Why doesn't PLENTY OF FISH work for me?

Question

I make a REAL effort on the online dating site PLENTY OF FISH. But no matter how much I read women's profiles, how much thought I put into my messages, how much I try women ignore me. Of the few that would message me they lose interest after a few messages.

Is it me?
Is it because I'm 5'6"?

What am I doing wrong?

Answer 1

ask them, just say hey i wanted to know what turned you off from pursuing a relationship with me, just for Future endeavors

Answer 2

You're not doing anything wrong. You're just being you which is exactly what you should do. Don't change yourself to attract people because how long can you keep that fake image up? Not only that, would you really want to be with someone who wouldn't like you for the real you? My advice, just be yourself at all times and you'll attract a lady who wouldn't want you any other way! And that's how it should be.

Answer 3

Your friend is right. There are plenty more fish in the sea. But they school in packs so its hard to tell who's available... and some are sharks so be careful. And few others are real Oysters. Fight for the pearl, man. (the beauty within is what i was going for but it sunded dirty when i read it back to myself) but of course I decided to leave it. I'm being supportive of your maleness.

Answer 4

Things to consider...

1. Make sure you keep your first message short and sweet. Too much can be a turn off. Humor can be a nice way to break the ice...no cheesy pick up lines though.

2. Try to meet girls that are close to your height and age.

3. Make sure your username does not scream jerk. For example...usernames like 69alldaway, bigslong....you would not believe how many guys choose usernames that can turn a girl off at first glance.

4. Do not take it personally if a woman does not respond...there could be many reasons besides you that she is silent. She may have just met someone and is interested in getting to know him but not ready to take her profile down yet. So keep that in mind.

Hang in there...it will happen. ;-)

Answer 5

Yep, it's definitely because you're 5'6".



Girls care so much about height. That's just how it is. I'm about 5'11" and change (I say I'm 6'0" like I am in shoes obviously) and even I get slighted by taller guys who aren't that great otherwise. It's crazy out there.



Look at all the guys on there who are average height or taller who are immediate options for them. Dating sites are not good for short guys. You can't really do much on your profile to compensate.



It's really really hard for short guys period, but you're not making it easier on Plenty of Fish (i'd say 2/3 of the girls on plenty of fish are really tall girls looking for really tall guys anyway).



I think the best thing for short guys to do is go for Asian girls and Latinas. They have way different height standards. Maybe they have online dating sites for Asians and Latinas you can sign up for (it won't matter if you're not).

Answer 6

Grow some balls screw girls, only reason you should be on POF is to make fun of how pathetic they are for throwing themselves all over the internet to get a man. its sad rule one of being a man, you don't need a woman their the weak ones that need a man.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

nothing that site sucks! I deleted my profile for the same reason last month. No one messaged me and no responded to my messages. Kind of bittersweet that I know I am not the only one

Answer 9

Briar, I'm a dating coach and I actually just published a book a few days ago about the best possible way to find success on Plenty of Fish!! So good news, I've got the answer for you...



NOTHING TO DO WITH HEIGHT. The issue is that you're taking it seriously. I can absolutely guarantee that it's the issue because I'm also a dating coach and I've seen guys fail on this hundreds of times in a row. As soon as they start using my tips, they start having success.



Women will tell you to be yourself, but these aren't the kind of men they're attracted to. If they were, you'd be on a date right now and not reading my response to your question.



1) You need to be interesting, smart, funny, and most of all mysterious. If a woman reads your profile and learns everything about you, she won't have any questions for you. A woman needs to read your profile and think internally "Wow, very interesting. Who IS this guy? I've got to send him a message and ask a few questions." (This is a rare occasion though. YOU will be initiating most of the communication. See #3)



2) Your pictures need to be unbelievable. No matter how many times our teachers tell us not to judge a book by its cover, we do it constantly and habitually. Why? Because it might not be fair but it's the quickest way to understand what you're looking at. Go through your hundreds of photos, find the best 30 pictures and ask female friends to narrow down the top 3 or 4. Use these pictures even if YOU don't like them.



3) Tease women. They love it. They're addicted to it. Message a girl and say "wow nice pics. did a monkey take them?" or "god your so cute, i wish you were my type." If they ask what you meant by that, the best response is always "i dunno [and jump into a new topic]" It's mysterious and they love it.



When it comes time to start dating any of these women in person, you're still going to be yourself - and they'll love you. But you've gotta get them interested first. Think of your profile like an awesome TV commercial for a food that nobody would EVER consider tasting until the commercial got them interested. Anyway these tips have barely scratched the surface but should get you heading in the right direction!

Answer 10

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