Please help!!!! What the heck do I do!? Help?!?!?

Question

My boyfriend recently got grounded. And it's for a long time. He got EVERYTHING taken away. So I have no contact with him :[ His mom is pretty much blaming me for what happened(too personal to say, but not pregnant or like that). And now she hates me. She yelled at me and cussed me out. I'm admitting i'm at fault for some of what happened. But just to add i never yelled cussed or anything of that sort to the mother. I never disrespected her. But she still HATES me.

First: What do I do for her to forgive me?
Second: I have a present for my boyfriend and his lil sister, how do I deliver the presewnts?
Third: Should I maybe buy the mom a present and what?

Please help. This is really big. He is the love of my life and I NEVER wanted to disrespect his mother or anyone in his family. I just want them to like me and welcome me into the family. Any other info needed please just e-mail me or instant message me. Thankyou. And happy holidays <333

Answer 1

Every situation i have come acrossed between friends family and whatever else, I have to say that it depends on the person or people you are dealing with... Okay so it is a hard situation because you want to give the presents within the reasonable time, I would usually say be patient because the mom will cool down and your boyfriend if he loves you will fight his mom or show his mom that he loves you. In a situation like this and, i am just giving my opinion/advice you decide rather to take it or not, go up to the house (with the two presents) when you are comfortable, and hope the mom answers. Tell her you want to talk in a civilized way, tell her that yes you were partially at fault, and just try to reason with her if she starts yelling and cursing then smile and tell her that you love this guy. Tell her that you will never hurt him because i am pretty sure that is true, if she doesn't calm down then just tell her you are sorry once again and lay the presents in front of her. If she closes the door on you at anytime same thing just put the presents in front of the door. One more thing keep in mind that you are to stay as calm as possible no matter what happens be classy if that helps :)

Answer 2

Since you don't want to give details of why he is grounded it is a little hard to give you advice. However, when forgiveness is needed all you should do is ask for it. If she refuses that is her problem. The Bible says that we are to forgive others as we want God to forgive us. That means we need to be quick to forgive, forgive completely and not hold a grudge. Now...that sometimes doesn't happen overnight. So be patient with her. You may need to write her a letter to explain everything. Ask a friend to drop the gifts off. Send the mom a small bunch of flowers or a special ornament for their tree.

Whatever caused the problem....it isn't as big as God's ability to love you and forgive you. He is a merciful God!

Answer 3

This is a tough one. His mom will cool down, but it will take time. Be patient and try to see the situation through her eyes. It's up to your bf to make peace with her first and he needs to be the go-between. Do not buy his mom a present right now. Hold onto the presents for now.

Answer 4

First: Apologize. Face to face with his mom. She may not act like she appreciates it, but most likely she'll remember it.



Second: Call his mom (house) and ask if it is okay for you to bring by the presents while she is around. Don't forget to mention you have one for his sister too.



Third: I don't know. I wouldn't think so because you don't want her to think you're trying to buy her affection.

Answer 5

It doesn't sound like you did much wrong. Rather, it sounds like mom is a little on the controlling side. In that case if you really like the guy...meaning she may one day be your mother in law...abide by what she wants...forever. If you are not able to do that than realize that when you have a relationship with someone..you have a relationship with his/her family.

Answer 6

I would buy her a present and go and apologize to her. If you have a calm and rational conversation with her maybe she might forgive you.

Answer 7

omg same thing happen to me trust me his mom is not going to change her mind just because you give her a gift. you should give him the gift threw ups and put it in someone else name or have someone else give it to him whether its in school or drop by the house. give his mom extra time stay away from her

Answer 8

Its pretty hard to get off a parents bad list



1. **** her u shouldn't care what she thinks

2. give the presents to him and his sister personally

3. you should sht in a box and have it delivered to her job

Answer 9

did you give him a social disease or something like syphilis.well if so then i'd be pissed to.but basically you have to kiss MAJOR ***.buy her something wonderful.maybe she'll think about letting you see her son again

Answer 10

Are you nuts? This lady hates you because you've corrupted her virgin son. If you see her car coming, don't be on the sidewalk.