Please help with this guy situation. I'm begging.?

Question

I'm sure you've read tons of questions like this, but please give me your best advice.
I like this guy in my class, he's a senior and I am a sophomore. That doesn't bother me except, that it means I only have 3 weeks left since seniors graduate at the end of May. I day dream about just going up to him and asking him out, but I know I would never have the guts to do that. How can I gain confidence to just talk to him or just be bold and ask him out myself? I need flippin' confidence I am so shy and quiet and I want to get over it and ask him out or get him to ask me out before he graduates and I never see him again. Thank you so much.

Answer 1

Do you already talk to him?



I think if you just go up to him and ask him out, it will be weird.



Take baby steps, there's still time. Just start with a word or two, Hi or whatever, and talk a bit more each day. Just random stuff. Ask for his opinion or help with some problem. Guys love to solve problems. When he gets the idea that you're interested, hopefully he'll ask you out. (Or you can go for it too!! But it can't be the first words out of your mouth.)



Good luck.



(Edit) Maybe to start you can just give him a random, genuine compliment. "Hey, cool shirt" or something. Ice broken -- no further conversation needed for now. The next day smile and say Hi. Hey, he's your friend now, ya know, so smile and say hi. If you're shy you can even repeat the just-smile-and-hi thing for a few days. Try to talk a little. Then one day you can say something like, "hey, me and some friends are going to (wherever -- concert, movie, street party, bowling, idk), you should come. It'll be fun."



Don't sweat it, sugar. Good luck.



(Edit) I have to respectfully disagree with the girl below who writes "You only have ONE shot to do this." It's this kind of all-or-nothing thinking that will make you too nervous, the situation will be weird, and it will suck. No worries, baby. Take it easy. There's plenty of time. Yes, start talking to him NOW, but there's no need to "lay it on the line" from the start. Just get to know him a little. K?

Answer 2

If you are that short on time to talk to him, I would just do it. What do you have to loose? If you are shy, why not ask him when he is alone? It is not easy to talk to someone when they are with their friends. If you don't do it, you will always wonder what would have happened.



I am shy too. I never had the guts to go up to a guy and talk to him.... more so, someone I liked. Maybe that is why I was 32 and still single? lol Anyway, one day I was tired of being so scared of making the first move all the time. So, I did it. I went up to a guy I really was interested in dating. It was a big leap for me. Lots of girls were always around him. He is a fireman. But I did it... and you know it has been two years that we have been going out. Just recently he told me he loved me. It was the most amazing thing... and I could have missed it all if I didn't have the guts to just do it! What if he is having the same thoughts about you? If you don't go talk to him, you will never know.

Answer 3

K, TOMORROW...dress up as cute as you can...from your underwear out...wear all of your cutest clothes and favorite things.

Take extra time on your hair and make up. Try to sit next to him or behind him. If you have assigned seating, just make sure and give him the note towards the end of class as he is getting ready to leave....but...

Write him a note in a teasing way and say "So I am seriously depressed that you guys are graduating in a couple of weeks. I am going to miss having you in this class...even though we didn't chat much. What do you think about hanging out this summer?".

Don't sound like you are asking him out. Just ask if he wants to "hang out" over the summer.

If he says or nodds yes, then write your number on a slip of paper and give it to him. To make things less awkward, maybe have it already written, and as he leaves hand it to him. Just write "555-1212 _____" with your name.

Dont get nervous. If you do get nervous, stop, remember to breathe and smile at him. (make sure you dont have anything in your teeth lol)

ugh goodluck. I never made a move on the guy I liked in HS and I never got to see him again. It has been 10 years, and I just found him on facebook and he is married w/ 2 kids. :)

You only have ONE shot to do this. So do it tomorrow. If you wait a day longer he will start to get more and more anxious. Everything that happens these last few days of school will all be a blur to him after graduation. SO WHAT if you act like a goof. Atleast you never have to wonder WHAT IF!?!? It is easy. Hand him the note. Dont worry about what ANYONE thinks. They are all leaving soon anyways, and no one will remember what happens tomorrow after summer break :) Good luck girl!

