Am I not a priority to my boyfriend anymore?

Question

My bf of a year has been on vacation for a month now. He doesn't text me much unless I do first. A couple days ago I texted my bf asking him a question but then he left me on seen. The thing is I know he's texting other people bc I have all his social accounts. I ignored him for a couple of days but He never texted me back. Then this morning our mutual female friend told me she was just talking to him. He ignored my message but decides to talk to other people and not me. I don't care if he texts his friends just as long as he doesn't forget about me. So It makes me sad bc I miss him but I know he doesn't miss me. And it hurts to be ignored because it makes me feel like i'm not a priority to him. It makes me feel like he doesn't care about talking to me and that i'm no more special than any of his other friends. I finally broke the silence and texted him first again this morning and he was just texting me normally like everything wasn't fine

Answer 1

Can it be that you became too clingy and he wanted to take a breath by going on a vacation for a month? Sometimes we make the person we are in a relationship our main thing, then it gives us stress and annoys the other person. Analyse your behaviors, try to make a conclusion and think how to act more productive for yourself and for him.

Answer 2

If I were you, I would never contact him again or even take his calls or respond to his messages. No one should get to play with your dignity.

Answer 3

Stop texting him. My ex used to do this and it was so annoying. He'd go on social media and text other people and it was clear to me I wasn't a priority. You have your own life - do your own thing and wait for him to contact you. He'll eventually wonder what you're up to. Have fun, too. When he finally does call you, see if he is curious what you're doing, how things are, and if he says he misses you. If not, you have your answer.

Answer 4

Here's what you do. Call him. If he doesn't answer wait for his return. Then give him crocodile tears and ask him if he still loves you. Watch carefully for his reaction. Or make a fake social media account then pry into him. Ask questions about how his relationship is and if he's looking to cheat etc etc . I would only recommend this if you get suspicious though

Answer 5

If you are not a priority for him, he shouldn't be a priority for you. Stop texting him and start focusing on other things. He'll either figure it out or the relationship will fizzle out.

Answer 6

Talk to him about it in person, if he isn't being serious about it end it

Answer 7

It seems like you're drifting apart. That happened to me and it's sad and everything but you know it's sadder to not be important to someone who is important to you. Good luck!

Answer 8

get a life

Answer 9

Tell him how you feel or just end the relationship

Answer 10

GET A NEW ONE....

Answer 11

tell to get his priorities right

Answer 12

Move on, he has.

Answer 13

The truth is where ever there is a will there's a way. If he's talking to others then there should be no reason for him to not pay the same attention to you.



Perhaps he doesn't love or miss you. If he did he wouldn't need to be prompted to message you.



Maybe it would be kinder to yourself if you broke it off with him. Finding someone right for you who would treat you in the same way as you do with them is a much better option for you. Life is too short to be unhappy. His ignorance makes you unhappy.

Answer 14

wait a while and keep quite i mean do not contact or text for a while. If he is into you he will realize very soon and contact you. If not and you want to give him a chance you can talk to him one last time in detail, ifhe can satisfy your wuestoons then you can think of givining him a last chance, otherwise move away.

Answer 15

Maybe separate vacations are not the best idea in future relationships if this one doesn't work out

Answer 16

When we get together with someone, we enter into an 'unwritten contract' with them and the terms of that contract explicitly state that: The undersigned shall henceforth and forever, assume the role, once occupied by our mommy (or some other caregiver), as a LOVE-REFERENCE-point.

In other words, we depend on that person to maintain a secure connection with us. When we're unable to depend on that connection, our nervous system goes haywire and we do "whatever it takes' to restore the connection - our tranquility depends on it.

I've written about this extensively in Learning to Love - Your Guide to Personal Empowerment. Philip Be'er

Answer 17

Maybe he actually has a life he wants to use, ive dated girls like you, you make your bf your WHOLE world.lol

Answer 18

I've been there with my boyfriend of a year and a half and definitely knows what that feels like. Sad, can even make you feel like you're losing your mind. I asked a similar question on here and got some very good and honest answers. It's on you in the end and what you're willing to put up with.

Answer 19

Idk tbh

Answer 20

As they say, "He's not that into you" Time to move on.

Answer 21

Break up. Why be with a person who dont gives a **** about you? Don't be that stupid.

Answer 22

What does "he left me on seen" mean? Sounds like nonsense to me. In addition, your boyfriend goes on a month vacation without you and you don't see that as a signal that he's no longer interested? Really?

Answer 23

Talk tonhim in person. If he seems like he doesnt care, stop caring yourself. If you feel like he doesnt love you anymore, leave him. Just trust your instincts they're always right

Answer 24

This is very sad..

I have a boyfriend and we're about 2 years together and honestly I think If he would do something like this to me , first thing I would do will be talking with him, but not through messages , wait for him to be back from holidays and talk to him, explain how you feel and politely ask if he's cheating on you or not

Good luck darling

Answer 25

honey. its obvious that this guy was only with you for the moment. what's going on now is that he got bored of you now and is looking for his new bait.

Answer 26

Tell him that you want to see other people and then see other people.

Answer 27

May be the attraction is over.

Answer 28

I wouldn't give up but I would talk to him about it every relationship has its ups and downs maybe he's just been busy doing stuff vacationing ask him about his day how the vacation is going etc if he's unresponsive and bland or not really talkative then talk to him about why he's being closed off..maybe he is pulling away. At that point you got to decide whether you want to continue or if you can handle the lack of care

Answer 29

It depends on the situation and what you had asked him that left him unresponsive to your text. Instead of asking him a question, message him with "I miss you." If he doesn't reply in a way that is healthy to the relationship, he's already given up.

Answer 30

He's trying to push you away so YOU will be the one to break it off... he's too much of a coward to do it himself. Actions speak louder than words - if you know he's communicating with others and not you, I'd say in his mind it's already over... sorry to say.

Answer 31

Ignore him, if he cares he will ask why and you can tell him that you are not prepared to go on this way.

Don't join the long list of young women putting their life on hold waiting for someone who is obviously not all that bothered.

Answer 32

If I were you, I would wait until he gets back and talk to him about it. He could be doing this for 103534 reasons but you wont know unless you ask.But if you ask him through a text, he may not respond. its always better in person

Answer 33

Show him this question. Maybe he doesn't know how you feel.

Answer 34

No

Answer 35

If you are unhappy I would end things, sounds like he will not change but he also just may need some space. I would have that conversation.