HELP ME I CAN'T TAKE THIS ANYMORE?

Question

I'm writing this because i don't know what ales to do and i can not take this anymore i am 27 year old guy and i'm polish it seems that i can not find a girl that is right for me i ran out of ideas i put my self out there i told all of my friends most of them are girl that i know from work most of them are married or have a kid but they are single i'm a very kind honest guy i keep it to my self don't talk whole lot when some one talk to me then i answer back i'm not ugly or gay don't smoke do drink once in a while that about it i don't talk whole a lot i keep it to my self i read books a lot where i get a chance i read so why the hell i can not find a girl that is right for me last time i went out on a date was 11 months ago and it lasted about a month and that was the last time i was on a date i'm not ugly or a gay i am very kind guy not a party animal don't drink well once or twice a year that about it anyway why the hell i can not find a nice down to earth girl it is impossible to find a girl like that don't know what to do anymore i tried every thing and nothing works i just give up if any one has any ideas where to find a nice girl that actually know what they want in the life that would be nice please no stupid comments don't bother to write it if its mean stupid i won't just read it

thank you all for reading this and for you time answer it

Answer 1

just be confident in yourself and be yourself. when you go out, plan to just have a good time, maybe meet some people, but don't have it in your head that you have to meet a girl. the right one will come, but don't stress about it. don't try too hard to be someone you're not. that will just push girls away. just enjoy life and be happy with yourself. have a good time and be more laid back about things and you may be surprised what might happen for you!

Answer 2

I understand, my friend goes through the same thing and so have I, but I have learned the hard way and have decided to look no further. There is someone out there for me, but I would much rather let it be then be all over the place looking. The minute you relax is when people start knocking your door and I have two already who are eager and waiting, but I am not ready yet. My advice, stop looking, focus on yourself, your life, there is so much you can do to ease that thought. But if you are looking for it bad, try eharmony, I have seen too many commercials, hey you never know. Best of luck

Answer 3

You sound like a very pleasant guy!!!!!! I would like you but I don't quite think im old enough. But ok here is what you do...



You have friends so have a friday night out and go IN A GROUP to a club or party or some where with lots of people. And I know you are a quiet guy but you just have to loosen up a bit and talk to people don't blurt out you life story but you know just talk!!! Use dorky pickup lines Any thing to get a girls attention then just be the sweet charming guy that you seem to be but DO NOT LIE TO THEM that will make the relationship crash and they will tell all their friends and their friends will tell theirs and so on and so forth you get it so ya good luck and god bless!!!

Answer 4

Wow... I have the same problem. It's alright. Except I'm only 19. So people this way at every age. I have learned to accept that their is a destiny and absence (yea thats right) makes the heart grow fonder. There is a plan for you, keep thinking that to yourself. Anyday could be the day that you meet the love of your life. Get out more, the best way to meet someone who you really like is at a place you really like. If you LOVE reading and want a girl who is the same way, start going to the library or bookstores more. My mom always told me the moment you stop looking for someone, is when that someone will step into your life. Not to sound corny or anything but it's true. Trust me, there is someone for EVERYONE. You will meet her soon... I'm sure of it.

Answer 5

It might not be your turn yet.

Stop trying just go with the flow she will come along

I am 27 years old and polish as well, and single. Or I seem to meet the wrong guys.

Concentrate on yourself, dont be desperate and just go with the flow.

And realize your not the only one in a crisis like that. There are a lot of single people out there.

Answer 6

Do you have a good job? Do you have a sense of humor? That might be affecting why you don't get dates if the answer to either is no...

Maybe try to be more outgoing?



One good place I thought of to find a "nice" girl that "actually knows what she wants in life" is at some kind of fun religious activity? Just throwing that out there....most of those kinds of girls seem to know what they want in life.

Answer 7

Shift your perspective. You said you cannot find a girl that is right for you. It then becomes all about you, your needs. What about making yourself available to fit "her" needs? I suspect after a bit, being with a girl, you start finding things wrong with them when in fact they are fine the way they are. Shift your way of being. This could look like being open (really), vulnerable, wrong, listening, standing for there greatness no matter how they are. This takes study and the willingness to fail. That's my two bits. good luck. She is out there.

Answer 8

your normal try a dating service tell the blog the truth about yourself and take your time and lot's of cold showers ha-ha just kidding there is no due date on you except the one you stamp on yourself they out number us at least 3 to 1 the odds are in your favor good luck and God bless (try a church)

Answer 9

You sound pretty decent to me but rather shy. Have you ever considered taking a class in public speaking? You need to learn how to carry on a conversation and keep it going. Also, try hiring a Life coach. They can help with everything from how you dress, style of hair, and yes, even how to approach women and keep them coming. Give it a try and good luck!

Answer 10

i suggest you get advice from an astrologer who knows your love cycle. A great one that I've been to previously is Eugenia Last - www.eugenialast.com she'll give you great advise, and tell you when you're due for love. Make sure you give her your birth time and date accurately, otherwise the information will be wrong. You also have to write as if you're begging for her to answer, because she only chooses 3 readers emails per week.

Answer 11

Just because you want something doesn't mean you can snap your fingers and make it happen. When its your time to meet someone and settle down, you will. Love isn't planned, that's the beauty of it. Stop beating yourself up. Your flaws are what will attract someone to you. In the mean time, just do your thing and when the time is right then its right.

Answer 12

hi :) do u want to be one of my yahoo IM buddies :) my email is [e-mail]. i know that u will find the right girl.u sound like a realllllly nice guy,heck if i wuz ur age i would definitly date u even prolly marry u :) LOL. try visiting alot of different places. ur definitly going to find a girl. :)

Answer 13

Since you do not want to bar hop...and you have brought up that you are Polish...are there are churches that you can visit with a singles group or Polish American Associations?

Answer 14

Try a dating website, or go spend some time in bars or other public place where you can meet singles.

Answer 15

u dont seem gay or ugly, u seem really nice, u should join some clubs or go to a public event, and hopefully ull meet someone,

ull find someone

Answer 16

you sound like a good person to me. i would suggest going out more and meeting new people. try asking the girl that no one really wants but she still is good-hearted

Answer 17

you could always try a dating service. you sound like a chill guy, and you might be looking in the wrong spots,

Answer 18

well .. it sounds like you are a nice guy .. have you tried any kind of like speed dating?

My husband's cousin meet her husband on match.com .. they lived right down the road from each other. i would give that a try .. i've heard it works!!

Answer 19

you should relax a little and live life, go on a vacation, go to the movies, go out into this world and one day you may just find your true love until then just enjoy life...

Answer 20

Hey man, you sound like me. I am quiet, nice too. Don't worry, someone will find you. The world needs special guys like us.



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Answer 21

Eye contact



and smiles



and some nice denim a nice shirt



"Hi my name is "boom"



your in the endzone



"Can I make a touchdown in your endzone." lmao



good luck dude

Answer 22

Uhhg online dating???

Answer 23

try church there are pretty nice girls there or a library.

Answer 24

well, they usualy pop out of no where.... BUT! keep putting urself out there & do what you like, just have fun! the one for you WILL pop outa no where!

Answer 25

I understand where your coming from man...just be patient and all we be ok

Answer 26

boo hoo

Answer 27

if you're religious in any way... church?

Answer 28

idk wat u should do

sry