Answer 4

That's hard to over come. How long did you know that you like the guy. Just barely. I mean if you liked way before you could of had plenty of time to simple talk or the simple hi and smile thing going on. I am a bit shy also i'm 21 and barely overcoming it. Since it's a few weeks till he leaves. Start with a smile and Hello for a few weeks and then after that do a conversation. My friends and I are going to a (place) would you like to come. It'll be fun. Give him a piece a paper with your number and tell him call me and let me know. or if you want to be straight forward. the simple smile and hi and then go to him and tell him I like you and do you want to go out question? see what he says before it's too late.

Answer 5

Just go over and talk to him...Try talking to him in class or do sumthin funn like writing ur name and numberr with a cute lil message and tellin him to call u sumtime...He would love that! I have many guy friends and Guyzz Love when a Girl approaches them!! Trustt me :) I kno how u feel when ur crushin on sumonee hardd esp since u kno that u wont see him after he graduates....and u dont kno what he thinks of u! If u catch each others eyes alot..he probably likes u!!



heres a lil fact to make u feel better hun....

usually the person u like or have a crush on likes u too but youdont think so and later in life a couple years down the road u'll find out sumhow he liked u but was too shy to ask u out!!!

u'll be surprised with with the outcomee... its always like that!



So gain that confidence and walk over to him like a champ!!! Dont sweat it!! And even if it doesnt turn out the way u want...U still got plenty of years ahead of u! :)



Good luck :)

Answer 6

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Answer 7

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Just Go 4 iit

The Worst Think he Can Saii is No!

Its nt the end ov the wld

iv been there Tons ov tyms :D

& ii look bk & like omg how cls i like that ha

like a gye at wrk ii used to fancey the pants off

& iamiit hes still gawjus nw but look beond the picc

babee

Get to knwo the real hiim like just like drop hints & slowley try to talk to hiiim even if its like ohh r yhu siitin here or some think

just start convo :D

Gooo 4 iit Babe :D

ii wiishh yhuu LUCKK!!!

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Answer 8

!! I SO HAVE UR ANSWER!! Type that same question and print it out. Plz leave out the "Plz help with this guy situation and that Im begging" part. Make sure to leave out the first line from above also. Start with " I like this guy in my class" and so on. Type every last word from above and put ur email address at the bottom in bold and print it out. Take it to class and the next time u see him right b4 class ends, give it to him and walk away. If he's interested, Im pretty sure he'd get the hint, email u, and ask u out.

Answer 9

just strike up a conversation in the hall with him, ask him school related questions and if he answers you ask more questions, but if he says he has to go, then don't bother because that will mean he is not interested in you, or if you are to shy for that, talk to some of his friends, get the word around that you like him then wait for a response, if you don't get a response from him then give up on him.but do something before he graduates.

Answer 10

You should tell him that he's a really good dancer and you're going to miss seeing him during class. He'll probably love that you complimented him and it's a good base for whatever else will come of it. Also, if you ask him out, you shouldn't be shy because he's graduating. When push comes to shove you'll probably never ever see him again so it doesn't matter what if you embarrass yourself- which you won't.

