Question:
I'm in love with her, but she does not love me?
Ned Ranid
2012-06-07 20:04:35 UTC
Hello everyone let me tell you right now, there is no age limit on love. I know what i feel, and I've been with enough women to tell the difference. Let's call her Anna. Anna is my ex girlfriend, we dated for a year, but we have known each other for about 6. I've grew fond of her the first day I met her. Of course it was just a crush, but over a 6 year span, I grew... to love. She is the most intelligent, innocent, beautiful and caring woman I have ever met. In the 10th grade, Anna and I grew very close. Best friends, of course I saw her in a different way, but I wasn't sure if she felt the same. One day she and I were sitting in a cafeteria. We were talking to each other and our legs started to swing in unison, a friend of ours came up to us and said "Aw that is so cute You two would make the best couple." My heart stopped. I had no words, my face turned scarlet. I couldn't look at Anna, I knew how hot my face was. I decided to take a glance. When I looked at her beautiful face, I realized she was as red as I was. From that point on we became closer then ever, started talking on the phone for hours, spending most of our time together. After about 4 months, I decided to ask her about where we stood. It took her a while to answer, but she finally said that she truly did like me, but her parents wouldn't allow her to date at this age. I told her that is unjustified, that they need a real reason. I needed her to be mine; she was my first true love. I've never felt anything like it before. I told her, that I would ask her parents directly for their permission. She said it could work, but it was unlikely. A week later, I wound up on her front porch, ringing on her door bell. Her Dad answered the door, I was expecting him to be the over protector, the stereotypical father who believes that every idiot is after her daughters virtue. When he answered the door he had a wide smile on his face, and invited me in. Her parents and I hit it off, talked a lot about different things we were interested in, I told him I was planning on becoming a musician. By the end of the night, I took her father aside, and asked him what I came there for; her. He said, as much as he liked me, that he stood by his decision. But that she can date when she turns 16. I said, until then. So Anna and I stayed together but not "officially". About 5 months later, she and I were still as happy as ever, until one day. Anna and I were in school and we were sitting down. I took her hand and I rubbed it with my thumb, and i said to her, "I've never felt like this about anyone, and I don't have enough words to describe how deeply I feel about you.” She pulled her hand away, and said "Listen, I feel really guilty about going against my parents, and I don't think we should continue this, maybe after I turn 16. Truly it is my parents." My heart stopped, but not for the reason of her smile, but because she had literally ripped it out of my chest. All I could do was stare into her eyes. All I could scream in my head was 'WHY! I stood up from her and walked away without a word. I walked out of the school, and found a nice empty ally way, to break down in. I screamed and punched a couple walls; my heart was broken. When she turned 16, I still couldn't even look at her knowing that what she said was a lie. After i asked her why she ended it, she told me, that she lost her feelings for me. I was like a ghost, I had no one to turn to, and she was the one. Now I'm in grade 12, and I'm still madly in love with her, but she's dating someone else. Me and her started to talk a bit again, sometimes I can make her smile like she use to, and I walk her to her locker, but sometimes her boyfriend is there waiting, and all I can do, is stare in envy. Knowing that, he has her, and I don't What do I do? Do I continue to persist? Wait for her to break up with him? Or vice versa? (like that's going happen) and continue the way I did. Making me more vivid in her life? Or do I just get on? Because truly I cannot! I've watched from afar her life continuing and my life, frozen... As if she has stolen my very.. Existence. Don't tell me I’m over exaggerating... It is what I feel. If you don't agree, don't answer.
Three answers:
Ana
2012-06-07 20:12:18 UTC
Thats a very touching story BUT if i were you i'd act cool and don't try to be around her alot.... make it seem like you've moved on and are okay with everything, because being to nice and over obsessing can be a major turn off. If you guys are meant to be it will happen. I wish you all the luck in the world! & P.s. this would make a good book :)
2012-06-07 20:19:53 UTC
oh my god that was a beautiful story. And I know exactly what you need to do, either:

1. Tell her everything you just wrote and explain to her that she is the joy in your life and without her there is no light and you honestly can't be happy.

2. Tell her something along the lines of this,

"insert name here, you are beautiful and I really can't forget the feelings I have for you, without you I can't continue on. I need you in my life, even if that means being best friends. I respect you in every way possible and my only goal in life is to make you as happy as can be, nothing else matters to me except you! You are my whole world and I need you just as much as I always have, and I know you have a boy friend and that's okay because I just need you in my life in any way, just friends? That's fine!"
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2016-12-10 19:38:32 UTC
the way you look at me makes me experience like im the only female interior the worldwide. you and me at the same time is the only ingredient it is clever anymore. the sentiments I even have for you're extra advantageous than the wind in a hurricane.


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