still a virgin, or did i go too far?

Question

I'm tryin to wait till marriage to have sex (i'm in early 20's) but my (now ex) boyfriend used to finger me...and he thinks it's no different than sticking "somethin else" in there...but I still didn't actually have sex. By lettin him finger me does that mean i'm not still a virgin???

Answer 1

I think your still a virgin, but if you want to wait till marriage you better get married soon cause your getting pretty close to stepping over that line.

Answer 2

The only way you can not be one is to actually have intercoursel yor hymen may be torn by the penetration of the finger but that doesn't mean you are not a virgin since that can happen by exercise, exertion, sports, or other factors. You can look up what the hymen is on the internet anywhwere. Yep, as long as you didn't actually do the dang thang, so to speak, you are still a virgin. It has nothing to do with if you had an orgasm or not.

Answer 3

it's what you believe is too far. If having sex is your thinking of not being a virgin then don't have sex. Some other people think that buy getting fingered or having oral sex is a way not to be a virgin. It's up to you to decide but in my point of view you are still a virgin

Answer 4

Virginity can sometimes be measured by ones own definition. The point is that you are pure when you get married, un touched. To get fingered is FAR from what it's like to actually have sex, although you can climax. Don't let anyone convince you that you might as well do it. Stay strong, I admire you for being so determined. But getting fingered is probably a nice safe substitute for the real thing. Don't worry about it.

Answer 5

It depends on who you are. Someone who is very religious might say no, you are not. But I think the majority of the population would say that until you have intercourse you are a virgin.



I would personally say that the risks associated with being fingered(infection, injury) are not equal to the risks of sex (HIV, other STDs, pregnancy). The level of intimacy definitely increases with sex as well. Therefore I would put fingering in a "foreplay" category rather than sex.

Answer 6

True, what you did is considered sexual in nature but the actual act of sex is defined by intercourse. The exchange of bodily fluids. Unless he has "magic fingers" I think it's safe to say you are still a virgin. Good for you trying to wait...that takes a lot of will power.

Answer 7

Your ex-boyfriend is not a hypocrite and that's why he says it's no different from sex... Any sexual act, sexual thought or physical manifestation of sexual desire takes away your virginity and romantic is different from sexual. If you tell your future husband that your a virgin then you are a liar simple as that. The truth is very unpopular these days.

Answer 8

None of these morons knows what they're talking about, except the one who told you that you're a virgin until your hymen is broken. It can happen from a finger or a fall on a bicycle; but as long as it's intact, you are still technically a virgin.

Answer 9

This is really a matter of opinion, I don't think there's any clear definition of a virgin, but without a doubt your bf is trying to get laid by saying that, which I mean is understandable cuz all we guys care about is sex, but I'm a christian and if you really want to wait you should, but in the mean time I highly suggest some oral on both parts cuz you can't keep us guys waiting forever.

Answer 10

No, you are still a virgin.

The ONLY thing that would make you loose you virginity is if you had sexual intercourse meaning a males penis has to be inside you. Nothing about fingers!

Sooooooooooo all in all... You're a virgin!



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Answer 11

Well your still a virgin maybe not a virgin to the finger but you are a virgin

Answer 12

I'd say you're still a virgin.

Since it's not the real act itself, i mean if my girlfriend "jacked me off" and i was a virgin, i wouldn't say that i lost my virginity to her until we actually did the real thing.



So, yes you are still a virgin.

Answer 13

You're a virgin until you have sex - him entering you with his penis. Technically speaking.



However, i think if you're trying to remain a virgin until marriage for yourself, then its up to you whether you think it went too far.



I'd say this 'fingering' is just foreplay.

Answer 14

they say not being a virgin is when the hymen breaks, but that can break from vigerous fingering, a serious fall, or even horseback riding. i'd say when you've been penitrated for the first time with "something else" is when you've lost you virginity. dont worry hun. you're still pure. ;)

Answer 15

u are a virgin, losing ur virginity is when that "something else" goes in there.



ur ex boyfriend is trying to get at u and it seems it is working. do not listen to him. u are still a virgin

Answer 16

Well the definintion of a virgin is "A person who has not experienced sexual intercourse".

So yes I do believe you are still considered a virgin.

Answer 17

No. He has to be in you to lose your virginity. Not his fingers. Many people have asked these kind of questions. why don't you look at the answers of those

Answer 18

No, you are still a virgin until an actual man's genitalia penetrates that area.

Answer 19

you are still one. but stop letting men put a finger in that sacred place. if you want to wait until marriage than wait. stop fooling around like that.

Answer 20

yes you are still a virgin and waiting till you are older is a wise thing to do. I applaud your decision.

Answer 21

Yes it could be that you are not still a virgin cause the Hymen is no longer closing the vagina

Answer 22

Yes you are still a virgin.

Answer 23

Until the penie meets the vag, there is no intercourse so you are still a virgin.

Answer 24

You're still a virgin.

Answer 25

Well sex and foreplay are two different matters, I would say no, but others may disagree.

Answer 26

You're still a virgin until a penis enters your vagina. your worry is a common misconception... but stop worrying :) x

Answer 27

You're a virgin until you have sex.

Answer 28

well technically if you didnt break the hymen youre still a virgin.

if you did, technically you're not.

but i would say socially, you're still a virgin

Answer 29

nope ur still a virgin

Answer 30

no your still a virgin. anytime a penis comes in to play then your not.

Answer 31

I wouldn't call you a virgin if you let him finger you... It's a sexual act.

Answer 32

fingering is considered a sex act, so i would say you went to far

Answer 33

Yeahh,

Answer 34

youre still a virgin. you would only not be a virgin if he stuck his penis in you.

Answer 35

dont listen to him i'm sure his finger is not that big I wouldn't worry but if you want to know for sure then go see a doctor!!

Answer 36

your def. not 20, you wouldnt be asking this.. YES YOUR A VIRGIN STILL

Answer 37

you still are. sex can get you pregnant, fingering can't.

Answer 38

Virginity is a tricky thing. If you feel like you're still a virgin, you are. It's that simple.

Answer 39

If he didn't put his penis in you, then your still a virgin, don't worry:)

Answer 40

Did you bleed? Did he break the hymen? Did it hurt?

If none of those things happened then you are a virgin.

Answer 41

no ur still a virgin

Answer 42

Just as long as he didn't pop yo cherry!

Answer 43

You still are. You don't lose your virginity until you have sexual intercourse with someone.

Answer 44

If your hymen is still intact, you're still a virgin.

Answer 45

i think you are still a virgin.....until actual intercourse occurs!

Answer 46

until a penis is in the vagina, you are a virgin

i hope you know how you get pregnant

Answer 47

You are still a virgin.



Worry not.

Answer 48

Yes, you are still a virgin............

Answer 49

tainted

Answer 50

nope youre not...sorry....

if youre wanting to stay pure til u get married then quit taking chances...

Answer 51

Ask your God?