Women, please help me understand?

Question

I have seen and heard a million times, "Where is the perfect man?" You always ask for a guy who is romantic and caring, who has a sense of humor and fits the knight in shining armor description.
Funny thing is, I happen to know several of those kind of guys (me being one of the unfortunate ones we speak of). All of us manage to have the occasional great relationship that lasts a little while, then WE get dropped. Not only that, but we get dropped for the guys that you all come up with problems about.
So I guess my question is, why do you all want guys like us so bad; and yet, when you find us you put us on the sidelines?

Answer 1

You know what? That is soooooooooo true!! But i havent got a answer for your question. But that is true. I was seeing a really good guy who did everything in the world for me and plus was really good looking! But i was sooooooo not happy! Not for sure why. But then again, he was my age and i like older guys. That could be it, dont know. That is a really good question. Hope u get a good answer. Sorry about my answer! I know it sucked!

Answer 2

I've got my guy, and I'm clinging tight. He's all the things you've listed; and I know how lucky I am; would gladly sing his praise around the world, on top of every mountian top.. And OK, so I'm a bit corny; but seriously, I'll freely admit I'm one of the luckiest women in the world; being married to my husband.

I guess you just need to find that special girl. There's good and bad of both sexes; I know you guys have the bad rep for this; us girls are more focused upon for looks; it's how soceity works. Just be yourself. Don't try so hard; you'll find someone. Life happens in funny ways like that.

I guess you guys have to be a bit rougher sometimes. Be exaclty who you ar; just let some of that 'guyness' out now and again. My hubby; like I said, he's everything that you've mentioned; but I won't try to say he's perfect; no person is. He's perfect for me, but that's different than being perfect. You can't try to hide your faults all the time. I mean, without any offence meant; guys are idiots sometimes (Us women, too, but different than you guys); sometimes you say the wrong thing; or do something that you want to be able to rewind time for; minor things; things you look back and laugh at... I suppose what I'm saying is you can't say the right thing all the time. It doesn't happen; and when it does; it makes us women a bit suspicious. Don't ask me why; but if a guy doesn't stuff up somewhere minorly; or always tries to hide all his faults; it's not.. normal, I guess. What you need to do is show all of yourself. You might be a ladies man, that's great; open the doors, do a candlelit dinner, wonderful; win a heap of brownie points there; but that can't be your only side you show to the girl. She needs to fall in love with all of you, not just a part of you.

SO be yourself. And don't expect anything to happen. Because then, it does. And you'll find that right one in the weirdest places...

Answer 3

I think BIll Gates had the same problem as a teen. Don't get mad. GET EVEN.



A more serious answer would be that you "might" be a little wishy washy. If you put these girls on a pedestal ins ted of treating them as just the girl that they are its a huge turn off. I read a whole big article on this. It opened my eyes and I sure wish I had the link for you but I don't. It really explained how all that worked.



Don't treat em bad like you think the other guys are doing. Just treat em like they are another person and do not forget to just be who you are. If it does not work out do not take that as a sign of failure. It is just a sign that you two are not compatible.

Answer 4

The heart is a fickle thing. We may think that we have standards, and when we finally meet that person who fits all the standards, it's all good. Standards change, however, and when we meet someone else, we get a little taste of what we're missing



A lot of couples don't fit eachother's standards, but something just makes them love eachother.



The stereotype of the desired male is what you said, but eventually, once you get past whatever stereotype your partner has, you learn of the real guy in him, and then you have to decide if you love that guy or not. It's nothing against you though, I'm sure you're a great person in and out.

Answer 5

Well I personally don't believe in a perfect package, I mean you won't always find the traits you're looking for in your significant other..... but then again there are some women who don't deserve nice men like yourself. So my guess is that, either you turned out to be something other then a woman's expectations or you just haven't found a suitable gal yet. I'm sorry that this happened to you, I hope you find someone who truly appreciates you! Good Luck!

Answer 6

Honestly, I have done that. Being a woman, you have to learn and hurt a few times before you actually "wake up and smell the coffee". It is just a part of life I guess. You look pretty young. Don't try looking for love as a teenager, it doesnt work. I hurt my boyfriend severeley at 17-21 or so. I cheated, lied, threw the fact I didnt love him in his face. Yet, now, I realized how badly I acted, got hurt a few times. We are together again now. After me putting him through hell. I was always the party girl. I liked to be the center of attention had hook ups at clubs, bars,etc underage. That I thought was a way to live. You just have to date around, try not to give your heart to someone just yet, completley that is. You have to get hurt a few times as a guy as well. That is how you learn the qualities you do and don't want out of a person.

Answer 7

What can I say..women are fickled. Honestly, I have seen the same thing of my friends. When they finally find a nice decent guy, they end up dumping them for some loser! All I can tell you is not to give up because not all women are like that (well at least those who reach a level of maturity). Unfortunately, not all women reach that and continue to need the drama that comes from an unhealthy relationship. Stay true and you will find a woman deserving of you.

Answer 8

Sometimes you have to relize that we were brough up to want the nice guy, one we can take home to mom have childeren with and trust to not stray. but inside where it counts we respond to the things mother nature put in us so ths bigger meaner less approchable guys always gets the really nice girls.You can still be the knight in shining armor but add a lether jacket just a little bad boy goes a long way. so let that lil devel in you come on out its there its genectic.

Answer 9

I would put you on the side lines to if you didn't fit the description I have here. I been single for along time and many people do not understnads why.

What I would want is this in a guy. I want him to love Jesus Christ more than me. If Jesus is 1st in his life than I don't mind being second and then I will know I got the perfect man for me.

however, I would like him to be a little taller than me,that would be nice since I like to lool up to my man.