Answer 11

does he notice you alot, cause usually guys wont go for girls that dont really talk to. So i would do some stuff, like stuff that would make you stand out and help notice you a bit and then when he starts to notice you, start talking to him and maybe ask him to hangout with friends, go to a movie or something. and then later in the week ask him out. And dont be nervous, i get nervous all the time when i want to ask a guy out but its okay, once you ask him it will feel greatt! and if he says no then its not your fault and maybe keep trying. wish you the best luck ! :] <3

Answer 12

you better tell him next time you see him. when i was in high school i did not do it and i always wondered what if.. Write this peom and had it to him with your number. works like a charm



What is love? What is this longing in our hearts for togetherness? Is it not the sweetest flower? Does not this flower of love have the fragrant aroma of fine, fine diamonds? Does not the wind love the dirt? Is not love not unlike the unlikely not it is unlikened to? Are you with someone tonight? Do not question your love. Take your lover by the hand. Release the power within yourself. Your heard me, release the power. Tame the wild cosmos with a whisper. Conquer heaven with one intimate caress. That's right don't be shy. Whip out everything you got and do it in the butt. By Leon Phelps

Answer 13

Leave this guy alone. He's a Senior and he has no time for a sophmore as he's preparing for his career not romance. He may be off to college in another state or country. He may be off to the Military. He may have a gf or getting married. If he liked you he would have made some kind of contact with you before school ended. Are you sure he's not gay? No offense but a few male dancers are gay. Why don't you fish for a junior or another sophmore? This way you will have more time to prepare to ask another guy out to the dance or movies. What you may be experiencing is false hopes or wishful thinking. I do that a lot with my ex hubby. I would imagine what it would be like if he came back and rekindle our love. Just find someone else. Why go after a guy who has no intentions of ruining his career or future, right?

Answer 14

YOU ONLY LIVE ONE TIME SWEETIE GO GET IT .LIFE IS NOT A DRESS REHERSAL,BESIDES IF YOU DONT YOUR ONLY GONNA REGRET IT LATER .YOU'LL BE DOIN THE "WHAT COULD'VE BEEN " DANCE IN YOUR MIND AND DAYDREAM ABOUT HIM .I KNOW THIS 4 A FACT BECAUSE I'VE SEEN A GIRL I WATED 2 ASK OUT AND DIDNT AND ONLY REGET IT LATER .LOOK IM 35 AND SINGLE SO I KNOW WHAT IM SAYIN IS TRUE .BESIDES IF YOU DONT WHATS THE WORST THAT CAN HAPPEN SAY NO, BIG DEAL ,AT LEAST YOU'LL KNOW 4 SURE THAT THERE WASNT A POSSIBILITY ITS KIND OF LIKE LEARNING HOW TO SWIM YOUR NOT GONNA GET THE CONFIDENCE IF YOU DONT TRY BUT IF YOU STAY SHY NOW THRU H.S. IT WILL STAY W/YOU THE REST OF YOUR LIFE AND IM SORRY 2 SAY OLD MAIDS DIE YOUNG SO DONT BE 1 ITS THE HARSH TRUTH AND I DONT WANNA C THAT HAPPEN 2 YA .AND IF YOU REALLY CANT SEEM 2 MUSTER UP THAT COURAGE YOU CAN TRY HAVING A FRIEND ASK HIM SOMETHING LIKE " HEY WHAT DO YOU THINK OF "YOUR NAME" CUZ I THINK SHE MIGHT LIKE YOU(GUY U LIKE) BUT KEEP IN MIND THAT YOU WONT ALWAYS HAVE SOME1 TO DO THIS 4 YOU.GOOD LUCK

Answer 15

OMMG so youre looking for a magical way to gain confidence right?



No Joke i have an answer....



Drink some Energy drinks like Redbull or Rockstar 30 minutes before talking to him...



Dont talk to him right after because it takes 30 minutes for drinks to go through your system ...



