My ex and i broke up in january, but he calls every know and then what should i do? help?

Question

My ex and I broke up in january and he called me in feb for valentines. I didnt go out with him but I called him two days later and explained why i didnt. now since january he moved in with a new woman but yet was still calling me. since then he moved from her, i guess and went out of town for a couple weeks. and while he was gone he called me then, I guess when he got back he called two days ago. I feel like this we had a bad relationship and i dont feel its right to still talk to each other. he always used me. so he called two days ago and i just ignored the calls , but i am starting to feel like I should just tell him ive moved on and would appreciate him not calling, but we live in the same town and I dont want to seam like i start problems but Im tired of that awkward feeling of should i answer or continue to ignore. oh yeah when he left a message he said he was just calling to see how I was . what ever I think hes just trying to mind f*** me to be honest. what should I do please help.

Answer 1

When you broke up, you established a boundary

He is violating your boundary.



He does not understand boundaries.



Tell him it is over and you don't want him calling.



If he continues to call anyway, tell him again to stop calling.



One thing not to do is not answer the phone and expecting

him to figure out that means don't call me. You must

tell him over and over until he gets it.



Eventually you can get legal help if necessary -

if so, come back and ask about a restraining order and

procedure for getting it.

Answer 2

This is why men and women cannot be friends, especially exes. Ignore 90% of his calls, and when you do feel like answering, say you are VERY busy lately, and you are dating as well. Make it short, you owe no one NO explanations. He'll get the hint and stop. Hell, change cell phone numbers if you have to, who cares. You are done and he moved on, there is no reason for you two to keep contact...only bad feelings will come out of it...

Answer 3

You are soooo smart, to see what's happening here, and to know that he used you, and that you feel you shouldn't talk anymore. SOOOOO smart, so good for you.



What he is doing is what a lot of men do, and it's called "stringing you along" making you think that he still likes you and still cares. He doesn't. He is doing that, so that he can have you when it's convenient for HIM. Just use you for what he wants, then disappear again. Remember: No chat, no email, no text, and certainly NO phonecalls.... he doesn't deserve an explanation from you on anything; you are broken up. And aren't you glad, because this leaves you a lot of free time, to ahem, explore other great men, who really ARE worthy of smart and cute little you. ;) Good luck!

Answer 4

If he moved in with another girl right after you broke up, then I don't know why he cares so much about what you're doing. If he used you in the past, then he's definitely trying to use you now. Just ignore him completely and if he doesn't get the hint, tell him yourself that you don't want to keep in contact anymore. You're exes and it needs to stay that way.