Why Can't Men Have Female Friends?

Question

Why do women think that everytime a man has a female friend that somethings up. I'm not gay or metrosexual but I do have alot of females friends. I aint messin with them or holler'n at them. There just really good friends .....like how close my boys are to me. In my previous relationship my ex (well gf at the time) didnt want me talking to ANY of my female friends. Why do women do that??? I never tripped when she was with her boys. Why are women (or these particular women) so insecure??

Answer 1

That's just it, they are insecure. And well, they don't trust you or these other women that you are friends with. If the person can't trust you then why be with them? The best thing you could do is to hang out with your girl friends with your girlfriend. This way she can see what your friendship is like with these girls, get to know them and hopefully realize that you want her and not those girls. You have to make her feel comfortable with them or she is always going to suspect that you might be fooling around with them.

Answer 2

Even though it's a total double standard, i pretty much accepted that this was just the way it is. I don't have any female friends and my g/f gets easily upset and jealous if she thinks i know any women never mind have any as friends. However i never questioned her having male friends, especially one who she's known for a long time now and was really close to, which was a really stupid thing for me to do cause she ended up cheating on me with him. Can't say i'm likely to be as foolish or trusting again.



Anyway, i think there's always a danger when men and women are friends, especially if one or both is in a relationship, essentially i've always tried to isolate myself from being in that situation.

Answer 3

Their courting is crossing the line. After he made the remark approximately being involved in her, i might have demanded he cut back all ties along with her. If my husband substitute into up speaking to a female jointly as i substitute into in mattress, it would not have lasted long. i might are transforming into up and stated that is mattress time. If she did not get the hint, i could have been blunt with the aid of telling her to get the f*** out, and rancid my husbands jock. i don't care what every physique says, a guy won't be in a position to be acquaintances with a female they're involved in. that is going to possibly lead into an affair, and that i agree that is already at an emotional affair. She isn't pleased along with her husband, and curiously likes / needs yours. stop this earlier it is going any extra. tell your husband the style you experience and ask him to end the friendship. If he would not, then he would not love or recognize you very plenty. i may be so offended if I have been you. you at the instant are not being jealous. i might have already flipped my lid with the aid of now. merely analyzing this made me mad. My husband as quickly as has a female chum over (she lived in a similar complicated) and that i did not understand until I walked in the direction of the door (at 10:00 at evening). They have been sitting on separate couches, however the undeniable fact that he substitute into observing a action picture along with her felt a splash to intimate to me, particularly simply by fact that I barley knew her, and did not anticipate her to be there. I flipped and advised him if that ever happens back, i'm long previous. it would be super if I have been there, yet I wasn't. I felt betrayed and alter into not having it. positioned your foot down and make particular he's conscious you're severe. shop that female out of your domicile and your lifestyles. She needs what you have and she or he would be in a position to get it in case you enable this to bypass on. solid success!

Answer 4

I'm a girl that particularly befriends guys better than girls, for guys are not gossipers and jelousy tends not to be an issue in the friendship. My past guys have had a problem with that even though SINCE the very beginning of our relationships, I have made it clear that my best friends are mainly GUYS, and well, they met me that way either way. To solve my (their) "problem", I would always make sure I introduced them to those friends in particular, and always give my "bf" his place (which should come naturally either way). I just say the best way is to put things out there for them just as they are, so that they won't make assumptions and jelous actions. Be open, communicate enough, don't hide stuff, act parallel as to when in their presence or not. Nothing to hide right? Going out in groups is the best way to ease the tension. =D ahhh complicated! Some ppl are just stubborn & selfish.... I'm getting a headache lol.. it just DEPENDS on how you go about it. /=)

Answer 5

I'll tell you why. Most of the guys that I was friends with eventually hit on me for sex. These guys were all married for more than a decade. I quit one of my hobbies (aquarium keeping) because I was just made to feel icky as to which married guy was hitting on me next. Was it because I was single? Would they have hit on me if I was married? These and other questions will never be answered since I no longer strike up friendships with guys in relationships unless they are retired (they never hit on me).



While I agree with you, I can understand why women might be insecure. I just assume I'm going to be cheated on, so it doesn't bother me. Sad, isn't it? However, I wouldn't let a guy come between me and my guy friendships either. It's called CONTROL.



My best friend was a guy. Alas, he died in a car crash some time ago, but we certainly had no romantic or sexual intentions towards each other and we knew each other for years.

Answer 6

I hear you. Maybe its because when a man and a woman are 'close' there is some elements of sexual tension and attraction. Women also need to feel emotionally connected to the person they're with; so, when you are talking to your lady friends, your girl might feel that you are connected more to them on an emotional level-- that you are confiding in them and not her. But I'm with you...every female I've ever been with has been that way!

