Do you think I should wait?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for a year.
And I've planned to wait until marriage.
But I've read all the things that could go wrong.
Like divorce, the sex not being satisfying (then being stuck with it) and other things.
I love my boyfriend. And lately I've been debating on whether I should wait. (He doesn't know though.)

I want to wait because I think sex should be saved for that one person. And because I don't want to do it out of lust. I also want to prove to everyone that I can.
I don't want to wait because I love him, and I do want to have it with this person.

But I'm so confused.
I don't want to regret waiting/not waiting when I'm older.
Some advice here?
I'm 16.

Answer 1

You are being a slut if you do. You should be wait for that special person, if you are meant for him you wont get bored. It may be a great expirence then but 10 years from now when you tell your husband that your no longer a virgin, what do you think he'll say to that. the dudes penis can ruin your life.. if you end up pregnant.. what now?? it only takes one time to concieve.. think about the consequences with losing the big V. how do you think youll feel when it does happen.. guys are sick and you wont be the only two who know about it.. guys tell guys who tell guys who tell girls and then the whole school knows.. you get in trouble from school and parents and all of that.. Do yourself a favor and wait.

Answer 2

Don't have a lot of time but I want to encourage you to wait. Be one of the VERY few to walk across the Graduation stage a virgin. There are more things that can go wrong than just the things you listed. Remember that you may not always be with this person even if it feels like it right now. How many people do you know that married the guy they dated when they were your age? I know one and it ended in a divorce. I'm not saying that will happen to you but what if you do break up and then you find someone else in like 2 years that you love even more. It will be even harder to refrain if you give it up now. Stay strong don't give in marriage is the right place to start a sexual relationship. It's nice that you are mature enough to think it through and ask for advice.

Answer 3

When you AND the boy wait, it shows you have respect for each other.

That you do not stoop to peer pressure. You are your own person.

Loving him has nothing to do with waiting. It is lust no matter what you think. As long as he is not pressuring you for sex, he is proud of the fact that you want to wait.

How can you feel regret for saving yourself for that one person?

Not being satisfied with sex the first fifty times is why you can communicate what you want and how you want it with that special person without having to feel stupid or embarrassed. That is how you become intimate with each other. Knowing right off the bat does nothing for that intimacy. You both must be able to talk and tell each other everything you like and do not like, not only in sex, but every day life together. When you grow together, your love should grow stronger.



Another thing about sex before marriage is what if something happens to him like he finds another girl. Now you feel that you have been taken advantage of and you need to have sex with the next guy so he will not leave you. Crazy things run through your mind. It is just easier and less complicated to wait.

Answer 4

If it's love he will have no problem with you waiting and if he does have a problem with it he's not the one.

If you want to wait, then wait! Don't go against your morals because you've heard stories of stuff that COULD happen. I always tell people if they have any doubt in their mind don't do it. You're virginity is not a t-shirt you decide you don't like after buying it. You can't get it back, there are no do overs. Sex is a serious thing and I personally believe it should be saved for someone who you really love and I completely respect you for wanting to wait until you're married! So the fact that you are having doubts about sleeping with him makes me say no, wait.



Hope this helps :)

Answer 5

Definitely wait. It will hurt more to regret not having sex than to regret having sex. A lot of guys appreciate a girl who waits, if this guy doesn't, seriously rethink why you want to give yourself to him.

Trust me, if the sex is that bad once you get married, take a class or something, but the threat of bad marital sex is not worth the practice.

Answer 6

My friend...I say wait.



Trust me when I say you will regret NOT waiting more than you would ever regret waiting. If you have sex with your boyfriend and THEN things don't work out, I think it will hurt a lot more than waiting and realizing it isn't as fun as you thought it would be.



I'm 17, and I'm totally waiting. :) I don't see any reason to have it right now. I've got more important stuff to do, and it's the safe way to go.



~Jen

Answer 7

If you think you are ready and you definately want to do it, go for it! I'm sixteen, and I had sex when I was 15, and I am pregnant right now. It feels really nice and comfortable.



But if you think you are not ready and you must wait, don't. It's a bad choice.



If your parents say no, say to them, hey you had sex, why can't I?



Before you choose if you should or not talk about it with you bf!!!!!!!!!!!



Hope you make the best choice!!!

Answer 8

I think you should wait. You have your whole life for that kinda stuff and you can never know what lies ahead of you relationship wise. "Like divorce, the sex not being satisfying (then being stuck with it) and other things." Don't worry about marriage now, just focus on the present. If a guy loves you, he will be willing to wait along with you. answer mine? https://answersrip.com/question/index?qid=20090503143034AAQPM3z

Answer 9

You are too young! Do yuo really want to get pregnate and have a baby now??? If you really love himm than you will weight. ANds if he is your true love and you get married than there would be no prolbem with having it. If he loves you and you love him than you wont get bord. But what if you break up than arent you going to regret doing it with your ex boyfriend!!! Waiting is not going to hurt you at all if anything it will help! God wants you to wait so just wait you have your whole life to mess up so why have this be it!

