Why don't I go out with this (short) guy? Am I stupid?

Question

Problem is .... there's this bloke who's always asking me out.
Since the first time he asked me out I've felt something inside me wanted to go out with him. However he's a bit shorter than I am.
He's lovely, funny, original, smart, interesting....very interesting person. We've known each other for a bit now, and I've always liked him,
However he's short and for some reason society always "told me" I should go for tall guys. Hollywood movies and media have been telling me since I was a child that a short guy is not attractive. But I REALLY like him.

Am I crazy? I know that I should give the society the finger and do what I want to do and what feels good for me. But I can't shake this feeling off. This feeling that I'm not supposed to do it. That people will talk behind our backs. I know the problem.....I know it makes no sense to like only tall men. In the prehistoric age females would go for tall men because they were stronger and could protect us. But I know that this bullshit doesn't apply anymore. So ... I know the problem....I know it makes no sense ....why can't I just be in peace with myself and go for this lovely guy?

P.S.: I'm not asking you guys if I should or shouldn't go out with him. I WILL GO OUT WITH HIM. That's for sure.
My question is ....why do I still think like that in this day and age? What's wrong with me?

Answer 1

Society has drilled the "rules" of dating, friendship etc. into everybody. You don't have to be like everyone else. Even if people talk about you behind you're back, **** them! It's not their life, they're not the ones going out with this guy! If you like him, go for it!

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with you. Society affects you, that's all - you are a human being, and how others perceive you is of great importance for you, so it may be hard for you to relax, if you feel other people look down on you.



But I can tell you, that all my friends always say "Why would you date HIM? he is not even hote/cute, bla bla bla" whenever I like a guy, and I actually like that and have peace with that.. "Why?" you may ask, well... isn't it a great feeling knowing that other girls wouldn't be attracted to your guy? That means less competition.. When I had a boyfriend everyone considered "hot" I felt inntimidated especially because he knew that girls perceived him that way, and he was such a show off, ugh. No way, I don't think society would look down on you, surprised and puzzled maybe, but I think they will look up to you more, because you "dare" if you know what I mean.

Answer 3

I am short as were most of my contemporaries in the Paras. Nice things come in small parcels. And we certainly are able to protect ourselves!

Answer 4

i think the exact same way. personally i want someone who can protect me and just wrap me up and physically stand over me. i dont know i just dont think i could settle for a shorter guy....which is a problem for me as well

Answer 5

Yes.

Answer 6

lf you like him, go out with him.