How do i end it?

Question

Ok, me and my first REAL boyfriend ended last week. And this guy ask me today if i wanted to be his gf. And i wasn't really thinking and said "yes" And i'm really not over my x yet.. And i don't want to hurt his feelings... So how do i get him to break up with ME.???? Or should i just work up the guts and end it?

Answer 1

you are like my other half omg lol...trying to get a boy to break up with u is nearly impossible. trust me i tried. if you guys havent been dating long then this should be really easy. Tell him that you think he needs someone thta is more like him and your not it. i kno your scared but if you dont wanna be with this guy its best to end it yourself. it wont be hard if u really arent over your ex. And to get the ball rolling again, try talking to your ex. maybe if u find out why u guys broke up u can fingure out the problem, fix it, and hopefully get back together!!!

Answer 2

ah i was just in something similar... like i involunatirly fell into a relationship and realized soon that i wasn't interested him that way at all, but i didn't want to hurt him. i considered getting HIM to break up with ME so he wouldn't be hurt but... really thats just maniupalitve. playing with peoples minds will only get things much, MUCH worse! so don't do it, just stand up and be courageous!



end it as quickly as possible, because the longer it goes, the deeper and more painful it gets. just be gentle, work up the guts and tell him face to face, 'i'm still hurting from my last breakup, so i'm not ready to date right now. let's end it, ok?' make SURE you do it in person, you owe him as much.



i'm sure he'll understand. and he'll get over it, don't worry. don't put yourself through this, you don't deserve it. good for you, for being such a kind caring person. good luck~ :)!

Answer 3

it would be more hurtful to him if you kept going with a fake relationship and if you do stuff to try to make him dump you it could cause more distress. what i would do, i would take him aside and talk to him alone. and say.



i'm sorry to have started a relationship with you so soon after my break up with my ex, but it seems i'm just not ready for a new relationship, i need time to get over my ex and to heal my emotions. it was wrong of me to ever say yes and i think it would be best for us if we ended our relationship.



he will be a little upset by this but if you just tried to wait for him to do it, it would be too hard on both of you. no one wants to find out after a few months that the other person has been wishing for it to end. end it as soon as possible, because his feelings matter too.



good luck chic.

Answer 4

Just be like "I'm sorry but I'm not really ready for another relationship cause I just broke up with my X and my feelings are really mixed up right now" :)

Answer 5

tell him the truth tha tyou're not ready to be in a relationship but tell him that you still wanna be friends but just take it slow for a while so that you don't completely crush him you know...lol

Answer 6

just tell him u just wanna be friends and maybe when u get over ur last bf u can be bf gf!