Answer 10

Wait! Nothing can go wrong if you wait. If your boyfriend loves you he'll understand, my boyfriend certainly does. He made the mistake by not waiting and he got hurt. The sex will be much better if you wait it out so don't worry about him not being satisfied. Trust me and good luck!:)

Answer 11

wait.



your body is a sacred vessel and you should save yourself for marriage for that one person who it is meant to share in pleasure with.



i'm 16 too so you can't say im some boring old parent telling you how to live your life. :) but honestly, the chance you are going to spend the rest of your life with your high school boyfriend is slim to none.



and about it "not being satisfying," i believe that if you have married someone who you are passionate about and love very much, it is going to be very satisfying and romantic.



keep up the self respect you obviously already have!:)

Answer 12

WAIT........ do you want to be a skank???? if you have these thoughts now, then you need to wait.. why would a man wanna buy the cow, when he can get the milk free... wait, unless you think you can live w/ your decision.. if you become pregnant, YOU take care of the baby.. not your mommy and daddy... i think you'd be better off waiting... at least you asked though.. im so glad you're not one of those hoochies, who have 3 kids, and none of them have the same daddy... wait !!! dont be cheap and easy !!!!!

Answer 13

If you were to wait until marriage then you won't have any emotional baggage and won't know to compare your husband with any one else! It takes time and trust to build up a great sex life once you are married and I for one believe you will have a more satisfactory sex life if you saved yourself for marriage and your future husband did the same. However, my view isn't the popular one anymore.

Answer 14

just wait. you dont want to have to worry about giving yourself to someone you though was the one but then ended up not. you should save it for when you get married and you are with the love of your life. just wait. it will be more satisfying since i guess you have been starved form it for so many years. lol. weird way of putting it, but i think it makes sense.

Answer 15

your 16... do you honestly think you love him and that you are going to marry him and be with him for the rest of your life. If the answer is yes... go ahead. If the answer is no... don't. Also if you how told yourself not to... I think you should stick to your promise to yourself. Plus if you break up, you would have lost it and you will feel horrible about breaking your promise to yourself. There are lots of boys out there... I personally think you should save it

Answer 16

You need to WAIT!! You're very young, and chances are, this guy may not be the one, but he very well could be. You don't know that. Wait for marriage so that you know he's the love of your life.

Answer 17

Please wait. you'll feel much better when you do. And the whole thing about the sex might not be satisfying thats selfish lies the media puts out. It's not about you it's about the other person and you get good at it together.

Answer 18

hun your still very young if u loose it right away you will regret it even if u will still love him waite it out get married then do it when ppl say sex is amazing they are not kidding but your youth is even more amazing

because once you loose it you can never get it back just waite be patient and you will get allot out of it =)

Answer 19

If you're 16 you should wait regardless. Wait until college at least, you probably won't be getting married to this guy.

Answer 20

I would say to wait, your first time should be special, not a boyfriend you have only dated for one year. But you control when your first time is, no one can tell you when

Answer 21

Sex will be good no matter what if your Truly love the person! and if you want to wait then wait hun. I wish I would have!

Answer 22

Sorry to break it to you , but...16 year old guys arent into making commitments . the only thing they look for is sex....their a bag of hormones that's all ....so i would say wait...

Answer 23

have sex when you feel ready... and when u want it if u want to wait till marriage wait ... if u wait then when u have sex when ur married u wont have anyone to compare it too so u probley will think its good lol :)

Answer 24

WAIT WAIT WAIT WAIT and WWWAAAAAIIIITTTTT guys ur age dont appreciate it wait until u like 21 or marriage ok.... be strong DO WHAT UUU THINK IS RIGHT AND BESR FOR YOU not for the other person ok

Answer 25

all he wants is your virginity so close your leg because i lost my virginity once i opened my leg and now I'm pregnant! **** that i want to marry you bullshit that is all talk so he can just have sex with you be with you for 1 more year get board of your pussy and look for another dont be dumb!

Answer 26

i have the same proble i think it should wait till marriage but do what you think is the right thing to do!! do you think your ready? do you think u will regret it? if u think your ready and wont regret it then go for it! i myself think u should wait hough it will be better and more romantic on your wedding day!

Answer 27

wait till about 17 or 18, when you feel comfotable x

Answer 28

Defiantly wait!

Answer 29

your only 16 so wait if you want..just remember that those who pressure you are just jealous because you are stronger willed than they ever will be!!!.

also wtf are you doing worrying about engaged at 16?

live a little!!

Answer 30

wait if you do it outside of marriage you will have bigger problems like STD's

Answer 31

i wouldn't wait, but it would be wierd if i did, since i have a sex problem

Answer 32

wait!



why would you divorce over sex??



Answer mine please



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Answer 33

WAIT!!!

Answer 34

PLEASE wait!!!! you'll be happy you did.