Please please help....guy advice. I met this guy I really liked...very nice and everything I wanted in a guy?

Question

He was very unhappy with his girlfriend and had broken up with her after four years....and I had just broke up w my bf of 4 years and we were friends for awhile. After a few weeks we became bf and gf and were VERY happy. Everything was perfect..he said he was happier with me then he ever had been, had me meet his parents and they liked me, wanted me to meet all his friends, he got out of his lease with her and then looked at condos together w me bc he wanted to move in with me and talked about marrying me, said he loved me, his friends said they had never seen him happier. I was great to him...did everything I could to make him happy, we were together everyday for 3 months. He said constantly that he made a great choice and was so glad to have her out of his life. Saturday he called me and dumped me over the phone out of nowhere---everything was perfect friday till he left at 9- bc he ran into his ex and got back w her. She is sooo mean and sends me mean txts and stuff when Im not even talking to them and his parents kicked him out for dating her again and his friends no longer want to talk to him bc her. I dont understand what happened...he really seemed to like me and seemed happy. And I am not being catty but honestly this girl is very mean to him....hits him, yells at him for stupid things, wont let him have friends, stays at his work all the time watching him, cheated on him 4xs. Do you think he will regret it and come back to me someday? Or was I not enough? I dont know what I did wrong?

Answer 1

these kinds of people never learn. unfortunatly what id say is move on but keep in contact with him as a friend. thats all you can do because he has to learn. also id say you were the rebound.

Answer 2

You didn't do anything wrong. Sometimes you can't control your feelings, even when the other person is mean. He was with her for 4 years and was with you for only 3 months, that is a big difference. When you're with someone for 4 years it takes a lot to get over them, as hurtful and mean as a person as they are. I don't know if there's an easy explanation. I was that mean girl w/my ex of 5 years and then he had this super nice girl, yet for some reason he could not let me go, its some kind of love that is not always easy to walk away from. Who knows if he'll regret it, that's if he decides and is strong enough to walk away. I'm sorry but it is not you it is him who needs to get over her and until he does this he can't completely move on, but you should.

Answer 3

If shes harassing you then I would call the police, well thats if you dont want to hurt her 'cause really I would hurt her. And if he wants to come back to you dont let him back in. You may say you love him but love can be blinding. You would never know if he would do it again. Let him stay with her and have a miserable life. And over the phone? This guy isn't worth your time and energy. You will find that one special guy who will have your heart 4 ever soon, very soon. Forget about that jerk. And NEVER think your not enough for anyone, their not enough for you.

Answer 4

No offense but this guy sounds like he doesn't know WHAT the hell he wants. I don't know if I could go back to a guy that used me, got back together with his ex & then when things go back to normal/shitty with the ex, he's back trying to get with you. I would just drop him. There's tons of great guys out there & from the sounds of it, he probably compared and talked about his ex a lot to you, that should have been a red flag.



So, in short, move on. Good luck!

Answer 5

You did nothing wrong. I don't know if he will get back with you. He wasnt over his ex when you guys started going out. That's what caused him to go back to her. Also even if she's mean to him he's still going to want her for some odd reason. He was also probably still talking to her while you guys were going out. My advice is to go looking for a bf else where. About the texts just try to ignore them. Go on with your life if he really loved you he wouldnt of left you for her. Dont just believe a guy when he says he loves you he has to show it. Boys say alot of things.

Answer 6

junky, did you read this question, a 12 year old cant have been going out for 4 years, that would mean they got together at 8. and what 12 year old buys a condo!??

now for the answer,

you should talk to him and ask him what happened? tell him he made the wrong choice but don't ask for him back, he will realize he wasnt happy with her and he might come back, talk to his and your friends about what happened and have them help you because the can help you more. hope it works out, sorry about the breakup :'(

Answer 7

Hey Girl,

First of all, don't lose sleep over it because it's his loss not yours. He dumped you because he's stupid, he went back with her because he's desperate. I might seem mean saying that but it's true. Forget about him because he's not worth you.



He was stupid to dump you over the phone out of the blue. He was probably not brave enough to do it face to face therefore he's not good enough for you. Move on from him, he's a jerk.



Don't be hard on yourself thinking you've done something wrong or your not enough. You were probably perfect to him but he was too dumb to realize that your better than her.



Don't beat yourself up about it, move on from him. He's not worth your tears darls so let him weep when he see's you with someone who is right for you.



Hope this helps and I hope I don't sound really nasty.

Natalie x

Answer 8

i think your guy likes you but just cant get over his ex. it is probably obsession more than love. its sad the way you describe his life is now. if you can see him face to face, it'd be good to get to know his side of the story and talk some sense into him. if you really love someone, all you want is for the person to be happy right? and that does not necessarily mean you have to be with him. so, if you really want to help him, be prepared to get hurt coz he might be too blinded by his ex that he will treat you meanly. thou i dun tink he'll know what he is doing. so you have to be strong for him. if he doesn't want to listen to you, get his friends and parents to talk some sense into him. parents and best friends would be very good candidates to approach this guy. if all dont work, it's too bad then.. all you can do is pray to god, or whatever religion you're practising.

Answer 9

Hey I don't want to be preaching to you or nothing like that because I don't know what religion you are. Okay you're probably a little to young for me to answer this the way I should because you're probably about 12 and I'm 15 so I know more about stuff you see. Any way call your mom or dad at work and see if they can come home and help you. If things get to weird or crazy, or scary then call 911. I'm just assuming you live in the USA because you don't mention anything about that.

Answer 10

I dont think you did anything wrong.

Ive been in a relationship like his before and its like being addicted to someone. He went back to her because shes comfortable and they have a history.

That being said. Count yourself lucky that it didnt last too long.

You deserve to be liked for yourself and not a rebound. Dont worry about this guy he will realize his mistake but dont be there for him when he does. You're worth more than that.

Answer 11

I don't think you did anything wrong. To be honest I'd move on because you probably deserve better. Possibly he'll come crawling back on his knees but then he'd might pull another stunt like that. But yeah I'd move on to hopefully find someone better.

Answer 12

Don't let him come back you after what he did you to you!

I would be really angry if a girl did that to me!

Let him stay in a bad relationship its his fault, he can get hit and shouted at, mabye he has a fetish for that lol..

Just get over him he is a mug, find someone else :)

Answer 13

I think he will get tired of her attitude and find you and beg you to get back with him. But if he doesn't he has no sense at all! If he would whether be with someone that will make his life miserable than be with someone that will make him happy then its his loss. You diden't do anything. Don't worry.

Answer 14

Even if he does regret it and come back, you deserve better. Forget him. It'll be difficult, but you deserve someone who will love you and not use you as a placeholder while waiting to get back with their ex.

Answer 15

I think he will definitely change his mind and come back to you if he was happier with you then her, don't worry he will come back just give him his space and time.

Answer 16

he probably craves abuse form that other girl if he tries to come back to you dont let him he will just hurt you again look for someone else.

Answer 17

No it is not your fault. Either we is stupid or physco, or maybe he was blackmailed. I don't know, but if this was me (I am a guy) I wouldn't go to my ex.

Answer 18

put urself in his shoes for a while...maybe he was happy but was missing something...like sex or other things....just try to think how he does and maybe you will figure out what happened.

Answer 19

i can't beileve he did that that was so stupid he is so stupid he will come crawling back soon enough

Answer 20

he obviously stuck on that b so move on forget him

Answer 21

if you let her get to you she has won so just block her number or something...

Answer 22

just break up with him

it's just not worth it

Answer 23

he will regret it and when he does move on that

Answer 24

quit talking about me

Answer 25

you're stupid.