Would you want to date somebody who's self-conscious?

Question

I'm a 17 year old brunette with blue eyes, slightly tall, and average weight. I think I look kind of like a less attractive version of this:
http://www.marieclaire.com/cm/marieclaire/images/Yy/rb-long-hair-1-0809-lgn.jpg

I'm very shy and quiet, I only have a few close friends, and it's just with select people, not a posse or anything - mostly I just stick with my best friend, who's been close with me since elementary and she's as quiet as me, if not more. So yeah, I'm pretty reserved, and I don't really start conversations with people very often. I'm not much of a party-goer, so typically my Saturday nights are spent reading short stories and daydreaming. People tell me I lack confidence - it really depends on what mood I'm in. But I'm not depressed... nor am I really happy, my mood changes a lot, but not violently and I don't show a ton of emotion. I get good grades (lowest mark is 81%) but that's only because I do what I have to. I try my best to be nice to people.

I feel really insecure about my style. I dress conservatively, not too much colour, no cleavage, less skin. I usually just wear jeans and a T. But sometimes I dress up for no reason. I occasionally wear outfits like a red sweater, black skirt, nude hose, and black heels; or a black sweater dress with nude hose and heels. Yeah, I wear hose; I don't like to show too much skin. But they're not shiny hose - generally they're semi-sheer, a little thick, and have a reinforced toe. They look like this unworn: http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/0/0b/Pile_of_pantyhose.jpg
Though sometimes on really cold days, instead of hose I'll wear a bodystocking (pantyhose that go up to the neck, with sleeves): http://www.xyfww.com/11WZ/773B.JPG
I wear hosiery without panties; it just feels too bulky below.
I prefer heels over flats; they just look nicer, in my opinion.
I'm self-conscious of my toes, so I rarely wear open toe shoes. In warm weather I wear these: http://www.shoe-shop.com/content/ebiz/shoeshop/invt/sch170908/sch170908_Black_l.jpg
I like to curl my hair sometimes, when I feel like it.

There've been guys who liked me, despite the fact that I never flirt. I've caught guys staring, some have constantly tried to talk to me (I'm polite and always reply). One blushed every time I went near him (he's sweet, but came on strongly), and I've had guys at tables saying things like "yo, check out the rack on her!" I hate when guys do that (it's happened at least five times) - I want to be nire than just a pair of boobs. I've been asked out a lot, but I've never dated (I tried to be tactful when refusing, though). I just wasn't ready yet; now I feel like I am. But ironically, lately not as many guys have been asking me out, so I'm worried I've created some reputation about myself; I'm worried they think I'm stuck up, but it may all be in my head. I don't know. Does my personality sound dateable?

Answer 1

Jesus H....

Who is gonna read all that.

Answer 2

usually i suppose scars are horny. I just like the scar on harry potter's head. It's sooo badasss. Just due to the fact that u have a scar, doesn't suggest it will have to quit you from courting. Come on, be constructive. I have an overly unnoticeable scar on my face, however i do not permit it quit me from being with any person. I simply discovered to take delivery of it and sort of embody it in some way. We're now not all superb. We do have our flaws. And if a man breaks up with u simply becuz of that scar, then you understand that he is a jerk and he isn't valued at it=) Hope i helped!

Answer 3

Ok, and who cares??



I really hate to be a jerk, but I seriously think people need to be told that they're asking stupid questions and need to grow up.



It doesn't matter, especially if you're only in high school. Some day, the right guy comes along, and that's that.

Answer 4

Tbh i would you know.... then i can make them feel better about themself... so in my case i would date someone like you :) but i think you should leave out the bodystockings not attractive....

Answer 5

IM MY OWN OPINION YES. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND WHAT YOU NEED IS A REAL GUY WHO WILL LOVE YOU YOU FOREVER. NOT BECAUSE YOURE PRETTY. FOR BETTER FOR WORSE. YOURE A SERIOUS TYPE. BE SMART WHEN CHOOSING YOURE GUY. SOME GUYS ARE OPPORTUNIST. GOD BLESS AND GOOD LUCK GAL.

Answer 6

just be yourself guys seam to be interested in you when mr right comes along you will know. everyone is self conscious about something.