what does "taking a break" mean to you?

Question

my gf and i live 300 miles away from each other but go to the same college. she thinks we should take a break for the summer and see how things go when we get back to school in august. should i be optimistic? things change in a month, i dont expect to find another gf but what does taking a break mean and should i just start getting over her? help lol

Answer 1

it means that she is contemplating breaking up but has not decided. she wants to think about her options. a break means that you are broken up but still together. thus she can hook up with other guys and later say "but it wasn't cheating, we were broken up". you are both allowed to date others during the break but you must absolutely never discuss it after the break is over. those are the rules. it gives you both a chance to see who is out there with no strings attached.



the fact that she wants a break and not to break up means that she still wants to be with you. so cheer up.



at your age and commitment level it means this. in an older post college relationship cheating is not allowed in the break.



she may or may not get back together with you after the break. if you are okay taking the break,enjoy it. meet girls and see who else is out there. in the end your girlfriend may be the right one for you.

Answer 2

Taking a break basically means you're breaking up with the knowledge that you'll get back together in the near future. She's probably doing this so she can be a play girl when she goes back home. It means you can see other people, have sex with other people, do whatever you want like you're not together. Then when you see each other again you are in a relationship again. It can change a lot in the relationship. It means she's not ready to settle down and then if you get back together she can be bringing STDs into the picture and whatever else may be crawling around on her. Also, she may find someone else in that time and then won't feel guilty if she doesn't get back with you because you weren't "together" when she found the other guy. Maybe she's not sure you're what she wants and she wants the freedom to try the other "fish in the sea" before she makes a final decision.



So, the bottom line is that you're her fall back plan if she doesn't find someone better this summer. I highly suggest that you just break it off. That way you have plenty of time this summer to chill with the guys, shop around and date other girls, and not have to worry about whether or not you'll be getting back together with your current gf that wan'ts a break. It may be hard at first, but she's obviously not ready for a mature relationship yet.



My bf and I have been together 3 and a half years and take pride knowing we've never been that couple that will "take a break" and get back together. And we got together in high school. All the couples around us were taking a break one week and back together the next. Over and over... We work through our problems and talk through things. We don't break up, or take a break, because we know there's nothing out there that would be better than being together.

Answer 3

I'm going to tell it to you like it is: The moment a person says LETS TAKE A BREAK it means that their not feeling you anymore, that they've found someone else and they want to test the waters to see if that realtionship will work, while still having you has a safety net in case it doesnt work or their just chicken and dont want to tell you it's over.



I think you should prepare yourself for the worst. Take a long look at how the relationship was going before your girlfriend decided to tell you this. If the relationship was hitting some rocky paths, I think you should prepare yourself that she maybe found someone else.



If the relationship going great and there were no signs, Maybe your girlfriend just needs time and space to thinking about where the realtionship going or what she wants.



I hope I was of some help to you. I know this is a very hard time for you and you have alot of decisions to make, because you need to protect your heart.



Nothing ever comes out "Taking a Break" in a relationship

Answer 4

The only thing you can do is give him the space he is asking for. You can let him know you are still his friend if he needs someone to talk to but otherwise he is not your boyfriend anymore and if he is going to decide he still wants to be with you again later it will be like starting over. Just back off and give him some time to think because if you push him you will only be pushing him away. It's hard and sad but you have to go about your life without him. But I would suggest not dating anyone else for a while just out of respect and patience in case he comes around. But if you give him time and he doesn't come back then just move on because you have to assume that a break is breaking up.

Answer 5

Just start getting over her. I agree with most of the other posters on here, that your g/f probably wants to have fun and have some summer no-strings attached sex without feeling the guilt of cheating on you. But the question you've gotta ask yourself is: "Is this how it's gonna be every time she meets another guy she wants to sleep with or see if she wants to date?" Cause if yes is the answer, then you are better off telling her that a "break" isn't gonna work for you and that you wish her the best of luck. Then STICK to it and move on. There's some other lucky girl out there who won't want to take a "break" come summer - she'll still want to be your g/f regardless. Good luck!

Answer 6

To me "taking a break" mean that's she wants some time to her self. You know maybe there are things that need to be straightened out, or she's stressed over somethings and doesn't want to hurt the people she loves. But on the other it ain't really a break up. You guy can still talk and do the same things that you do in a relationship.

Answer 7

Sometimes taking a break really does mean.. taking a break. Sometimes girls need time to think, or need to move on but other times girls use it as an escuse when they don't want to be with someone. I don't like it when girls use that term because when a girl means it the guy assumes it means that they're breaking up for good. It's hard to read girls, I know considering I am one. They always talk about showing emotions but heres a little secret..; Half the time they're not. Girls like to hide how they're really feeling.



