Why don't girls like 'Nice Guys'?

Question

I want a few extra perspectives on something that's been bothering me for a while.

Let's face it - girls seem to adhere to a horrendously bizarre paradox. Think about the amount of times you must have heard a girl say, "Why aren't there any 'Nice Guys' around?"

The truth is, the said girl has probably encountered endless amounts of 'Nice Guys' willing to meet the expectations of what the girl wants in a long-lasting relationship. There's a problem though: the girl never seems to have any sort of attraction to the 'Nice Guy', despite how obvious it is that he is the best option for her.

However, girls don't opt for a lifetime of abstinence. No, no, no...

They seem, however, to fall victim to being attracted to what is commonly know as a 'Jerk'. Let's simplify this: a generally uncultured, uncivilised, unsophisticated, unintelligent, impolite, spoilt, inarticulate, misogynistic waste of blood and organs. But hey, he's popular. Or he's a got a car.

Somebody explain this to me. Please.

Answer 1

Rob... calm yourself. It's really very simple.



Due to centuries of 'socialisation' (and all that entails)... the modern woman likes to have her cake and eat it too. Much in the same way as men always have done.



Essentially... women like two types of men. One for fun... one for security. The first is expected to have character (behave like an idiot), have money (be a minor criminal)... and take her places (to pick up the protection money).



The second is expected to be reliable (make her pregnant at the first attempt), trustworthy (let her look after the money)... and boring (provide things like houses, furniture, holidays and food).



At 18 most girls are only interested in the first type, but as the years roll on... their moods, organs and general outlook becomes more open to the idea of the second type. Then one day, they see the poor sod innocently grazing in a pub and nab him! Usually... he doen't see it coming. As Peter Cook said it... "She blew in through the window, one thing lead to her mother.... and we were married within the hour!"



So... either be patient... or go and put a down payment on that customised Nissan Micra right now!!!

Answer 2

Ummm... nicely it relies upon on how useful or how undesirable to be straightforward. Like i'd under no circumstances flow out with a guy who grow to be 'undesirable' because he did drugs or smoked. yet i does not flow out with a 'useful' guy who were given As in all his checks and did not understand the thanks to have exciting. So i am going to flow with 'undesirable', inspite of the undeniable fact that it will be so romantic if he grow to be truly not straightforward, yet grow to be truly sweet with me and does not enable each person damage me. it really is the most romantic. ;-) Capaz De Todo xxx???xxx

Answer 3

women today have lost it,wrong is right and right is wrong,I don't get it.they want you to ware your pants hanging off your ***,dreads on your head and the smell of weed all over you,also call them out of their names and act all hard,to them that's manly and so exciting.whatever you do don't be good to them and threat the like a real man is suppose to,to them that weak and not exciting.



remember



so called bad boy=little boy that talks trash and run when confronted,pants hanging off their asses and women think all this is so manly and exciting.



nice guy=responsible man,does the right thing tries to stay out of trouble rather then look for it,women blame the nice guy for them going after the wrong guy,they say well if the nice guy wasn't boring or if he took risks I wouldn't choose the bad boy,hmm,so it's boring for a man to be responsible,In short it's not exciting for a man to act like a man?to women this man is boring,weak and clingy,so they run after the so called bad boy and wonder why they always get hurt,go figure.

Source(s):

women kill me with that nice guys don't make a move bs,is that the best lie you can come up with?

Answer 4

The second answer is very true for me as well. Ive known plenty of nice guys who never said zip about who they were interested in. We want nice guys who are assertive and take initiative but not aggressive! Be yourself and you're fine :)

Answer 5

Yeah immature or ignorant girls but not all girls!



I wish for nothing more to meet a gentleman, who is assertive, but not aggressive!



I would just want him to be his self with me flaws ansd all - become my best friend and lover in one!



Trouble is, nice guys don't express their affections which leaves me confused and then I think he is playing me - so best advice is to communicate your desires and feelings and then it would make things a lot easier and no misunderstandings..........

Answer 6

some girls just like having the popular boyfriend, and becoming popular. I like guys that are more shy or have a nicer attitude, not all girls are like that. unfortunately most are though

Answer 7

I would say these so called jerks are no more misogynistic than a bitter entitled loser who thinks he knows what is best for a woman. You aren't a nice guy, and you have no respect for women. You deserve to be alone.

Answer 8

Read this: http://geekfeminism.wikia.com/wiki/Nice_guy_syndrome