Guys saying the L word too quick...?

Question

Hey guys.

You always hear that guys are afraid of commitment and girls are the ones who always fall in love to fast and freak out the guy right? At least that's how it happens in movies and stuff. Well I keep having the opposite problem.

I've dated 3 guys in the past 5 months and literally every single one of them said they loved me within the first week or two. I am NOT the kind of girl that falls in love quick so when they say that I get really uncomfortable. I have only been in love once and it took 6 months for me to really know it for sure. I just don't think you can really know if you love someone or not that quickly.

How do I make guys slow down? I just wanna chill and live in the moment...i'm not looking too far into the future right now, i'm only 20.

I would love advice from a guys point of view, but girls are welcome to share advice too.

Thanks everyone.

Answer 1

George, are you a dude or a chick? Because that makes ALL the difference...

Answer 2

I'm a guy who has had the same problem a few times- the girl throws it out there, and then I feel like I'm screwed because even if I really like the girl, I haven't had enough time to figure out if I'm really in love with them so I either have to be dishonest and say, "Aw, I love you too..." or say "That's nice, dear..."

I think your best bet, when faced with that situation, is to ask yourself if you see there being a possibility of falling in love with them. If there is, then tell them that: that you're really glad to hear that they love you, that's awesome, and that you will need more time with them to be sure enough to say it back because those words are very significant to you and when you DO say it, you want to mean it completely.

The girl I'm with right now said that she loved me after we'd been seeing eachother for about 10 days. Not surprisingly, I was shocked, and I doubted it, but it's been a few months now and I've gotten comfortable with the idea, and I told her I loved her after we'd had a pretty significant moment in our relationship.

Making a guy slow down is going to be tough, but just because you don't want to move at his pace doesn't mean that you can't move in the same direction.

Answer 3

society has almost dictated that in order to survive, you need to have a BF / GF. To many people fall in love in like 5 seconds, and at first it's liek YES he / she is the one, without knowing the person at all.



If you want them 2 slow down, tell them, that it takes time for you to know if you want to be in a relationship with them. Don't say how long because then they r not going 2 be themselves. If they can not accept your wish, then maybe they just want you for one thing, and not a whole lot more.



Love is like a cake, takes a while to make, but in the end it is so yummy

Answer 4

Be less attractive and less amazing, I assume! Haha. =p well lets see if you're a bit clingy and whatnot then you might want to try not to be. Don't like be super attracted to them, ya know?! I hope you can understand what I'm trying to say because the only two reasons I can think of is because of the guys you're getting are like that or you are just making them want to some how. Also, don't respond by saying it back all the time either, if you do. Hope I helped.

Answer 5

Lawrence Taylor - He was the first to redefine the position into what it is today. The second name - face that pops out is Nose Tackle Randy white when he played a couple downs at Middle Linebacker against the Skins to stop John Riggins in his hey day.

Answer 6

well even though u dont like it i think u should be happy about the situation. i mean, u must be doin something rite if they fall in love so quick. but since u reali dont likee it then the best thing to do is... wen u first start talkin to somebody, jus make a joke about the last person tellin u too soon that he loves you. most likely the boy wont do it jus cuz he definitely wouldn wanna be the center of ur next laugh wit somebody else. and be sure to say wat too soon is. its less direct and u both can be comfortable and laugh

Answer 7

um, i would just tell them that you appreciate their affection and that that L word means a lot to you, so much, in fact, that you're going to wait to say it for a while, because when you give your heart to him, a heart full of love, you want to be totally sure.

Answer 8

Love is just a word. Usually a meaningless one. Don't say you love someone, show them.