Ofcourse you can flirt with other girls on a break but don't to crazy, especailly if she's watching. She'll think you don't care if she really does just want to.. TAKE A BREAK.



Hope this helps!

Enjoy the summer to the fullest! :)



Luv, JD☼

Answer 8

Maybe it's the distance that bothers her (300mi), who knows? It means she wants the relationship to be on hiatus. Not see each other for awhile. It's summer, and when you are in college, there are a lot of things to do as a "single" person, if you know what I mean? Maybe now is not the time to have a girlfriend. I would try dating others for now, no harm in that. It might also make you feel better about the situation.

Answer 9

Well, i guess it depends on why you're taking a break. But most breaks end up in a permenant break. I'm not saying you should give up all hope but there is a possibility that she could come back with a new guy. You need to prepare yourself for that possibilty but keep in mind some breaks actually do work. Some breaks show both people in the relationship how much the other means to them.

Answer 10

I don't want to be harsh but I don't think she wants to be with you. If there's no reason to "taking a break" other than it being 'cause it's summer then she'll probarely fool around alot and end it when you go back to school. Save yourself the heartache and have a good summer of your own!

Answer 11

If I were you, I'd probably be out looking for another girlfriend as it sounds like that is what she's going to be doing.... Otherwise, i don't see the point in even having a break...



why should you have to take a break until you get back to college? that isn't being very fair to you as you also have a life to live

Answer 12

To me taking a break is going overseas to relax & short things & thinking of making of making a right decision. It could mean a break up too I think you should sort things out wiih at least you know that will this reletionship still last, so that you will know weather you shoild get over him or not 7 why that she suddenly, what the cause of it.

Answer 13

be optimistic, thats what life is all about. taking a break for her probably means it's over. and yea, alot can happen in a month. so i say, get over her and have fun. don't be surprised if she calls during the summer, us girls do that. we change our minds ALL the time. But i don't like it when a guy tells me lets take a break but then he still wants to bug me. so if i was you, don't bother talking to her.

Answer 14

I think itmeans she wants to have fun this summer and not have to worry about getting in trouble because she has a boyfriend. She probably likes some other guys and wants to go out with them during the summer. It isn't anything serious though. She wants to get back with you when she is serious-during school. You shouldn't worry about anything and have some fun yourself. Go out with anyone you want. After all, you guys are "taking a break".

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 15

In this case? Dude...you already know...sorry...



Her version of "TAKE A BREAK" in this case is "I have a boyfriend/boy I really LIKE back home and I wanna see where that goes."



You're her SCHOOL boyfriend. Bet you a month's pay if you just "show up" in her home town one day this summer, you'll find she's got a "hometown" boyfriend too.





To me, "take a break" is just a nicer way of saying "break up."



But keeping your options open...just in case things don't work out with the man I'm DUMPING YOU FOR, I still got you for a back-up plan.



Don't you deserve better?

Answer 16

No dont start getting over her. She probly just wants to have her space in the summer. All girls do. So she can go have fun with friends or whatever and do things without haveing a guy for a while. Maybe she just wants to be single for a little while. But ask her and tell her how you feel and how it is going to be. That way she knows.

Answer 17

To me, taking a break means, "I want to sleep around with other people because I'm not interested in a committed relationship with you; however, instead of breaking up with you, I want to keep you around for the fall, just in case I don't find someone better."



I'd talk to her about it. Ask her why she thinks a break would be a good idea. Soldiers don't take a break from their wives while they spend a year fighting overseas; why does she need a break for a measly month? If you can't tough it out over a month of being apart, you're not going to last a lifetime. I'd move on.

Answer 18

taking break means that you are going to take a break from each other and see if you two should really be together. don't get over her completely but if you are taking a break you can go out on dates and such because you two are not together and it will not be cheating. it is just to see what else is out there is if you two really belong together. good luck.

Answer 19

Well in that case, buddy, it sounds like she wants to screw some dude, possibly a few, and doesn't want the guilt of cheating on you on her shoulders, so she asked for a break. Then when you're together again at school, she's got you as her boyfriend along with all those perks.



Basically it means I want to have my cake and eat it too. Sucks to be you, dawg. I'd dump her if she asked for a break.

Answer 20

taking a break means that she's not completely happy, needs space, time to think, and wants to be able to date other people. [maybe for the summer, since alot of young people do that] you should see other women, because she'll be seeing other men, for sure.