You will become very energetic and become very confident

trust me it works

O and if youre nicely dressed up that will also give you confidence

Answer 16

Interesting.. Get him alone and ask him out. We aren't used to getting asked out but that doesnt mean we dont like it. Your younger so you also have the advantage of seeming less threatening and its also cuter. If you get rejected whatever, the experience will make you stronger and you may even be able to forge a stronger friendship with him now that he knows how you felt. The trick is picking ourselves up when we fall - Be Strong young one

Answer 17

since he's seen you around class, he already has some idea as to who you are. just go up to him and say hi casually. it's not being too forward or being to shy, it's a nice 'hello'. its okay to feel nervous, but don't let that get in your way. since he's going to be leaving soon .. you really might not get a chance again. so go up to him as soon as you can, and just let him know. but don't put pressure on him by asking him if he likes you too. just say, "hey ______, i just wanted you to know that I like you." don't be clingy! cause if you ask him, it's most likely that he's not going to say yes (sorry). cause he JUST found out that you like him and he's going off to college. he has to get to know you first, so if he says that he likes you to, spend the summer together and maybe then he'll ask you out.



my sophmore year, i had a crush on a senior. we spent some time together, before we both told each other that we like each other. we've been together 3 1/2 years now , and still together =]



Soooo .. get to know each other first, before you ask him out. i don't want you to get hurt, if he were to tell you that you two might not work out.



BEST of luck! .. really <3

Answer 18

Hey Monkey,Alright i tell women this all the time,If you want some one to like you,you have to like your self first.You ask how to like your self,Go to your room turn off all the lights,make your self comfortable,turn on some soft music and lie on your bed,clear your mind,don't think,just relax your mind and body,you will find your self in a sleepy state,as you are ready to fall asleep not with words but with your mind tell your self,I am beautiful,I am beautiful,fall asleep with this thought and when you wake up you will find you are more confident and believe in your self more.I hope this works for you,I know there are a lot of women with self esteem issues,but it still amazes me that the ones that do,more often have no reason to be insecure.

Answer 19

i aint all for the 1 time go getter thing i mean unles you knew if he was in2 u so here's the deal. say hie no biggie. keep it simple and SMILE @the begining of the class. this is what i'd do i'd make sure he notices me by maybe particip8n mo in clas ryt then when i'm answerin a ? or wateva &he looks @m i'l jus smile. then @the end go 2 him and say hy you do know me right (seriously he shud know yo name @list if he dznt them haha wel) right then say oh so how do u fil bou gradu*n must be a big deal 4u hy. H'l ansa then you'l be like so wat were you planin on doin afta xul. H'l ansa then thats enough then jus be like oh well nice talking to you then option 1) ask 4 his # eg say ahh i really have to go now wats yo number i'll txt you or

2) i rily have to go. you're really intrestn ts nice tlkn to u hey here's my number holla @me. then act like you're really in a rush.

and go to the bathroom and breathe. then walk ou with confidence you've done it.

if u choose #2 and h dznt txt or wateva that day nxt day go to him and be like (in a cute/ disapointd voice): ahh its rude to not txt ppl who give you their numbers you know... say this in a humorous tone u dont want him to think u'r actually angry. if you choose #1 then don't txt him that night wait until the next night. gud luck

Answer 20

well you don't seem to have any trouble asking for help so i say you should just turn around an do the same thing with this guy in you class. you need to put your confidence out in front of you an step up!!! if you wait to long he will be gone by by...i am counting on you not to flip out, i know you can do this. trust me......

Answer 21

Suck it up and go talk to him!!!!!!! Talk to him every day for about a week. After that just ask him to coffee. "So are you doing anything after school? You wanna go grab some coffee?" he says something. If he says ok, cool what's your number. If he is at all decent he will be flattered and you may very well get a yes.

Answer 22

Okay, so start of by asking him (don't worry, he won't bite!) maybe to teach you that dance move he did in class, or maybe invite him to be in one of your routines. Make small chat, like asking him about graduation or what he plans on doing after he graduates. There's tons of oppotunities, I know it's hard, but you can do it! Practice makes pefect! Good Luck!

