I need a guy’s point of view. My boyfriend wants to break up because of my past.?

Question

I would really appreciate a guy’s point of view because my boyfriend seems obsessed about my past. I don’t like to share intimate details about my life but I really would like some feedback.
I lost my virginity at the age of 21 and I’m currently 33 years old. So from 21 until now I’ve slept with 4 men (including my boyfriend). So he’s my 4th and he considers me an easy girl. I know I’m not an angel but I don’t think my number is that high compared to other friends I have who started in their teen years. My boyfriend has a past too and I’ve never judged him. He hooked up with many girls and even cheated. He now has 3 children from a previous woman while I never got pregnant with any of my previous partners. Is it fair for him to judge me in such a hard way? He’s mad because the first guy I slept with was married but the thing is that he never told me. He basically hide from me that he was married and I was innocent and unexperienced with men back then. I also felt pressured to have sex because I never met a guy who wouldn’t pressure me. A guy actually dumped me for not giving him sex one time. But anyways, that’s in the past and it happened years ago but he says he can’t accept it.Is this fair at all? Am I really a bad girl?

Answer 1

Men are stupid and weird. I find easy girls hot, like gf material hot, so long as they are monogamous in a relationship. It means they enjoy sex a lot and sex with men a lot. On top of that 4 isn't even many. That's very few partners.

Answer 2

If he's judging you for your past - it doesn't sound like he has true love for you.



It sounds like you need some professional counseling to help you talk through this. It's often available for little or no fee through health insurance. Almost everyone needs counseling at some point in their lives. Maybe he will eventually be willing to come along.



Hope this helps!

Answer 3

If the guy is really obsessed with your past, life long relationship will always be at risk. It is better to tell him everything broadly before moving on further and if he is emotionally attached with you, he would accept everything.

Answer 4

Your sexual history sounds pretty mild almost girl scout like and he should not be judgemental, considering his past. Some people say you shouldn’t throw bricks when you live in a glass house and I think this is the case with your boyfriend

Answer 5

You are certainly NOT a "bad girl" by the last two generation's standards. Your boyfriend is coming off as a very serious jerk though. Judgmental of women but, apparently, not of men. Honey, that's a JERK. I'm a gal but I suggest you show him the door immediately. He is not worthy of you. 

Answer 6

Let him break up with you, he's doing you the favor.  Sounds like his behavior is only going to get worse.  Plus, you can't change your history anyway, so what does he expect you to do about it?  Is he even involved in his kids' lives or pay child support?  This guy has more red flags than a xmas parade.



And, no, 4 is not a lot by any stretch.

Answer 7

Assuming you're not making this all up, your boyfriend sounds like a total, controlling d**k-head and hypocrite and I would drop him ASAP if I were you.

Answer 8

Not reading all that, doesn't matter anyways. You lead says he wants to break up with you becouse of your past, which means. You are better off knowing that now and kicking him to the curb.  Judgemental child is what he is, you don't need that in your life. It will eventually turn into control.

Answer 9

ofcourse you are not bad. he has to love you as you are ,i think that he only wants good sex from you.. consider that too

Answer 10

You lying, there's no way you only slept with 4 guys. 

Answer 11

You are allowed to have a past. If he breaks up with you, good riddance.

Answer 12

You are not an 'easy girl'. Your boyfriend has no right to judge you based on your past if you take his into consideration. If he is saying stuff like this now, that doesn't bode well for you long term.

Answer 13

He believes in the "double standard" which is the belief that it's OK for men to have sex but not for women. He wants to marry a "pure" virgin.



He isn't a good choice as a partner. Not only is he a misogynist and a hypocrite, but he is probably paying a lot of income in child-support.



Tell him he's a hypocrite, then YOU dump HIM.



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