Do single/childless women lower their standards once they reach their late 20s?

Question

Seriously, I have some guy friends who are in their late 20s who...lets face it...are pretty fat and ugly but have really good hearts and personalities. All throughout their 20s they maybe went on 1-2 dates per year and most were pity dates from co-workers,etc from what they told me. But now that they are in their late 20s, women (childless ones) are all over them. Even women they admit are way out of their league in looks, education, profession, etc. Why is that? BTW, they are not rich. Of the 3 guys I know that are in this boat, only one makes about 35k a year.

Do single/childless women lower their standards once they reach their late 20s

Answer 1

I think they do. I'm not that attractive and I think that's why only older girls were ever attracted to me. When I was 22, I dated a 27 year old and when I was 23, I dated a 30 year old. I'm 24 now and with the same girl that's 7 years older than me. I don't think a girl in her early 20's would ever be interested in me because of their higher standards.

Answer 2

Personally, I would not lower my standards. Late 20's is not old at all. If anything I will up my standards because by your late 20's you should (depending on maturity) be settled into your career and know what you want and expect out of life. I am 28 and pretty well accomplished. The more I accomplish, the more expectations I have. Basically I know what I am bringing into the relation and I would want some body that can either bring the same or more.



As far as money and looks, everyone has different taste. Your buddies may not be lookers to you, but appealing to others. Also money is not everything....just because a person makes a bunch of money does not mean it will become yours when you hook up or he will spend it all on you.



I just think every has different taste and if women are panicking in their late 20's then something is wrong.

Answer 3

Some of us do lower our standards when we reach a certain age, I didn't lower mine until my early 30's I think then i finally figured out looks aren't everything and looked more at the guys personality more then his looks.

I have been with my man for nearly 4 years now, back in my 20's i would have never gave him a chance because he is far from what i was attracted to.

I think it takes some people awhile to figure out what really matters in a partner, and then there are some that never figure it out and they keep going for the wrong kind of person.

But i do believe that when women reach a certain age their standards do change to a certain extent some realize that they have been dating the wrong kind of men, and some just become almost desperate if you will and just "settle" for less then what they have always wanted.

Answer 4

only the desperate and the losers lower their standards.



The ones who are diligent moms know that they now have to add their kids into the equation when searching for a spouse and they need to maintain or improve their standards to protect their children.



what you are talking about: fat/ugly guys with good hearts and personalities is not lowering standards, it's eliminating the superficial and focusing on quality and depth. In a great many cases that is actually raising standards.



lowering standards would be dating the gang banger or drug dealer who's on parole because he has money and a flash car.



lowering standards would be dating the guy who cheats and beats the crap out of you because any man is better than no man.



lowering standards would be dating the hot guy who disrepects you because you have a hot guy and want to show the world how good the two of you look together.

Answer 5

Well I'm 28 years old single with no children, I know some women do feel like they are getting close and become very impatient and just settle for anything, But let me tell you NOT THIS SISTA !! I need someone on my level with no mess. The men I have dated were not on my level and they were still growing up and I did settle one time and man let me tell you it was not good what a bad experience.

Answer 6

No, I haven't lowered my standards. I feel that they are the same. Although I am only 23 years. When you date more, you find out what you really want and that may actually make you raise your standards..

Answer 7

I consider it raising your standards when you get older you pick quality cause you know a nice guy will treat you well good looks start to matter less and less thats why married couples stay together for so long there not attracted to each other anymore they just love each other so it doesn't matter

Answer 8

Hi,

i don't think there is a formula to define women.

also, perhaps you may have some confusion about what it means to lower one's standards...

these men are not 'hotties', but, they 'have really good hearts and personalities'. it would seem that looking for quality instead of arm-candy is not lowering one's standards, but, rather, raising one's standards.

that's all i got

Answer 9

Well, I'm 26 and I feel as if my standards get higher...not lower. But who knows. Maybe those girls are desperate;)

Answer 10

i think that a woman should still respect herself at any ages. respectful men appreciate respectfull women. other wise you get the players as you had become one. you get what you give, so if i was you, i`ll be carefull about that kind of choices. especially if you want to get married. you will received, no, reap what you has sown.

Answer 11

well, to me you should NEVER lower your standards unless your morals change, something like that, u know? but most women DO lower their standards for sure. and maybe they like the guys with the actual hearts because theyve been hurt by guys that dont have ANY heart at all. i know im to tht point. so, i dont know what kind of answer you are looking for but can i please have the best answer bc i am trying to beat my friend at points! so PLEASE!

Answer 12

Well, I don't know why you came and asked this; If it's something you observed, well, okay, whatever. Pssh. Not like you really expected to get an objective answer, right?

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Answer 13

Why are you asking? Are you jealous of them? You sound either extremely arrogant, or extremely jealous. I wouldn't worry about it. Why don't you worry about yourself instead?

Answer 14

depending on the girl.....