Answer 23

Well even if you guys arent dance partners or anything just casually talk to him afterall you guys perform together. so just kinda ask him whats up and how is everything.just kinda have fun be yourself and open up a little dont be a shy person. just gotta talk to them slowly get to know them a bit

Answer 24

well, i'm not sure asking i guy out would be a lil wierd becoz first of all, you don't know each other...maybe having at least a conversation would help gain a little confidence...and who knows...once you get to know each other more then you'll find out if you really like him...don't judge a book by its cover...u don't know him that well yet...but you can still like him...a simple hi would be good...but one thing that can make him turn on is make yourself noticable...how can u ask a guy if he doesn't know you?!...make yourself look pretty...like put a little blush on...that way he might ask you instead...hope i helped...MAKE URSELF NOTICEABLE!!!

Answer 25

If you can,,, go out and get a haircut/nails/outfit,,,,

Then once you have spent all that money and have super hero confidence (which comes from the nails haircut outfit etc.), then you already kinna would hate him to begin with, but now is HIS chance baby!

Answer 26

just ask him to dance or ask for his number once you get his number that will make it easy to talk to him and text him then you can ask him to hangout and do other stuff with you good luck and please make sure you talk to him because he only has 3 more weeks left and you dont want to be sitting there at the end of the school year and looking back and thinking what if...good luck

Answer 27

Ur goin through stirrings just stirrings r wereb a girl dreams about guys and a guy dreams about girlz



come clean u'll feel much better

Answer 28

OK in 1950 a girl did not call a boy..this is 2008 and life is still too short ...ask him if he would like your phone number....or ask him to take you cruising ..SONIC for a pop....Baskin and Robins or Dairy Queen if you never heard of SONIC

Answer 29

the sheer desire of wanting to be friends with him should make you daring enough to walk to him and tell him what you want. however, i think you can walk behind him when everybody is rushing out of class hold a pen or a notebook in your hand and walk up to him and say: you dropped your pen or whatever, this is a good start. i have done it before and it WORKS.

Answer 30

shoot this is why i hate when this happend, why can't a girl show talk to a guys. man show a little life so that he knows your there and you want to hook up with him. give him a sign

why do girl always don't have to gut when they like the guys

the thing is that the guy don't know it when its too late and he like the gilr to but its already to late

wish more girl would be the one that mac on the dude so we guys know was up mate ahah

Answer 31

it's not easy but you have to bite the bullet. I am 11 years older than a gal at work that just trips me out. I finaally asked her.....Wow! If I never asked I would have never known she likes me too. Ask whats the loss.Dont lose him to fear!

Answer 32

Fake it till you make it! Just pretend you're the $hiz, walk up to him and tell him you know he;s graduating soon and you don't wanna lose touch then hand him a piece of paper with your number on it. Just walk away nice and breezy. THEN the ball is in his court about if he calls or not.

Answer 33

You have done one thing here that for some takes a lifetime to do...you recognized your own weakness and also stated what you wanted to do...."I need flippin' confidence I am so shy and quiet and I want to get over it...." So first, kuddo's for doing something that sometimes us adults refuse to do for ourselves.

Now for the delima....what do you need to do.

First, push yourself to get over your fear, and help yourself in getting over your shyness and being quiet........the next time you see him in the hallway, open your mouth and say

"Hi __________". And make sure you state his name. Everyone one loves to hear their name, and this will draw attention to you, so HE WILL NOTICE YOU.....and you will then be one step closer to your goal of going out with him, and also one step closer to getting over your shyness. Then in your class with him, when you pass, smile and say "Hello _____________" And again, state his name when you say Hello.....this will help you and will start the ball rolling in letting you get over your shyness, which is a slow but very easy process if you let it be.

Then on day two, do the same as day one, but also carry around a note sized piece of paper with your number on it. But when you pass him at your class, GIVE HIM the piece of paper with YOUR PHONE NUMBER on it. This will now place the ball in his court, and will let him decide on wether to call you or not......remember, you already put yourself in his thoughts when you keep saying his name......and he will 90% of the time call for the simple reason that YOU PUT YOURSELF IN HIS THOUGHTS.

