How would you take this message from your lover?

Question

This morning, I had an email from him that says "I'm glad that you emailed me that. This morning I was thinking how boring, and slow things have gotten for us in the past few weeks. We were at a peak, then things just dropped. It will take both of us to get things back to where we were. Neither of us can fix this alone. With things being all slow, and out of synce, I'm not feeling it"

Answer 1

Wow... and what did you email him? and maybe I can go from there.



ok, thanks for posting that.. He is apparently is going thru some things.. right??, Maybe he just feels that everything is weighing him down. You know what it's like when so much is going on.. you feel like the world is caving in on you. By your emails, it sounds like you guys are open and can talk to eachother and that's a major plus. If he is going thru a lot, be there as much as you can for him without jepordizing you getting your feelings hurt. If you guys go out again, then spice things up for him.. do something you haven't done in a while or something you have never done.. Depending on your age.. I can suggest some things..

Answer 2

His "im not feeling it" response means exactly that. He's probably extremely frustrated with the particular turn of events and perhaps he is too exausted to want to try and fix things. He could also too, be letting these immediate feelings get the best of him and perhaps he's speaking out of spite. He could be saying things that he means at this point in time because of his intense feelings for the situation and maybe he's not really expressing what he truely wants to say to you.



I suggest that the two of you work this out in person. It's the only way that both of you can really get to the root of this issue, and come to a clear and honest conclusion. I hope that everything works out for the better. My best to you and your boyfriend.

Answer 3

Well, I think knowing what you emailed him would help, but if he's just randomly emailed you, I would be a little bit peeved at what appears to be:



a) a cop out and

b) terribly pretentious. And if he is going to put something as pretentious as "With things being all slow, and out of synce, I'm not feeling it" he could at least bother to spell synch correctly.

Answer 4

From a guys point of view, I'd say he is trying to tell you that he wants to spend more time with you, because time apart is causing the relationship to drag on a bit to slow for comfort.

Answer 5

sounds like he hasn't been into the relationship for a little time now & he wants to work at it. he is glad you took the first step by emailing him.

Answer 6

He wants both of you to work things out.

Answer 7

Sounds like it's time to spice things up! All relationships have ups and downs btw!

Answer 8

He's high maintenance. He's going to wander sooner or later. Get a new man before he gets a new woman.

Answer 9

i love honesty, its so nice to hear. that is heart felt. that is a good guy.. u better start working damn hard to keep this fella if u want him. or let him go so some other lucky girl can have him!

Answer 10

He/she's a little bit grumpy about something and you should ask what it is you did. It seems like he/she feels that he's/she's the only one working on your relationship.

Answer 11

Sorry to say, but it sounds a bit like a break up... Then again I don't know him or your relationship so it's really up to you how you perceive it.

Answer 12

i think u should have romantic times together thatll patch things up