If you really loved someone but they broke your heart, would you give them another chance or move on?10 points?

Question

me and my ex broke up because he broke my heart. I really do love him. If i get back with him, my heart is at risk to get broken again.
There's this other guy I'm talking to and he says he will treat me right and I should give him a chance instead....who do i pick? I love my first ex alot, we were together for 2 years, but I don't know if it will ever be the same..please help me!

Answer 1

Talk to him (your ex).

sit down and have a real long talk about your relationship with him and let EVERYTHING come out. be honest and tell him how you feel. have him do the same thing. nothing will get fixed by itself unless both of you are willing to work it out. don't rush things either. If you still love your ex then don't really begin to get deep with the other guy. people say that you should go with your gut in situations like these...but i say go with your heart. do everything carefully before you end up regretting something in the end.



its the most horrible feeling in the world.

good luck.

Answer 2

If he broke your heart once he will surly do it again. Most people never change... They try and sometimes they change for a little while but he will go back to the way he was.

I was in the same situation as you one time. I was so in love with my ex bf and he broke my heart. He later decided he wanted me back and he promised the world to me that he had changed. Things went good the first couple of months but then he went back to his same old ways. But he had broken my heart again and I had to start the healing process all over again. Since then I have met a great guy and I love him with all my heart... WAY more then I loved my ex and we have been together for a year.

I know it might seem hard at first to let him go but you can do it. Give the other guy a chance. Maybe it will work out and maybe it won't with him but you will find the guy who is right for you. Not someone who is going to break your heart.



Good Luck!

Answer 3

I would say it depends on what he did to break your heart. If you really do love him then maybe its worth it to try. I was with my ex for eight years & he shattered my heart & I think he hurt me so bad that all the love I felt for him is gone. It didn't happen overnight but when we broke up I felt like it was the end of the world and I would never love again, but I did. So I would never get back with my ex, but every situation is different, if he cheated I would say def not get back with him, once a cheater always a cheater and you will run the risk oh getting your heart broken again.

Answer 4

You have to ask yourself...is he worth the risk? I was with my b/f for 5 years (and we have 2 kids, 4yo & 9months) and he up and walked out on me a month and half ago. Just said he wanted his freedom. BUT, we seperated for 1 month, and I had a couple guys who wanted to date me, even accepted that I had children. And they are AMAZING guys. BUT, when my boyfriend came to me saying he missed me and was sorry & that he realized where his heart was, and he WANTED to be with me & raise our kids and all of these things...my heart melted. As much as I would have loved to get to know these other guys on another level, my heart is with him. And it wouldn't be fair to start something with smoebody else if my heart just wasn't in it for the long haul. Who gets into a relationship when they have no intention of a future together? So...I took him back. We've been back together since May 21st, and everything has been absolutely AMAZING. I mean, INCREDIBLE. Everything I had hoped it would be since the day we met...and yes, my heart is still vulnerable, and at risk of getting broken again. But if you don't put yourself out there fully, then you never know what can happen. If I try to keep my heart protected and don't give it my all, it may not work. So I'm willing to do it.



Good Luck. I hoe everything works out for you guys. Heartbreak is never fun. BUT, they can't break your heart if they dont mean a lot to you. So, he obviously means a whole lot if you have given him the power to break it.

Answer 5

Honestly, it sounds like you need to be single for a while and discover what it is you are looking for exactly. I personally would not get back together with an ex that had broken my heart. I think you should take some time out for yourself and discover who you truly are before you commit yourself to someone again. You'd be surprised at the things that you can find out about yourself if you gave yourself the chance to.

Answer 6

Wow In what way did your ex break your heart? If he cheated on you absolutely not. Take it from me I have had my heart broken numerous times and if he didn't respect you the first time I highly doubt he will the second time around.But this other guy you are talking to just be defensive for the moment while you give yourself time to heal. It is critically important to heal because if not your insecurities can drive the right one away

Answer 7

I think you should give him another chance and see if it works. It wont be the same because you know what he did the last time. If it don't work out you can try with the other guy.

Answer 8

take a break first to figure out what you want.

I wouldn't give a second chance to somebody who broke my heart.

he doesn't deserve it.

I would try the new one, but only if you love him, too, otherwise you would break his heart (wouldn't be fair).

Answer 9

If you get back with him and he could do the same thing over again.

Answer 10

Can you work it out? Do you want to work it out, and do you still love each other?

Answer 11

he wants a piece.

but he's trying to sound sincere about it.

once you get back with him... he's just gonna f*ck you over again.