Answer 7

Not all women are insecure in this situation. My best friend is a guy. We have been friends for over 3 years and we have never had one intimate moment. He is not gay, neither am I. We discuss our relationships, give suggestions, and listen whenever a ear is needed. I meet all his "women", and give him my honest opinion, and vice versa. The ones we date all know about our relationship and they also know that neither one of us are going anywhere. We makes that perfectly clear. I suggest that you let your girlfriend know that you have a very good, innocent relationship with your female friends, and that you'd like her to accept that. I have even become very good personal friends with one of the women my guy friend has dated, and since broken up with. Alot of the security will have to come from your female friend towards the woman you are interested in. I go the extra mile to let them know that I am no threat.



Good Luck! Women can be vicious.. I know, I am one..lol.

Answer 8

I personally dont see any problem with it as long as your not flirting with these friends or leading them on or whatever. And what you said is true ... they are insecure and thats the problem.





But on these girls behalf - you need to keep girl friends to a minimum - when you have a girlfriend she should be your love/best friend ... so you shouldn't feel a need to have these other girls as friends. Some women see it as "WELL IF IM HIS EVERYTHING ... WHY DOES HE NEED OTHER GIRL FRIENDS"





Next time you meet a girl - let her know right away that you have friends that are girls ... that way from the beginning she can learn to accept it.







Good luck! and just remember to do what makes you happy - and as long as YOU know your not doing anything wrong - that's all that matters!

Answer 9

Well if you hang with them in a group then thats cool but when your both hanging out together just you two, believe me something might happen. Maybe not in your brain but the chick is definitely thinking about hooking up and most guy's would have sex with any girl if put in a situation like that, especially if she's hot and you two get drunk. Your a man dude, I know men, we will do it eventually if the chick keeps getting close at the right time. So I try to not even put myself in those situations

Answer 10

Women can get very jealous but so could men!



There are actually some people out there who are capable of having platonic relationships with the oppiste sex. Some people don't get that. They still get jealous and create drama.



You just need to find someone who is understanding of that and doesn't easily feel threated by you having a lot of female friends.

Answer 11

I do not believe a man could be just a friend with a woman.Men are always looking to get in their pants,i challenge any man to challenge hI'mself by this test; if your female friend made a move on you,will you turn her down?think about it,and you will realize that you are just in a waiting mode while pretending to be a friend,and you will jump on the opportunity when presented.There is gonna be some women who will think im wrong,so i challenge them to test my theory by making a move on their so called male friend.You will no doubt find that to be true

Answer 12

I don't understand why some women are insecure. I have mostly guy friends. There's nothing going on with them, but I just get on better with men.

Maybe the women in your case DO have something going with their 'friends' and they think you are the same way.

Who knows. Your best bet is to find a woman who loves and respects herself and you won't have to deal with insecurities.

Answer 13

Well that depends....if the girl is just completely insecure then you have to only hang out with dudes. You should stay away from those girls who don't let you have any female friends. Then the next level is the girl that lets you hang out with females that she deems uglier than her, because the girls don't pose a threat to her, and then it's the cool chick that is actually confident and she won't care (for the most part) who you hang out with. I found the last one, and I am finally happy. Do you want a chick that is completely insecure? Constantly telling her she's pretty just to inflate her own ego, then flipping out becuase you thanked a pretty waittress? Dump her dude, and find a hot chick that is actually cool with that, they exist, trust me.

Answer 14

The reason why us females don't like when guys have female friends is because most of the time some of us seem to get jealous or assume that the guy is messing around with that female and if you had or have a girlfriend and she trust you and ya'll in love or whatever whatever she shouldn't have to worry about you cheating with females or being friends with them.

Answer 15

You must be in the closet or you know you have ZERO chance at tapping your girlfriends. Men do not become friends with girls without some sort of attraction where there's a possibility of hitting it down the road. Maybe during her lonely sad needy times? The best are the girls who have all the guy friends and try to tell the BF "we are just friends and he doesn't think that of me" YEAh right :rolls eyes: He just wants to hit it unless he already tired and failed then you might be able to be friends. Or you know your ugly and you like to have girlfriends to make yourself look cool like the OP.





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Answer 16

Because the way you look at other women makes them feel insecure. Maybe they have beenhurt in the past by other guys who had a female friend who replaced them. Once burned twice shy--or at least suspicious.

Answer 17

you could say that about men too. every time a woman has male friends in a relationship, men are always trying to prohibit them from seeing them, thinking that they'll cheat on them or turn out to be the s word or the h word. men tend to think that because men can cheat, so can women. for this situation though, girls know that guys always tend to flirt with other girls. it's like a habit for them. there's always that insecurity they feel when they're partner is out with the opposite sex because they know of the possibility that they may cheat on them. girls can't handle it when their boyfriends cheat on them. they want to do all they can to stop it from happening

Answer 18

They have daddy & trust issues...if they dont trust you with a woman then you know you cant trust them with a man. Because the only way she would come up with some bull like that is if she was put in the same situation she would do something that she wouldnt normally do.

