clueless_man
2011-07-17 20:13:19 UTC
She expects me to act like a husband. I must pay for everything when we go out (she probably makes as much money as I do). I must fix stuff around her house, clean her car. I must answer her phone calls anytime of the day/night and listen to her complain for hours. I am not to do activities on my own. She has made it impossible for me to have single girls as friends.
I would not mind most of these impositions. However, she does not show strong commitment to me even after 16 months of dating. For instance, she refuses to list me in Facebook as a relationship (even when her whole family and close friends know me), she often goes out with single man to lunch or dinner by herself (a couple of them under her own admission old flames), she commits to activities like weekend gateways (going as far as getting tickets, hotels) before "inviting" me (it feels like she is telling me I am going even if you are not or oops! I know I should have told you sooner it is a shame you cannot change your work plans). She spends hours on the phone with an ex-boyfriend. She tells me that she used to buy groceries and cook for her old boyfriend every day. She has cook for me two times in 16 months (and btw, I was incredibly grateful).
Am I just a fool? or, is this the right of passage until we get engaged? I really thought that after 16 months she would show more commitment. Is she likely to change if we get engaged or should I expect more of the same?