Weird Guy problems Please help?

Question

I am in college and am 19(female). Last quarter I met a guy named James through a mutual friend with whom we formed a study group for a class. At the time I was very busy with work (18 credits and 24/week with work) and thought he was cute but didn't really flirt with him.

At the beginning of this quarter I had two classes and a lab with him. I saved him seats talked to him about school, sports, family, rock climbing. Offered to go to lunch(I declined once, his plans changed the second time) One day after class he gave me a hug which I made awkward because I was late for work and not really expecting it. The next day after a different class I gave him a hug before I left work work and it was not awkward. (yes he does hug other people besides me). about a week later he asked me to study in the library with him (on a Saturday) I said yes and showed up to the library at 11. This is the next three texts I sent him after he said he was heading to campus "heading up to the top floor," "did your plans change" and at about 9 at night "Hey I know we didn't get a chance to study together but maybe we could get together later in the week." I haven't seen or heard from him after that in over a week. I heard from a mutual friend that he dropped out one of the classes we were taking together but is still in the other one. I haven't seen him in class or heard from him by text.

I think hes cute and was interested in dating him before the library incident, but now I have no clue whats going on. Did I scare him off, was he only interested in being friends? I don't want to be the needy person who texts him non-stop but this is really weird. What the heck happened?

Answer 1

Sending him 3 texts in a row IS needy.



Telling him you like him ONCE, and asking how he feels, and asking for a date, is NOT needy- it's direct, confident and time-efficient.



Stop p*ssy footing around, and just tell him you clicked with him and think hes cute and wanna go on a date.



If he doesn't wanna go on a date? Then don't think "oh maybe we didn't click =/" NO YOUR STANDARDS WERE TOO F*CKING HIGH!!!!!!!! ACCEPT THAT!!



So either this guy goes on a date with you or your standards are unrealistic and that's why youre single.



BRUTAL HONESTY. Thanks

Answer 2

You should just take a chance and ask him out. What's the worst that could happen besides rejection? At least you would try instead of not trying at all.

Answer 3

He probably flaked out or something came up, I don't think you scared him. He might be too embarrassed to call you back. Anyway, move on and talk to other guys.