Question:
Trying to get over a broken heart, long story please read and help?
.ily
2010-02-13 19:49:30 UTC
It's a long story, but you have to read it all to understand the situation. I need major help with this. A few months ago, I went to the school dance with this guy I really liked, we had been talking for 4 months and went on a date together then later went to the school dance. That night was perfect, and I liked him so much we ended up kissing that night and I thought things were headed in the right direction and I was going to be his girlfriend because things seemed good. I mean we had been talking for a really long time and we had the same feelings for each other. Anyway, the day after the dance he sent me a really long text saying that it wasn't going to work out and that it would be best if we didn't date and it broke my heart. I had liked him so much, it was like at one point we both really liked each other and then he completely lost those feelings for me over night. After that he acted like nothing had ever happened and that hurt me even more. We would talk every once in a while but nothing compared to the way things used to be when we talked all the time and flirted and what not, and I missed it so much. I then told him we couldn't be friends because he was a jerk and I would never want to be friends with someone that could do what he did to me and he didn't reply to it, I had ended up deleting him too because he would say things to my friends about how glad he was about us not dating and things like that. Anyway, we didn't talk for a month or two and then he sent me a text saying that he wished we could be friends. It was late when he sent it so I didn't reply and just kinda shrugged it off but a few days later he had said something about it to my friend so I texted him saying that we could try to put things behind us and then we were so called friends again. But, when we were friends we didn't talk for about a month until he had added me back on facebook and we would talk every once in a while, but again it wasn't anything that could compare to the way things used to be. Also, for some reason I just can't get over him so it's been really tough on me talking to him. Then last week, I found out he has a prom date now and likes a this girl a lot and wants to have a future with her. It's funny though, because he used to say how he wanted to have a future with me, Finding this out of course crushed me, and I decided if I was ever going to get over him I just need to get him out of my life so I sent him a message saying how bad he hurt me and that I still had feelings for him and that we probably shouldn't be friends, it was a pretty long message but he didn't reply even though he had told my friend he was going to. He's a grade older than me but we have some mutual friends so he had spoken to her about it. I then just got fed up with it, I got him out of my life I deleted his number, deleted and blocked him from facebook so I wouldn't be tempted to go to his proflie, untagged any pictures of us on facebook and threw out anything that could remind me of him. I just want to know that maybe one day he would regret things a little bit and that after I'm over him we could be friends. I need help from someone that's dealt with something like this before and how things turned out and if I'll ever be 100% over my first broken heart. I know he's moved on, and I just want to do the same.
Five answers:
Judas Priest
2010-02-13 19:56:10 UTC
This guys a dumba*s I know them when I see them.



If it were me or someone like me it wouldn't have gone down like that



Just try your best to meet new people and always go for the men that treat you right and love you as a person as well as a female and if its backed with intimate romantic love thats the love you deserve you see what I'm saying?



Dont think about him or what you had dont dwell on it when you get sad feel and think happy and just do things that make you happy
Hectop20
2010-02-13 20:19:53 UTC
Hello, first of all, things that happen in the past already happened, and you have to try your best to move on in life. Forget about the things that hurt you, and what makes you sad and angry, do not mean it for bad to anyone. That guy did not realized the amazing girl you are. He might not was the right person you need be with. You might had felt he was, but he did not feel that for you all the time. I always waited for the girl of my dreams until the age of 20, last year, my heart was broken a couple of times, but in the end you can realize who is the right person, because you both will love each other and it can be felt.
2010-02-13 20:00:12 UTC
I've been through a similar situation and so I know sorta what your going through. I've decided that he will probably regret what he has done and want things to be the way they were. But I have realized that I deserve better as I am sure that you do too :) He seems like someone who was toxic as long as he was in your life no matter what role he played and I wouldn't even worry about it. I understand having a broken heart, it sucks....really really sucks but you will get through it everyone does. Best advice I can give is to do what you like, hang out with your friends and family, and have some more you-time.

Hope I Helped :)
?
2010-02-13 19:55:31 UTC
I know how you feel honey. This looks like a classic leading-a-girl-on situation. I do believe that when he contacted you again he was on the rebound so he wanted to see if you had forgiven him yet. You had and that's how he weaseled his way back to you. I think what you did was absolutely the right thing. Getting rid of everything that dealt with him was the best thing you can do. This will take some time to get over but you will get over him. I think that he might try to get back with you but don't pay him any mind. He lied to you so he'll probably lie to this new girl. Good luck and time heals!
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2016-09-24 09:25:50 UTC
Your stuck among a rock and a difficult location right here, together with your boyfriend now I reckon for those who love the ex to check out for him once more, do not break the 23yo present boyfriend while your excellent man continues to be round, simply do not harm your present boyfriend an excessive amount of something you do


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