Question:
to surprise or not?
Mr. Right
2006-12-19 11:17:07 UTC
im 20, n the army, and been deployed for 6 months...and come home next month....should i let my mom know so she can stop worrying, or is surprising her a better idea?
35 answers:
dabblin
2006-12-19 11:20:18 UTC
I would surprise her, but let someone else in the family know (someone that won't spill the beans). This person could be reassuring your mom that you are fine and making her feel better.
2006-12-19 11:18:56 UTC
Surprise
?
2006-12-19 11:20:37 UTC
My boyfriend was deployed to Kuwait for 6 months. He came home without telling me and surprised me and it was the greatest thing I have ever felt in my life. I can only imagine a mother being surprised by her son. Go for the surprise, it'd be great. I would stop all contact with her, if you talk to her. Good luck!! Show up on the front door step in your dress uniform!!
Wyatt B
2006-12-19 11:19:40 UTC
She have a strong heart? Then surprise her! I would also ask your army buddies and/or commanding officer what they think about it.



OK...I slightly alter my opinion after reading those that followed. I stay to still surprise her, but call her first to let her know you're alright, tell her you're coming home in a couple months, then show up a lot sooner when she's not expecting you. It'll still be a great surprise, but she'll at least be able to relax knowing you're alright.
Munya Says: DUH!
2006-12-19 11:18:32 UTC
Let momma know. Do not try to surprise the poor woman, as great as a surprise that will be BUT in this instance, tell her you're coming home!
Meko
2006-12-19 11:20:59 UTC
I would call her two days before; I come home just to let her know that I am alright.



I then would tell her that I get a break in about two months, and I will be coming home.



On arrival day your mother will be surprised and happy to see you. It will be worth the call and the surprise.



Hang in the solider, and good luck to you out there.
OnedayI'mgonna
2006-12-19 11:25:15 UTC
We'll you can kinda do both. Let her know it's coming up but don't give her the exact time. Even a week earlier would be a great surprise. Us women we are good at worrying but we also like surprises. So if you can get it kinda in the middle you both win. Congrats on your return and thanks for your service.
Qmd86
2006-12-19 11:24:08 UTC
As a Mom, I say tell her! But to be a surprise, you could tell her you're coming next month, but not necessarily when (ex.- if you're coming back the 10th, tell her the 20th for a surprise) BUT if she's a worrier, skip the surprise & tell her the date. (But you can surprise her with either flowers or something else.) You'll be surprise enough for her. ;)
D'oh!
2006-12-19 11:19:54 UTC
Glad to hear your mom will have a good Christmas gift. I would surprise her so that you could never forget the look in her face when she sees you walk through the door. Just make sure she will be home.
Roubini
2006-12-19 11:21:39 UTC
You should know better! It depends on whether she likes surprises! But, if you see that she is starting worrying a lot, tell her!
LemonPro
2006-12-19 12:20:45 UTC
surprise is good only to some few extent, if you go beyond people might get hurt and have opposite reaction. So better think yourself which one would be better! Taking care of all circumstances, take your steps.
Ana P
2006-12-19 11:18:53 UTC
if you want to surprise her.....just let her know that you are okay and everything is good with you.....then when you get deployed surprise her...
2006-12-19 11:21:20 UTC
Let her know ... it sucks not knowing what's going on with your loved ones ... it's heart-breaking ... I think it will be just as important if you surprised her ... yeah the whole t.v. - slow motion - hugs & kisses thing is really only for t.v. ... lol ... make her day and let her know when you're coming home ... !
ઈтєlly
2006-12-19 11:20:25 UTC
Sounds like that Folger's Coffee commercial if you were to surprise her! (Personally I think you should tell her - Mom's worry about their children.)
white.devil
2006-12-19 11:21:57 UTC
Let her know you're coming, moms love to have an excuse to throw a party.
2006-12-19 11:19:12 UTC
Surprise here!
Cutie77
2006-12-19 11:21:03 UTC
Let your mom know... b/c if you surprise her you might give your ol'woman an heart attack!
Stacey K
2006-12-19 11:18:34 UTC
Go for the surprise. She'll love it!
Rubba Bubba
2006-12-19 11:19:50 UTC
I would tell my mom. cuz there will be two good things YOU WILL SURPRISE UR MOM.. and Ur Mom will Surprise you with a Welcome Home Party Well Maybe but if not she will mostly telll you good news....So call and tell her
laurenj677
2006-12-19 13:15:55 UTC
i would leave it closer to the time as i know my mates dates for coming home changed 3 times before they came home but do say you hope to see her soon
dlgrl=me
2006-12-19 11:24:16 UTC
Hi ...I am proud of you too..let your mom know, she will be sooooooooo happy and it will take a burden off of her mind. Stay safe and <<>>> for the job you do.
Lone Silver Wolf
2006-12-19 11:20:41 UTC
Tell her, it would be best, surprises are good but this kinda isn't generally.
markusrosso
2006-12-19 11:22:16 UTC
Man, i think you should give your mother a message that you're comming home, but don't let her know when you actually arrive. that will make a tremendous surprize! God speed.
hailey
2006-12-19 11:20:00 UTC
surprise is the best,... she will be OH SO surprised if you can keep the secret
Antonio
2006-12-19 11:19:32 UTC
i think a surprise would be pretty cool
yleemoreno
2006-12-19 11:19:29 UTC
A surprise would be AWESOME!!!!! You should definitely surprise her, she deserves it. make her day
nyer_stuck_in_dc
2006-12-19 11:19:59 UTC
are you f***n' crazy? Of course let her know. Dude, trust me on this one, I'm in the Air Force and she def would want to know.
2006-12-19 11:20:06 UTC
surprise her, that would make her day to see you at her door when she doesn't even know that your gonna be there :) :) :)
Eyes of Green
2006-12-19 11:18:40 UTC
surprise her and bring flowers
***BUTTERFLY***
2006-12-19 11:24:09 UTC
SOOOOO YAY SMILES FOR HAPPY SURPRISES ...HHHMMM AND GIFTS FOR MOM! meanwhile you could just make her rest easy by telling her your fine and cant wait to see her next time.



definitly S-U-R-P-R-I-S-E !!!!!!!!!!!!
Suzy
2006-12-19 11:19:48 UTC
i would love the surprise....go for it...



and God Bless you for your service
tearzofaprincess
2006-12-19 11:18:51 UTC
HMMM. I think it would be cool if you suprise her.. but if she is really worried then I guess you should tell her.
masterzuaba
2006-12-19 11:22:32 UTC
send her a letter that will arrive the same day as you and surpise her
geelili
2006-12-19 11:19:14 UTC
both ideas seem nice...

either way she'll be happy...

do what you think is best...

YOU know your mom & probably also what she would like best
lala
2006-12-19 11:20:37 UTC
suprise her.


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