Keybearer21
2011-04-24 07:01:40 UTC
We both live in the same dorms so suffice it to say we usually sleep in the same bed together. It gives the feeling of actually being an "official" marriage without it actually being one. I guess you could call it cohabitation. I know people say that when you start to live with someone you see them in a different way. I've lived with this girl for a year just about and i can honestly say i don't find anything that really turns me off from loving her. I mean i guess i don't expect everything to reveal itself in just a year but i haven't found anything yet which to me is a good sign. Everyone(besides her parents, which ill get to later) always comments on how much of a good match we are and it feels good because I've never felt so happy or had so many people tell me that before with someone i was with.
Here's my dilemma though:I want to marry her. She wants to get married too. The only thing is I don't feel like i'm ready. And i don't mean ready as in emotionally ready, but more of financially. You see I'm currently without a job at the moment though i'm getting one during the summer once school's out as usual. I know alot of people say its best to wait till u have all of your stuff together before marriage. I was actually thinking of getting her a promise ring for her upcoming birthday instead of a engagement ring but my friend was telling me the other day that "if you know you're going to marry this girl then you should just straight get engaged."
I've been toying with the idea in my mind ever since but i guess I'm a little afraid of the backlash that i'll have with her parents as well as my own. Her parents don't generally like me, not because I'm mean or anything, but because she spends alot of time with me. Her dad always liked to keep her to himself. I guess its more of her dad than her mom, anyway, I know that this is the one girl for me, the one i want to marry, and i feel like I'm ready for commitment for life, and i want to be with her for life, its just as far as everything else goes I'm not.
So i was wondering what you guys thought. Should i wait to pop the question or not? Thanks :)