Its REALLY long, but please,help me? PLEASE, I really need it!?

Question

Have you ever thought some people just are not meant to be happy? I am one of those people. I have a story, I’ll tell you because I have to tell someone, and no one will listen. My story is a love story,but I have to warn you,the ending is tragic,on my end at least.

A little over a year ago, I met a guy. I knew he was special because he had so many things in common with me. The first time we talked,it was so awkward,we eventually began giving each other survey questions to answer. As we answered each other’s questions,we grew to find out we were identical. I have never met anyone with so much in common with me. We were both left handed, both from a big,loving family, both always wore black, both loved music and played guitar,we both have obsessive compulsive disorder,it was even as scary as the same favorite pizza toppings. I was convinced that I had found my best friend and soul mate. He was my best friend. We told each other everything. We helped each other get through the tough times. On January 21st, he told me he loved me. I had never been so happy in my life. I was in love with him, so in love. He controlled my every thought, movement. I loved him,and I always will. We loved each other. We were in love. We fought so much, but always knew it would work out because we deeply cared for one another and couldn’t function without the other. A year past, and I thought everything was perfect. He was texting me daily, how much he loved me…how he needed me and that he’d love me forever. We would even talk about how we were going to get married,how I would go to college with him, where he lived,just so we could be together. Friday,the 4th of December, he texted me all throughout my school day. I was a happy as I could be, and so in love. The next day, he was supposed to meet this girl. She was a girl that we’d made fun of quite a bit, because of her love of sheeps and weird ****. She was all over him through texts and wouldn’t leave him alone. He didn’t meet her the first time she wanted to because she wanted to meet under a bridge.how weird is that? Yeah, he’d respond to her texts,verbally by saying “ah ****” or “**** off annoying”. Yes, back to my story. She wanted to meet him on Saturday, December fourth. He gave in and decided to go, he met her and made out with her for twenty minutes, and was turned on. He asked her out and now they are dating. They are four years apart, and we are two. He came home that night and told me how he made out with her, failing to tell me that he was turned on and dating her. He told me he loved me and that if I were there, he’d be with me. I cried for a week straight. I haven’t stopped crying. I don’t know what to do with myself and our relationship. Don’t you think, if someone “loves you forever”,they’d be able to wait for you? I think so. So, I’ve been trying to cut him out of my life completely, however, its difficult because he’s my best friend, aside from the love of my life and soul mate. I’ve never loved anyone like I love him. I’d do anything for him, but that’s obviously not reciprocal. My family is worried about me, I haven’t been smiling lately, or laughing,all I do is cry and mope. I went to the psychologist and she told me I was depressed, that I might not get over this for a while. I can’t take it. I have to get over this. I have to cut him out of my life. The sad part is, we were planning to meet in April, that won’t happen now.I’ve never been so upset in my life, my life seems meaningless now. I feel like I have no one, no one to care for me, and no one to care about me. I know I’m ugly and annoying. I just, I wonder whether he meant it or not, all that time :’(.

Thats my story, and thats why I haven’t been myself for about a week and a half now. If you have any advice, I’d gladly appreciate it! T_T

okay...so I wrote that last week. We've talked since. He tells me that he loves me. He tells me that things aren't going well with them,that they probably won't last. I'm afraid to believe that because if I get my hopes up, and they last...I'll be crushed, worse! I'm really upset right now and its all hitting me again and I don't know what to do. He's my best friend, I can't just cut him off. I've been PRAYING that they break up. I know its selfish but I need him, no one realizes how much I need him. He is my spirit, without him...I'm nothing. He told me that he's gonna be with her on Monday...I can't even breathe,I've been shaking for hours and crying and I can't even think about what they'll do. First time they meet, he gets a *****. God knows what'll happen this time.. I'm sobbing and I feel nauseous, I just want some help already :'(

Please help me? :(

Answer 1

First of all it sounds like your letting yourself get jerked around and controlled by this boy. Also, it seems like you've left some important details out of your story because to me, it sounds like you don't even live in the same state. If that's true, then you should know that it is hard enough being in a long distance relationship, let alone with someone who sounds as immature as this boy does.

It's wonderful when you fall in love with someone and you feel like that person will never hurt you, but you need to be aware of when someone is playing games with you. Quite honestly, I wouldn't want to be with someone who betrayed me and that's exactly what he did to you.

If he loved you so much then ask yourself why he would just dump the relationship with you so quickly for some other girl that he found annoying? That doesn't make much sense to me; there has to be some underlying reason.

If you want to talk to him and try to work things out, go ahead, but I wouldn't suggest it. I think you should concentrate on yourself and what you need rather than moping around and hoping for someone to chance when the chances are, they won't unless they want to themselves. It might be tough to forget about this boy right now, but give it time and do things that you like. Hang out with other friends or just be with your family. Try and get a new hobby started. Time will pass and you'll start to realize that this guy isn't the only one out there.

Good luck honey and feel better :]

Answer 2

Sounds like your really head over heels for this guy. But you need to start thinking girl. He isn't treating you right. He leaves you hurt & broken while he is off with another girl. & that isn't right. You might love him, but people fall in & out of love all the time. Maybe you just aren't right for each other. I know that is hard to even think about, but you might have to face it. Some boys just don't realize what they have until it's gone. He has to know that he can't just cheat on you & treat you like **** & still expect you to be right there waiting when he is ready to have you back. He is treating you like his puppy. Which your obviously not, Personally, i don't think he is worth it, you might have a lot in common, but you can't have a good relationship this way. He cheated on you after meeting a girl in person once, that shows his character. I know your hurting, but you've gotta stay strong, some boys just aren't worth the hassle. & it sounds like he isn't to me. He might just be using her to get some, if your not putting out, he might begin to look else where, but that doesn't mean you should automatically put out, stick to your values, & whether or not you are ready because that's something you can NEVER take back. Hope this helped, i know i was harsh, but i'm just trying to be honest with you.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Just reading that...that so sad. Im sorry for your loss, i dont know what id do without my gf, kill myself probably. But you dont go doing that thou. All i can say is..if he decides to make out with another girl for that long and go out with her and still say he loves you, he doesnt deserve you. You should find someone else, someone that can make you truly happy, someone you can love, someone that wont hurt you like that. Forget about him, make some friends, talk to someone about it. I hope you feel better, i could relate to you, but my situation is nowhere as sad as yours. :( thats just terrible. You can email me if you need someone to talk to, i hate seeing another human being like this. Try to feel better and let him go.

Answer 5

i know its hard but if he really loved yu he wouldnt be all over tat girl juss cuz she turned him on no he wudd of stop if knew he was in love witt yu an know tat hes hurting yu cuz didnt yall have a thing then hes juss going too ruin it juss cuz tat girl turned him on pssh come on snap into he mayb did mean it but not enough too know he is hurting rite now dont worry bout wats happening now worry bout wat yur going too do dont juss sit der all upset waiting 4 him too come back if he comes back its cuz he knows he doesnt wanna b witt her or tat yu been waiting an knows he can do wat he wants no an no he needs too know he lost yu already an if yu cant be witt him let him know yu need time or dont have time too tlk too him please listen too thiss its good advice i hope this helps yu

GOOD LUCK!!