Answer 21

she probly just wants some space. but i could mean she might want 2 see other people during the summer and if she still like u when u get back 2 school.

Answer 22

takinga break usually means that you are going to break up for a little bit. then if everything works out good and the people dont find someone new then you will get back together.

Answer 23

idk everyone has different views on taking a break... when me and my boyfriend take a break it means we are still together (meaning we dont look for other people to be with)but its just a little time away from each other and figure out what we are doing.

Have you tried talking to her? do you see yourself with her for a long time? if so you could wait for her although if you dont see your realationship going anywhere then i say get over her

Answer 24

It means going out and doing things without the other to see if you and her are really meant for each other. You may be and you may not. She doesn't want to lose you at this point but do as she asks cuz she really needs to find herself and want she wants with her life and maybe that would be good for you too cuz if you are meant for each other than your relationship will be stronger. But if you resist and act depressed and cling to her than it will drive her away and she will decide you two are not meant to be together.

Answer 25

taking a break means exactly what it is.. taking a break. maybe things werent going that good for you guys and she just needs time to think and explore her options. its kind of the less harsh way to say 'breaking up' because there is still a chance for you guys to get back together.



yes if i were you, i would start getting over her. not so much that you lose your feelings for her entirely but just a little so it doesnt hurt that much if things dont work out with you two. good luck!

Answer 26

i think she is probably a little bored or not happy about something...maybe u guys should do something fun togetheer this summer...let her know how much you love her..if my baby asks for a break i would assume too that maybe he wants to end everything but u should talk to her about it...if u really love her show her how much you do..prove it to her...make her happy..do something different and exciting....the summer is a great time for u two to have fun not "take a break"...hope i helped and good luck..

Answer 27

It sounds like she may really need a "break", or she has an interest in someone else. I would not take it personally--either way. You are a decent person in your own right. You should keep your options open also...It won't hurt to start getting over her--or emotionally distancing yourself from her.



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Answer 28

taking a break means lets break up 4 a lil while and she how it works 0ut hten when school comes back around n august u will c if she is still into u

Answer 29

ick I think that "taking a break" means that they dont want to be in a relationship but the next day they could come crawling back to you at any second.

Answer 30

if she wanted to break up with she would of done it a break just gives you some time to yourself don't get another hf unless you break up with her first and it is because you don't see a future

Answer 31

no taking a break just kinda means just givin it a rst for a bit - not like gettin over each other just not being around each other for a bit you know?

Answer 32

Not ready to commit or invest time in the relationship. This is her way of giving you a relationship "pink slip". Tell her goodbye, delete her number from your cell, delete her from your Myspace and get on with your life.

Answer 33

YOU CAN TAKE IT 2 WAYS

SHE WANTS TO SEE ANOTHER MAN AND WANTS TO SEE WHAT YOU WILL DO

OR YOU HAVE LOST HER AND START LOOKING.

BUT IF SHE CALLS YOU ALL THE TIME YOU HAVE A CHANCE

Answer 34

yeah, college. alot can happen in the summer. if you trust her alot, i guess but. taking a break is just playing the field in a way.

Answer 35

its a sign of she wants to end it.

she is saying "take a break" because she is confused about the relationship and soon she will say "we need to break up."

Answer 36

it means to weigh your options.its like a pre trial break up.if things work out,you stay as a couple.if she find someone else,you break up.thats what it means.i wish someone would have told me this 12 years ago.you live and you learn though.

Answer 37

i'm not into "taking a break" and think that it is a sign that the person is not ready to settle down yet/might not be mature enough for a monogomous and serious relationship yet.

Answer 38

its a nice way of sayin i wanna break up with u sry to tell u but its ok

Answer 39

I think she means she needs time away to think what she wants.Maybe she isnt ready for a relationsip rite now. Best wishes

Answer 40

To me that means that she still has feelings for you but isn't ready for a full commitment, yet.

Answer 41

it definitely means that she needs her space ! I am a woman and im exactly like that .

Answer 42

It could mean break up.. I suppose thats another way, but i might be wrong....

Answer 43

seems that she is ready to move on . so if i were you ' and you meet a new girl . just go for it and see what happens .

Answer 44

You are both free to do whatever you want. Enjoy your time off, because she probably will be. Sorry.

Answer 45

It's a nice way of saying "I dont want to be with you "

Answer 46

means she wants sex and lots of it without feeling guilty. just not with you.

Answer 47

cheating

Answer 48

They want to see other people! Duh!