doesn't mean a thing -- he's not 'normal', he's not a good one to expect 'normal' or reasonable behavior, thoughtfulness or decency or consistent passionate excitement/caring and loving from. Best to move on, and not to blame yourself, for someone else being weird! Better to relax, take deep cleansing breaths, and smile again -- take a head-clearing walk, and if you see him, cross the street to the other direction...don't invite trouble -- because, a weirdo like that one can also obsess, 'hook' a lady in, into trusting, based on acting, rather than actions supportive -- talk and sex/foreplay, including 'pushing your buttons' that is, if he figures he can soften or butter you up with promises or maybe a red rose with chocolate, he might -- or, he might skip that and just go for messing with any part of you, label it 'love' or 'my partner (word here, wife, girl, etc)', again, either it pleases you enough to get you in the palm of his hand/trusting (blinded by distractions/pushed buttons), and/or because it pleases him: In short, he'll do whatever he damn well pleases, and can be unsteady/unreliable/can and likely does change/is inconsistent, exactly as he has shown (or is now showing) you. Just a sample, small taste, of how awful the nightmare, that replaced your dream (still worth going for, elsewhere, btw -- again -- it is not you, his bad behavior tried to find someone to take advantage of -- anyone), if you were to continue to choose to contact/be around weirdo him. You know, you definitely can find a far better genuine actual boyfriend -- ins
sherice1
2009-10-15 05:41:40 UTC
now this guy might have found another girl, and sad to say but if you had sex with him and now he's acting funny then that might be the issue maybe that's all he wanted, or maybe he's having personal issues his self, i would go to his house unexpected and then ask him since he seem to be avoiding you
?
2009-10-15 05:38:34 UTC
either he just wants to show you off in front of his friends or he's thinking about what to do next with you , like any events. good luck
Toni Ramirez
2009-10-15 05:41:49 UTC
well have you tried to see him?

you never know if something happen to his phone or something like that.

don't think bad ahead of time.

first make sure.



and well if he introduce you as his girl then he probably does like you.
anonymous
2009-10-15 05:46:24 UTC
Have the nerve and ask him. He might still like you or just move on because his seems like a jerk to just ignore you like that.
PriNcEsS LoVe
2009-10-15 08:48:12 UTC
dear i dnt wanna hurt ur feelings...

but i think he has lost the intresst in u......

u will get a betta guy....

u deserve smthing morte than him......

MOVE ON [ I kno its easy to sday n hard to inculc8 ]

bt stilll... u hav no option left.......
anonymous
2009-10-15 05:37:50 UTC
Prolly just checked you out to see how you are
muñekita
2009-10-15 05:38:48 UTC
thats a haard one he probably just wanted to play nothing serious as it looks
Josh
2009-10-15 05:37:56 UTC
It means he thought you were something your not.



Don't worry about it. their are better guys then him.
Kit[ty] Kat
2009-10-15 05:38:06 UTC
It sounds like he lost interest... Sorry =/
anonymous
2009-10-15 05:41:04 UTC
he sounds abit like a playa

you can get better :)
pthornstar08
2009-10-15 05:38:30 UTC
did you put out? if not well theres your problem
anonymous
2009-10-15 05:38:27 UTC
move on,


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