I am 23 and pregnant with my gay best friend's babies. Now he wants to marry me , Is he really gay? What to do ? help !?

Question

I’m so messed up and I don’t have anyone to talk to. I feel like here is the best place. Please bear with me. I just want to get this out my system. Please, read first the details and updates.Any advice will be appreciated. Thanks.

I'm 23 and he's 26. Yes, we’re having twins and yes, I'm keeping our babies. We both have great careers (he's an engineer and I just finished my masters in engineering as well last year). We have separate homes and are both well off.

My real problem is this : Will I marry him ? Yes I'm in love with the guy. Hell I've been in love with him since I was 14! but I'm still reluctant whether to accept or refuse. Is he really gay to begin with?

I was 10 when my dad died of cancer and was 12 when my uncle sexually assaulted me, forcible touching my breasts and behind. Luckily I didn't get raped cause my mom caught him in act. He's the only one left of my mom's family and I messed up their bond. I felt bad for that. After the incident with my uncle, I used to tense up whenever guys are around. It didn't help that I felt uncomfortable spending time with others gals cause I used to believe that I'm not normal like them. I didn't belong. I just wanted to be left alone.

My bro had no problem making new friends. Sebastian was one of his best friends. He and others used to hang out at our place. I never mingled with them but whenever I would pass by them, he would stare at me but never initiated convos.

Answer 1

Ask him to introduce you to some of his gay friends and ask if he has been intimate with them. If he has, you can be sure that he is gay and that will answer the question as to whether you should marry . If you do marry him, it could become difficult, if he actually had a male lover and the two of them decided they wanted to raise those kids. You need to know how you would feel about that if it came to pass.

Answer 2

I would agree with JenWales that a friendship would work better than marriage for you. Your narrative description is quite compelling and intriguing and could make a good basis (plot) for a long story or novel. Be well.

Answer 3

If you think he's gay, don't marry him. You will spend your life with someone who doesn't desire you. He may be a wonderful friend, but you would be selling yourself short to settle for him as a husband. If he's gay, he would be happier with a gay partner.