Guy problem, please help Girls!!!?

Question

I met this guy not to long ago, we went on our first date Tuesday. Now he thinks we are a couple of something, he keeps calling me babe and stuff, which I don't really mind because I like the guy, my only problem is that he might be getting in the way of my studies for college. Also the fact that I am leaving at the end of September to go away to college. How do I tell him I just want to be friends? I have been avoiding his phones calls all day, I don't want to hurt him, because I do like him, but I am not ready to throw away my future for a guy. Girls please help me!

Answer 1

Girl, good for you! Finally a lady with her head on her shoulders and her priorities straight.



You gotta be honest. Avoiding him is not the way to do it. Tell him that you like him but are leaving for college and don't want to get too serious. That you just want to enjoy your summer. You can still hang out, but just not bf/ gf.



He shouldn't be too bummed after one date.

Answer 2

That depends whether or not he's worth the attempt to compromise.



If he's a great guy, you could make an attempt to try to balance both. It may very well work out in your favor.



If you're THAT worried about your education, explain to him your dilemma. Hopefully, he'll be understanding and wait a while, or at least maintain a friendship. If he's that big of an a** and tells you off, then that's not a guy you want around anyway.



In either case, avoidance is not the answer. This makes him think that he's doing something wrong, and may mess with his feelings or self-esteem. You run the risk of ruining what may be a good relationship or even a decent friendship.



Best of luck to you! ^_^

Answer 3

Your confused.....go out with him/ push him away...being it's the first time you have had even somewhat a relationship;thats where your focus is.Your future is secured with school but have feelings you haven't dealt with before..

First mistake was letting him call you babe....sounded good and at first must have been flattering....will there be a second mistake?....of course...we all make them....just tell him your leaving....no strings attached to the 2 of you...make no promises...and thank him for the friendship shared...

Do not date a guy unless you are ready for his problems....guys have great attributes...handsome and whatnot....but learn what pitfalls the guy has before making any future decisions....don't dump him cause you like him....dump him because he has bad manners....i.e....calling you babe when you really don't know him

Answer 4

I too have been dating a guy for over a month and he calls me babe and stuff too. But we aren't going out. Make sure you tell him that he needs to be aware that you are leaving to college. And unfortuntely it's you can't have a serious relationship. My ex asked me out around June years ago, but as soon as college started he moved an 1 hr away. But two months after living on the dorms changed us being together. He called me and had a talk with me. He simply said that he couldn't have a serious relationship right now because of school. which was fine. We weren't in love or anything but liked eachother a lot. We hung out a few times after that and that was that. Break it to him gently.

Answer 5

here's what u do:



u go to college, and u tell him u are getting a new cell phone, and u do. U giv him ur new cell phone's number. Then u call him a couple of times to make sure that he knos u use that phone. After u had several talks with him, go cancel the phone service. He will probably think u still use that phone, so he tries to call u, but it doesn't work! Now u have lost contact with him.

Answer 6

Next time you do take his call, let him know whether you had a good time on your date or not, then use that to ease into the fact that you don't want a two-month relationship. Have a good time, maybe sometimes have a good time together, but if he's ready to stay with you forever after only one date, the guy's a bit too desperate to keep around, even as a friend.



You have to let him know you've two speeds this summer: "Slow," or "Off."

Answer 7

It is pretty scary if he is pursuing you that much after one date! I would just maybe tell him you are pretty tied up until you go off to school and that you had a good time but not really interested in a relationship. If he doesn't get the hint, I would seriously tell him there is a law against stalking!!! Don't avoid him as that is the coward way out, be honest, then if he cannot handle it you need to figure out how to get your message across to him.

Answer 8

I'm a guy, but I hope this is helpful.



First step. Tell him that you are flattered, honored that he's attracted to you, but you are going off to college, and have to focus on that. He deserves a girl who can spend time with him, not someone who is away.



He will probably persist. Then...



Second step: You seem to want to have me as a girlfriend even though I'm not ready or able to have a relationship right now. That's really strange, and makes me worried about you.



The problem is that if he is not listening to you, that's a problem, even if he seems like a nice guy.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

tell him ur not ready to throw away ur future for a guy. well ask urself this dear, can it be a long distant relationship? if not then tell him u are getting ready for college and u can't afford any major distractions so can u just be friends for now

Answer 11

talk to him in a very decent way instead ov unattendin his coll...there is no point to ignore him like that if u like him if he likes u it is not like throwin away ur future but if u think he is not a cool one fo u and ur too good for him talk to him in a proper way ...and tell him see i used to be so ok with u becos u used to be ma friend now every thing has changed....but we can not make it becos first of ol am leavin secondly ma mind is with ma study i can not think about ne thing else ..but i dont mean to say ur not good u are so cute n cool n.....bla bala and ......sure he would understand

Answer 12

tell him you want to take your relationship slower that you do like him but that you want to slow down a bit don't avoid his calls it'll give him the wrong impression just say that you want to focus mainly on wht wil help you in the future right now

Answer 13

i know its hard but you need to tell him the truth... and tell him soon.



he is going way too fast and you are getting uncomfortable... plus, you are going away soon and you need him to know so that he wont be surprised by that fact later on... and most importantly be hurt.



tell him you really like him, but things will change in the near future, and he needs to be prepared for that. plus, nobody wants a person that is too clingy!

Answer 14

Tell him that you really like him but you want things to go a little more slow because your career is being affected but you still like him though.

Answer 15

well, don't do it on the phone, for one. tell him when you think the time is right, like when you go out. tell him what you have planned for your future and ask him if he is willing to wait and still love you while you study

Answer 16

tell him ur going to college soon and u dont wanna be committed to anyone right now and that u like him and all and if he wants to see u for now then its ok

Answer 17

I think maybe you should just try talking to him and telling him stairght but if he doesn't get it then if you hooked up with another guy then it really should be too bad cause you tryed

Answer 18

JUST TELL HIM THAT YOU'RE GOING AWAY TO RELAX THAT YOU GUYS COULD KEEP SEING EACH OTHER ONCE IN A WHILE UNTIL YOU LEAVE FOR COLLEGE AND PLEASE DO NOT STOP STUDYING FOR A GUY- BE A SMART GIRL AND GO TO COLLEGE

Answer 19

jsut see how it all goes, and by the beginning of september if you're still together with them....then make a decision otherwise just let him know ur set on ur ways!

Answer 20

wait so are you a guy or a girl cause if your a girl i know how to help you.just tell him i'm sorryi'm not ready to date yet.i truly am sorry.maybe we can be really good friends

Answer 21

Tell him!! if you really like him, dont ignore him!! let him know how you feel!! it will okay!! there are more guys out there!! and if he's willing to wait then its up to you!!

Answer 22

Just tell him that your not ready for a relationship just yet, if he cares he would wait and not get mad..

Answer 23

U ANSWERED UR OWN QUESTION. TELL HIM THAT U WANT TO TAKE THINGS SLOW AND DONT WANT TO HURT UR ACADEMIC FUTURE RIGHT NOW

Answer 24

if he cares he'll be friends andif he's ready when you are that'll be a chance but do tell him other wise he'll just geta very pissed that youor ignoring him

Answer 25

tell him. if he is a really great guy and he really loves & cares about you he will understand

Answer 26

i think you should tell him striat out how you feel he is a guy im sure he can take it

Answer 27

tell him exactally what u wrote.. the truth

Answer 28

NOTHING MORE TO SAY..... YOU SHOULD JUST TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL.