I need the help of a girl help me!?

Question

I'm a shy 18 year old guy but I'm not ugly. I run cross country, have a six pack, Native American tan, dress well (hipster prep look), yada yada. My friend that's a girl said I'm a 7 or 8. I'm really shy around attractive girls. I can make jokes and comments but I can't start conversations and get to know them. Some girls make signs and look at me but i never seem to say the right things. Does a guy have to be attractive AND socially outgoing to get a girl. Do girls date and talk to guys that make the first move and reach out to them?

Answer 1

It honestly just depends on which girl you're talking about. Different girls like different types of guys. In my opinion, I like a guy that's attractive and can start/keep a conversation going. If you bore me, I'm not going to date you. Girls like it a lot when guys can make them laugh if they're upset. Or maybe even just laugh all the time. Eventually, you'll get out of this stage and you'll be able to keep a great conversation. Make sure you watch with the jokes though. Be funny, just don't get too cocky and be disrespectful. You don't necessarily have to be socially outgoing, but she'd like you to at least try to talk and keep the conversation. I've been in this situation plenty of times. I like it when guys reach out to me first. Just don't come on too strong! Good luck. :)

Answer 2

I know you asked for a girls advice but really, you need more than that.



My secret is embracing awkwardness and being witty (but witty is just me). Embracing the awks might be scary at first but for me, knowing what im embracing makes me laugh about it so i care just a bit less. If you think youre witty, dont abuse it. it will happen naturally.



If you can, try using cheesy lines but almost in a joking manner, theyre cheesy for a reason: to not be taken seriously.



This shows CONFIDENCE and (from what ive learned) girls think that the most amazing thing about a guy is confidence



so get out there, be afraid of nothing and embrace the stuff that might bring you down, it might bring you up :)



good luck on your journey

Answer 3

Making the first move is better because it shows girls you're confident and interested in them, but some girls don't care and will make the first move themselves. Just depends on the girl. I personally prefer when a girl is outgoing.