Does my boyfriend think I'm cheating?

Question

the other day my boyfriend and I were talking, and we were mentioning how one of my friends was just going to run out and screw some random guy (jokingly, but my friend is making poor life decisions).

This is how the rest of the conversation went;

Boyfriend

but I am far away...

and you are hanging out with another guy at times...

10:32pmMe

i need the power of instant transmission.

i really care about you. and i'd never cheat on you

i promise. =)

Boyfriend

Just do me a favor and break it off if that is ever the case. There is nothing worse than being lied to.

10:34pmMe

i agree

Boyfriend

I would rather receive a call from someone right before the act then find out later it happened differently.

blah... enough about that.

Me

i just want you to know that you mean a lot to me. and i could never even think about doing something like that to you. because i know how awful it feels, and you're really an awesome person. and even though you are kind of far away, i like being with you, and it's no problem. i mean, i know we didn't get to see each other for a few weeks. but like i said. i think you're a really awesome person, and i wouldn't want this if i had thoughts of somebody else.

10:38pmMe

sorry about the long winded response.

Boyfriend

its alright. I feel the same way. You dont have to worry about me either.

What a sentence by the way ms. writer.


Now, keep in mind. He's a few years older than me and he was cheated on in his last relationship, bu so have I. I really care about him and I wouldn't cheat on him. I need to know somebody's perspective.

Answer 1

He's been cheated on in the past. He's reliving that to someone he trusts. This conversation is set in the future, not a comment on the present.



"its alright. I feel the same way. You dont have to worry about me either."

This is the key. He feels the same way as your long sentence. "Either" means he's not worrying about you and you don't need to worry about him. Without that trailing "either", the meaning could be ambiguous, but with it there, the sentence includes an assumption that he doesn't need to worry about you.

Answer 2

i dont think he accusing you. its just more of a if how you feel ever changes and you want someone else let me go first. he just doesnt want to get hurt while you play. and honestly to him no matter how much you say your not going to hurt him there will always be that part of him that questions it. normally the first person who broke your heart promised you a million times that they wouldnt hurt you. then they did so that promise doesnt mean anything the next time because we have heard it all before. the best thing you can do is just keep living the way that you are dont cheat and let him know that hes still the only man for you and youll remind him of that every single day just so he knows nothing has changed...

Answer 3

I think he trusts you but hes having a hard time since his last girlfriend cheated on him so he's on edge. You just have to keep assuring him you love him and if the topic comes up again just keep promising him that you would break up with him if anything like that is about to happen. It's really hard to trust again after you been hurt.

Answer 4

The truth is that anyone WOULD cheat if they could 100% guarantee they would not get caught. Its something obnoxious like 60-70% of married people have cheated.

Answer 5

it crosses his mind every now and again he thinks it's a possibility, but he gives you the benifit of the doubt

Answer 6

i think he thinks your cheating stop talking about other guys when he is around