Question:
Please help. I am desperate.?
Tara
2010-08-15 00:23:11 UTC
Okay so, here it goes. My co-worker that I had a huge crush on last fall, got a girlfriend in early winter. She happened to be both of ours co-worker. When she got together with him, she made comments about how she saw me blush when I was around him, and stuff like that. Before he got together with her, me and him talked a lot, and we joked a lot. It was lots of fun. I recently heard one of the other people that work with me say that she overheard the guy I liked talking to his friend, saying "She is nineteen, how do I talk to her?" I happen to be nineteen. Now that he has been together with this other girl, he acts really strange towards me. I don't flirt with him or anything. But whenever I talk to him, whether it be for work reasons or not, he will either act annoyed with it, or he will say something that is opposite of what I said, just to disagree with me. But when he is in a better mood towards me, he will take a stapler and shoot staples at me, and he will stare me in the eyes a lot. Like I will tell him something, and he will sit and give me a weird stare right in my eyes. It's strange, but I do it back. What does this mean? Why is he acting this way? Does he hate me now for no reason? Or does he regret going with the other girl? Please help! I'm desperate, 'cause I don't know whether or not I should be mad at him or not.
Eight answers:
Zeka
2010-08-15 00:33:04 UTC
I don't think he hates you. It actually seems like he likes you. The problem is, he has a girlfriend now. And I'm sure if she openly expressed how she has seem you blush around him, then she's probably voiced some concern over how his relationship with you was with him personally. So he probably started acting distant towards you as to not stir up any arguments or ill feelings in his relationship with your co-worker.



And I, unfortunately, think that it might be best for you to distance yourself from him. Try keeping things completely platonic between the two of you. No more gazing into his eyes, or unconscious flirting (though that is always hard to stop. XD)



So no, you shouldn't be mad at him (although he shouldn't be gazing into your eyes either if he's got a g/f) ...so, yeah, you can be a little upset with him. But shake it off and try to distance yourself from him or else unneeded drama will arise between the three of you. Which would make work extremely more tedious.
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2016-10-03 01:17:40 UTC
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Stephanie F
2010-08-15 00:31:54 UTC
Why are you so desperate about? I don't see why you are concerning that much about this issue, the guy moved on and is now dating with your co-worker, there's nothing you can do about it and even if he had feelings for you back in the days he is now in a relationship with this other girl who used to be your friend. I think you should look for a new guy or maybe try working hard and not reading too much between lines. I don't think he hates you, it sounds more like he wants to be left alone.
friendofmine
2010-08-15 00:36:02 UTC
That's weird.... about the staring, and i don't get that. okay so i'm just a clueless yahoo answers user, but here are my "suspicions"

1. He doesn't like you, but he kind of still does in a way that he won't admit if that makes sense.

2. He just doesn't like you.... plain, flat out, end of story... which i doubt.

3. there's always the possibility he's using the other girl to get to you, but i think that's really not true...



anyway guys don't really become friends with girls they don't like... or stay friends with them. if that helps. I'm sorry! i just realized this probably didn't help you at all and probably wasted like 5 minutes of your time!!! but i think it's the first option haha i wish you luck! I will never understand guys, they are complete weirdos!
K
2010-08-15 00:49:13 UTC
I'll have to agree with Zeka

Distance yourself from him, I do think he likes you. Let him realize it and comes to you himself.

Though you might not realize it, you are flirting with him, and if his current gf knows that she'll be mad.
KennyG
2010-08-15 00:29:48 UTC
He is with someone else! Get over him now before you destroy yourself wondering "what if?" This fantasy stuff with him is a waste of your life.
M.
2010-08-15 00:31:24 UTC
Well, if he shoots staples at you, it MUST mean he likes you.

Why don't you try to take him away from her?

That would only be fair for all of you!!
T C
2010-08-15 00:31:13 UTC
it seems like he is just dating and just wants you as a friend


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