Answer 19

Dude my best guess would be that she feels inferior to some of your friends in some way... usually looks but could be anything from jelousy about how close you are to them to the feeling of her success compared to theres.... just make her feel like she is so much more to you then your friends are... make a girl feel like the center of your universe and she will believe it....

Answer 20

it is based on the fact that anything can happen... women do not like the idea of another woman being so close & having so much influence over their man. & in my experience men are not so different in that respect. i have many guy friends & have lost someone i really cared about because he couldn't handle my guy friends...

Answer 21

Uh, cause usually we (though we say it's a "friendly relationship") find ways in which to manipulate, either the friendship or use it as a means for allowing us to creep via our "friends" to their friends and then, well you know the rest, Playa. Come on dogg, you know the runnins

Answer 22

no it just that when we do let you be around your female friends sometime men do, do something with them and then ack like nothing happen that when they give their self away that way we don't like that because we know what going on jsut because we don't see it but we do know and then at that when it a female friend it always truns out to be that your so call friend always come out to be your ex gf and that ya'll she still got feelings for you....... that why

Answer 23

Your problem is you need to find a gf that is secure with the relationship enough to be o.k. with you having females for friends. If you have a bad track record of cheating or gave your lady reason to believe your untrustworthy then that is another situation in itself. Another thing you might want to be aware of and I have been in this situation my self. Conniving females who are friends with your man and put out rumors and start bull crap because they have a secret agenda unbeknown to the man of getting with him. So you really have to look at it from all directions. My husband have a lot of female friends and only one of them was disrespectful to me and he quickly got her told. She used to joke with him about paying her bills and one day she was doing it in front of me. He told her that they were playing and she had no right to be joking like that in front of me. She tried to make it seem like he was really paying her bills. I told her I get his paycheck and all monies come to me, she was really pissed off.

Answer 24

They are not insecure, but is how nature has made them. You can't do a thing about this :-(

And don't care about what ever false they say about you, you know what the truth is. Enjoy yourself.

Answer 25

Jealousy. And, people tend to project their own feelings on others. Thieves expect that everyone else is a thief. Adulterers think everyone else is playing around.

Answer 26

Guys do it too. Why is anyone insecure? Maybe you're dating the wrong women.

Answer 27

You dated insecure women. They haven't really trusted you.

Answer 28

i guess they become jealous and start thinkin that ur messin with them...but jus let her know that u dont trip over her n her guy friends so she shud jus let u be w/ ya girl-friends

Answer 29

I've always pondered that ? myself. But it is mainly insecurity, my boyfriend has girl friends but i'm secure enough in our relationship and myself to trust him

Answer 30

Well, if you're a good catch... they don't want to lose that good catch!



Obviously they believe that you're good enough to have someone they see as prettier, smarter.. yadda yadda. Anyway, if you're constantly talking to other girls, it will make her feel less special, but also question your love for her.



Stupid, agreed. But that's jealousy for you.

Answer 31

That means that they care. They are just making sure your always gonna be there for them and so no other girl is gonna take you.

Answer 32

I have oftened wondered the same thing, and come to the conclusion that its one of those mysteries GOD is never going to let us answer. This message brought to you by The FREE PARIS FOUNDATION.....I'D DO HER!

Answer 33

Let me answer you with a quote from Pulp Fiction:





"Would you give a guy a foot massage?"





Think about it. Therein lies your answer.

Answer 34

I am a lady and I have male friends and there is nothing wrong with it.

Answer 35

i see nothing wrong with it, just us long as there is respect. my ex had a problem with me and my best friend whose a male.

Answer 36

cuz they are jealous..guys and girls are both jealous...if u truly love ur g/f...keep ur relationship with other girls to a minimal - no matter how close u are

Answer 37

i have no clue but lately ive been havin that same problem...i think girls shouldnt think that way b-cuz we have our friends that are guys...so yea

Answer 38

hey i have male friends... and they are metrosexual!!! whats the big fuss??? and i also have straight "male" mates!!!

Answer 39

women are selfish creatures who only think about themselves.

Answer 40

they can but people may think that somthin is goin on

Answer 41

guys only have two categories of female friends:



1 - girls they've slept with

2 - girls they havent slept with - yet!

Answer 42

tell her to chill out and that if you can talk to boys i can talk to my friends

Answer 43

ha ha buddy...i guess she was jealous of u having so many girl frnds....take it easy buddy.....

Answer 44

thats their problem ... u don worry .. you stay chill mate !!!!

Answer 45

selffish

Answer 46

girls.......i'll never understand