Question:
Am I being used by him?
Maddie
2009-10-12 11:18:45 UTC
This is a long story but i'll try and shorten it up...
This boy and I met last year and sort of jumped into things pretty fast we met one day and were hanging out the next week. We would hang out all the time alone and we would have so much fun together. Then I got a different boyfriend because I felt like he didn't like me the way I liked him, a few months later when I broke up with that boyfriend I had it was because I felt like I wasn't being fair to him because I was always thinking of the other boy. Shortly after we broke up the other boy started dating this other girl. While they were together he would do flirty things to me at school ... I ended up telling him to stop because he had a girlfriend and I was taking it the wrong way. I told him i like him and he said it was too late, that he liked me before he and his girlfriend were together. We stopped talking and a couple months later started talking again, he would say things were rocky between he and his girlfriend and that he wanted to hang out we never hung out then but kept in touch. His girlfriend was going away to college and broke up with him. A little over a week later we hung out nothing really happened then but then about another week later we hung out again we had been talking about having sex for awhile and we decided to do it.. it was my first time and he was so nice about it and made me feel totally comfortable. We kept talking and hanging out but nothing else would happen between us. Then we started hanging out more and more and we ended up having sex again when we see each other in school he hugs me and stuff like that so i don't think he's embarrassed about it like i thought he was. It's been about 2 or 3 months since we started hanging out again and he hasn't asked me out or anything yet... is he using me?
Eight answers:
g
2009-10-12 11:23:41 UTC
Why should he ask you out - sounds like he has things exactly like he wants them to be. He gets to hang out and have sex with you and nothing more is expected of him. If you make other plans with other people and are not always available for him, he'd have to plan to see you - see how that works?
Linds
2009-10-14 01:57:23 UTC
It sounds like he is interested, but if I were you, I would ask him how he feels about you.



OR ask him out on an actual date. Don't have sex, just go out on a date and see if he wants to start things over with you and date again.



But if you just give him the physical side of a relationship he doesn't have to give you the emotional side. Not if it's just the sex he wants. Make sure you know where he stands before you two have sex again.
?
2009-10-14 01:58:57 UTC
You should ask him out, because sleeping with a guy and not dating him at the time creates a ton of drama and other guys get the wrong idea. Besides it sounds like you 2 are made for each other.
Runwaystatus
2009-10-12 18:28:20 UTC
i dont know how much this would help..but im a female player...just being honest...i know how to be faithful..but girls and guys arent much different when it comes to the game. but girls do play it better...i promise you that he is using you...and hes still in the player stage...no guy is just going to settle down, just becuz he took ur virginity..thats what he wanted...guys are like that, and so are girls...to him you are "fresh meat"...guys thrive off that ****..they want you to want them so bad, and they know alot of girls will follow them around...he may give you hugs but behind your back hes talking to his guy friends about how he tapped that..i bet money on that...its happend to me, but then i got smarter...now i tend to think like a guy...and can put two and two together...just be safe if you really just wanna have sex with him, but you can do better than that...he knows what hes doing, your just someone that there, that he knows he cant catch anything from..this is going to sound really wrong, but your tight and fresh..thats what guys want...its gross i know...but just take that lil advice from me...if you need help on anything else, just let me know. ill tell you whatever you needa know. guys are the easiest thing to figure out. dont let him fool you hun. good luck:)
Tyler
2009-10-12 20:31:53 UTC
uuuhhh...duuhh..



of course he is using you, he just wants the esx so he is nice to you..



aaand he doesnt ask you out cuz now he gets booty call and doesnt have to deal with the responsibility of having a girlfriend
?
2009-10-12 20:30:42 UTC
im a guy and i think hes using u. with u hes prolly sayin i luv u n all that stuff but with his friends hes sayin i dont. simple as that. hes usin u. or jus hav a straight up talk with him. thatll help.
2009-10-12 18:28:21 UTC
Yes. Girl, you deserve someone, SOOOO much better. Good luck :)
Sweet Venom
2009-10-12 18:23:11 UTC
Yup. He doesn't have to be with you to get sex now.


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