Single for life...yelp that's me.

Answer 10

Do to the fact that you are "The nice guy" it is there for easy to walk all over you.We not only want romance and flowers.We also need the kind of man we leave you for.We want it all.We fall in love with romance.Then need excitement.If you can be both,You would not be dumped.In other word.We want to be made love to in the light of candles.Then turn around and Have A little slap and tickle.So to speak.This is just one women's opinion.

Answer 11

I think that some girls find that "good guys" are predictable, which after a long time can get a bit boring.



Also, I am pretty certain you are not "the perfect man" Maybe you are a nice guy, but perfect?

Answer 12

speaking as a woman, alot of times we dont know what really want. we say yeah we want prince charming, but ever woman has a different perspective on what that is. i had a prince charming at one time. and he left me. lied to me about why he was leaving. he found a younger girl . a way younger girl just of age18 and he was 30. never found one again. But i am now in a relationship that fits me perfect. he may be no prince charming but we fit perfect.

Answer 13

you know women like guys who can laugh and be their friend. Its not about looks. Its how you treat a girl open a car door for her not all the time, its the little things. make her feel pretty. Make her feel comfortable around you you'll find someone maybe you should work on friendship first. good luck

Answer 14

Many of the women that drop you are looking for ideal prince charmings that they unfortunately don't relize they've found. There's nothing you can do as being one of th privelaged few but find a woman who respects you and herself enough to realize what a treasure she's found.

Answer 15

there are some specific things we look for, however, you have to be attracted to the person. Someone could have all the qualities but if there is no "skin" no "feeling", etc then all of that is useless.

Be youself and you will find the one that fits you! GOOD LUCK!

Answer 16

It might be because u guys cant give the secure feeling to the ladies...or just not trustable?...Well, maybe u guys are too proud of yourself for what u have and dont even know what the gals want?...Be more sensitive to the needs of the ladies!!!

Answer 17

i think it is because some women may not be getting that "something" that they are searching for. For example, some probably want to still be going out and partying. Also, some may be afraid to commit to a long term relationship.



good luck

Answer 18

Not I, kind sir. I fully appreciate a good man. I had no idea your kind still existed. After dealing with fruits, nuts, flakes, with no prize, it gets kinda discouraging.

I wouldn't worry if I were you. You are a contender for serious cutie-hood.

Answer 19

I WOULD COMMENT FOR MYSELF. I DID FIND THE PERFECT MAN AND I MESSED UP FOR A MAN THAT ABUSED ME AND CHEATED OVER ME. SOMETIMES YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU HAVE UNTIL IT'S GONE, BUT GIVEN A SECOND CHANE YOU WOULD APPRECIATE THAT REAL LOVE. SO PLEASE DON'T GO OFF TRYNA CHANGE INTO THOSE MEN WE WOMEN HAVE PROBLEMS WITH, BECAUSE THERE ARE WOMEN THAT WILL APPRECIATE YOUR KIND LIKE MYSELF. I LEFT MY BF OF ALMOST 7 YRS FOR A ROMANCE THAT ONLY LASTED A SHORT WHILE AND WITH ALL THAT HE ABUSED ME. IF I COULD TAKE THAT ALL BACK I WOULD OF NEVER LEFT HIM FOR THAT PERSON., BUT YOU LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES AND THAT'S WHAT WE D IS HIGHLY APPRECIATED!!!

Answer 20

I know, dude. I too am one of those nice guys who gets the boot when some new flavor of the month comes along.



I can't believe it; I'm cute too, girls. Just check out my avatar.

Answer 21

This is like looking for a logical answer to a question on religion, you wont find an answer, there is no logic in religion, and certainly no logic in any woman!!

Amen to that!

Answer 22

well.... think of it like this... if you were so perfect... a woman would snatch you up and marry you... IF she was ready to settle down.... if she isnt ready to settle down then she'll run like h*** because if you are with someone who is perfect...and seems to be the man of your dreams then the next logical step would be to settle down...

what if you met the perfect woman... everything you could have hoped for.... wouldnt you want to marry her? and what if she didnt want to get married?... better yet.. what if you met the perfect woman and You didnt want to get married... what would you do?

Answer 23

you may be all those things but if your not right for that girl she would know and on some level you would feel the same way dont worry there is someone out there for you and you will know it when it happens

Answer 24

saddly wemen want not just the nice guy but the nice guy with a side of a&&ho** in him. wemon want to be wanted. but to keep a woman you must still present a challange.

Answer 25

maybe because you are too perfect, maybe she feels she doesn't measure up 2 u. good luck, you'll find a woman who will appreciate u

Answer 26

u must not be picking the right girls cause if i found a guy like that i would keep him. some girls change there minds and THINK they found something better.

Answer 27

I don't, maybe it's that your too perfect, or that they think they want that but they don't, I really don't know either and i'm a girl.

Answer 28

women dont really know what they want. they have an idea buts thats it. watch the movie bedazeled you will see what i mean. the movie says alot

Answer 29

depends on the chick too..beacuse i know chicks that do exaclt ywhat u said they do...well i havent met a guy like ur describing...so idk i aint one of those chicks...cuz also they might say that but they really only want some1 to complain to abotu the "badass" guy...pretty pathetic if u ask me..soem chicks r dumb

Answer 30

Because they are stupid. Keep looking, there is good woman searching for you, and she won't let you go. Good luck.

Answer 31

After a while, they get spoil and forget how great they had it.

Answer 32

we always want what is more difficult to have. make yourself less "accessible", and girls will be all over it

Answer 33

sometimes what we say & what we want are two different things