I know you stated he graduates soon, and you are afraid you will never see him again......but sooner or later you will have to work on your own fears and shyness....why not let his graduating soon and your desire to go out with him propell you to get over your own vices right now? So the next time you see him, say "Hello _______________".

Answer 34

go out to him....and ask him straight in the face? Does he know you? if he does ignore him for a while...



If not, try and stay close with his group of friends. get his contact number and stuff first. you don't want to rush it. Eg. Hey dude, i lost my number, can i have yours?



see, you must put humor into your sentences...get his number first!

Answer 35

Well what i would say is make sure he likes you.

Once you find that out...then Just do it...

Its like jumping into a pool that you know is going to be freezing...But once you hopp off the edge there is no turning back..But make sure he is alone.

good luck =]

Answer 36

For the confidence:

He is gonna graduate soon, so if he does reject you, you don't have to deal with the embarrassment for long,lol

...so just be direct, or funny, guys love funny.

Answer 37

cofidence is hard to get. but you can do it!

When i want cofidence i always just keep on saything things to myself like, "I only live once!" and "Who cares!" It really helps.

Just go for it! If he says no, who cares! He will be gone, there will be new senior guys, and you will be surprised how quickly you can get over him!



go for it!!!

good luck!

Answer 38

Baby,...you can do this ! Talk to him a while ... Then say ...so are you glad I'm livin here now ? I am so "IN LIKE with you ya know ... Thought you might be "In LIKE " too ... but maybe not .... Watch him drop the color from his face ...Time for a shock!! NOW THATS CONFIDENCE!!! lol...lol... lol...

Answer 39

if you dont find the confidance to talk to him on the last day you r going to see him just blurt it out give him your # and see what happens

Answer 40

im very shy wen it comes to boys and well i suggest you just be brave and talk to him, i did to this boy i relly liked and now hes my bf

so sometimes you just have to forget everything and just say hi



ask someone if they know his msn addy or something?? because its easier to talk to someone about that kinda thing on msn

Answer 41

On his graduation day...bring him flowers with a note card... inside congrat him and confess your feeling. . . remember to smile...a pretty smile. . .be confident..be yourself...he will get you and I am sure everything will be fabulus.

Oh I forgot. . .remember to give him a hug too...

Answer 42

you should try just dancing with him in ur class and flirting with him. then at school find ways that you can run into him and see him

Answer 43

write him a note that youd like his advice on asking a guy you like out, but your embarassed bout approaching him.

a girl did this tome and when i told her she did what i told her, i actually blushed .he will really like it. cjhs

Answer 44

i don't have to tell you what you have to do, but just for your information, don't forget as you have only one life, and you have to do the maximum to enjoy it, do you want to have regretts all of your life?

you have nothing to loose to go to talk with him

Answer 45

Use the "we're almost out of school and I have a dream " reason...he'll be flattered...

Do u know if he likes u at all?

Answer 46

well one thing you have to think abt is that he is going to graduate this year and you have a few more years right???? ok he will become 18 and will not be allowed to date you legally ok,,,, so is this somethign you want to have to address soon........ok if you want to walk up to him and say Hay I like your shirt were did you get it and that will indeed get you and him talking and than ask him if he has a g/f....

Answer 47

talk to other guys or his guy friends then start talkin to him or u can take the confidence pill lol

Answer 48

if you cant dont force yourself to do that..but i suggest that you go for it! well if he likes you also then you hit the jackpot!

Answer 49

make ur self look totally hot.. and just do ur thing.

it always works for me :]]

Answer 50

tell him how you feel. if you're cute, then you don't have to worry

guy LOVE girls girls. end of story

Answer 51

Gurl just make him jelous. dress up all nice and sexy and start flirting with him and other guys

Answer 52

:) just act like you're all that and ask him out

Answer 53

just do it

Answer 54

omg me to well i dont he i like me b.c i am 10 th

never got see him?

Answer 55

talk and hang.