What can i do next year to make sure everyone thinks im a really nice cute sweet guy?

mahala05

2009-06-23 10:37:49 UTC

go to a lot of "social events" such as parties, this shows girls ur willing to meet new girls and r openhearted, be a nice guy and dont be a loud mouth... makes u look like an idiot.. hope i helped:)

2009-06-23 10:39:51 UTC

omg noooo be the hot sexy jock that everyone wants to be or be with!!! girls in highschool love a guy who is like the head leader of his group. someone with confidence. not stuck up jerk. but someone who has the "power" to start new trends that people follow and does it with something like "clean up the highway" programs. that way girls also see a sensitive carrying side. remember the saying nice guys finish last.. well i have a nice guy.. pretty much perfect. and now i dont even want him because it feels boring. i want something new.. a little more edgy!!

if you are the shy guy... you're at a new school, no one knows you, its time to break out of your shell. the shy guy in the back of the class never gets picked first to be lab partners. you have to get out there and experience highschool the way its meant to be experienced. you only get 4 years of this!!!! live it up!!!

ohh and about getting over her.. probably wont happen for a long time. cut all connection with her cuz its easier. keep busy and active so you keep your mind off of her and slowly with time the pain will leave.

Gayle

2009-06-23 10:59:07 UTC

I'm not a "girl" any more, but I can tell you that I really liked the shy guys best, because they didn't act boastful or come on too strong or seem to be just after me for sex. It's a shame the way that girl treated you, and I don't know why she did, but it is obvious that she is far from being the right person for you--she isn't even a nice person at all, if she is spreading lies.

If you work it right, you should be able to find a sweet, loving girl. I don't guarantee "cute," but I have found that a person whom you come to love for the right reasons ends up looking awfully good to you, anyway. So, while it is natural for a young person to want to date people that others will envy him/her for, just keep this point in mind for the long run. The person you end up happily married to someday may or may not be beautiful or cute, but *you* will think she is!

But to get back to the subject at hand: To avoid repeating that bad experience, what you need to do is try to get into some activities where you can get an idea of a girl's true character before showing you like her.

(Take a serious look at how a girl acts and train yourself not to like the ones that show bad traits like being too flirtatious with everyone, putting people down, lying, flying into rages over small things, betraying their friends, only going after boys who have money or are super-popular, making fun of people for things they can't help, like being fat or not too bright.) That girl that hurt you--at the very least, she gets a big NO for lying and being malicious, malicious to someone who didn't even do anything to hurt her. Hold that good thought and it will help you get over her. You will appreciate the right girl all the more when you find her, and I have a feeling that your being shy will work in your favor to find her.

When you find someone who is really a nice person and you think you could go for her, start by smiling, casually praising her if you see her do something nice, walking by her side if you are in a group going somewhere, maneuvering to be in the same group she is working in, and just generally showing approval and liking. That's how I'd like a new quiet guy in my class to act. Don't overdo it, and save the gifts and loving messages for after she gives you a favorable response and the relationship has progressed a bit. You will see from her reactions whether she likes you, too.

Many group activities lend themselves to letting you get to know girls before committing yourself by showing special liking for any one of them: clubs, group lessons, choirs, volunteer work (especially good, because a girl doing that already cares about the welfare of others, right?), part-time jobs...you can probably think of others, too. Go for it!

I am sure that you are going to find the right person one day. Sometimes it doesn't happen till college or after, but meanwhile you will get to know some nice girls who treat you right.

sweetlaugh4life

2009-06-23 10:38:03 UTC

well good luck at ur new school first of all. Second dont try to change who you are if your a quiet sweet guy. People are gonna wanna be around you too. I mean im a girl and when i see a quiet guy its such a relief, most guys are tryin wayyyyyyy too hard. So loud and annoying. So my advice just take it easy, try talking to other people that my be shy too. Im sure you'll find someone and ur 'll b just fine! :)

2009-06-23 10:39:50 UTC

Honestly some girls do like shy guys cause some girls are also shy and if they find a guy that is shy like them they will want to be with you cause they think that yu will understand what they go through. As for the Ex-Gurlfriend forget her she was a JERK for doing that get over her. Good Luck(:

Bobby

2009-06-23 10:39:15 UTC

Well first, you need to get a reputation - try and make friends with the 'cool' kids. Alot of people who don't know you will judge you by the people you hang around with and assume you're like them.

If you become popular girls will always come for you or you may even entice who ever you like :)

As for the other girl, i know it's hard we've all been in similar situations, but you have to forget about it, she is not worth thinking about if she did that to you, is she?

2009-06-23 10:34:12 UTC

Well shyness doesn't help you with most women. They like to look for a man that is vocal and expressive, and outstanding. with shyness and timidness you blend into the background, unless you make yourself noticed by achievement or talent in something.

As for being nice and sweet... thats all good but you need something special that gets you NOTICED, and you should definitely be more social and more comfortable to talk to other people.

Good luck.

Jennifer

2009-06-23 10:43:31 UTC

I am a girl and i think guys who are shy are probably the best. I would totally go out with a shy guy. I love talking to the new kids as long as i c they are not hanging out with people i don't like. You can try being by yourself girls might feel sad because you don't know anyone so they will talk to you. Then if you show them your shy one of them is bound to find you attractive. idk if this will help but i hope it does.

2009-06-23 10:37:19 UTC

Just walk infront of some girls and act really shy.If the girls are nice they'll walk up to you and notice your the new guy they will become very friendly.