Why can't I pull myself together and delete the texts?

Question

I broke up with my boyfriend last month, I've managed to delete all the lovey dovey e-mails off my pc, but I'm struggling to delete the texts off my mob... I'm still really hurting and it's taking time to get over him. There's no way we're getting back together, he cheated on me... I just can't do it, please help.

Answer 1

Honey bee.. i was married for 4 years.. If you really wanna get over someone you willneed to get rid of those text.. It has helped me ... i can't even remember his cell number... move on honey don't let old memories cloud your head.. move on and start some new textin... all the best..

Answer 2

I do not know what to claim. I hope everything works out ok to your loved ones. The most hazardous evidence is that you've got caught her browsing internet sites that provide recommend on find out how to avert being caught dishonest. I think that's the reply to your query. Even though, i'm pressured about your time line. You say she's goes to conferences and stays lots longer than anticipated. Then you say she's unemployed. So those conferences she used to be going to were what? Work meetings? Or what style of conferences? I ask considering that that's an predominant a part of the main points. Additionally, you recounted the man she is also having an affair with is Mexican. Is your loved ones white? Just curious. Regardless it seems that even though you might have told your dad. He seems to be in denial or comfortably would not care. You obviously do care. I'd just endorse an ultimatum to your mother, and tell her how a lot she's hurt you guys, and that you just will not tolerate it anymore. As a result, if she continues you is not going to communicate to her or she are not able to be part of you lives. That also relies on how historical you guys are. Are you guys 18 and older?

Answer 3

Do it just like a wax...fast and painless. Well sweetie, I know how you feel. When me and my ex broke up, we had tons of IM's on my computer and I didn't erase them for a month after we broke up because I still had feelings for him because I didn't get closure. You're feelings for someone don't go away with the snap of a finger, though some of us wish they did, the longer you keep them the more you're going to think about it, and you're going to remember the good times, and remember how much you miss him. So the texts are just making it worse. Once I erased all our conversations, and after I read them all one last time, my feelings for him were gone and I realized that he was unobtainable and that we were better off apart because we had absolutely no business together, we were horrible for each other. If I hadn't have done that, I never would have met my current boyfriend, who is also my first and only love, and the person I want to be with for the rest of my life. He understands me, he's understanding, he's my dream guy and everything I have ever wanted, needed, could want or need. So don't be so quick to hold on to the bad, when you do you're blocking you're heart from the right man who is worthy of your affection, heart and body. Good luck sweetie.

Answer 4

I know how this goes it literally took me 6 months until I could throw the pictures away. Healing is a process that takes time, so don't rush it. If you look at the text and want to be together again and are willing to forget his cheating then make sure you delete them if it's just a reminder of the good times don't rush it. Time heals all things and makes throwing things away easier! Good luck!

Answer 5

THis is something that happens to most of us at some time or other. I am really sorry that it is your turn to suffer.

The only thing to do is to be with friends and go places end keep your mind off the ex.

Time will be the cure.

As sure as eggs is eggs, in a little while you will meet somebody even better and be very happy. Just remember that, and keep on going. Good luck.

Answer 6

Same here huni!!

I`ve still got the emails too.You`ll know when the time is right i guess as will i but if i feel the time hasn`t come after 3 months then i`m just gonna bite the bullet and do it,it`s alot harder when theres a child involved as i will still have to have him in my life to some extent,and i`ve now got the lovely emails and texts to compare to the cold distant ones he now sends since he walked out just asking how our son is,and thats hard to deal with knowing he doesn`t give a damn about me anymore.Goodluck.xx

Answer 7

I'm sure we have all been there some time or another. Take your time and time heals. Only delete them when you are ready to otherwise you might regret doing it to soon. Also think of the pain you are in when you read them Hun its not good really.

You really need a girlie night out to pick you back up again. Go on have a girlie night out and have loads of fun.

Keep your chin up you will get there in the end.

GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

I'm sorry he cheated on you-I know how much it hurts. You need to view those texts as nothing more than empty words. Then just delete them. The more you hold on to them,the more you'll look at them-and the longer your pain will last. Make the break and let all remnants of him go.

Answer 9

it's always difficult to let go of someone that you cared about, no matter how much pain they put you through, but the longer you keep these messages the harder the transition will be. you keeping these text just show that your not over him, and your holding on to the past, it's like the text message is your way of holding on to the days when your relationship was a REAL relationship. he cheated on you, those text message was he's way of keeping you in the dark, once you delete those messages you are basically allowing yourself to move on.

Answer 10

Instead of cold turkey just keep one and not the best one and then only let yourself look at it just once more before you have to delete it. Knowing its there will stop you reading it and eventually it will just be taking up memory in your phone. As you move on you will need that memory for organising your new social life. ;-)

Answer 11

OMG I just went through this exact same thing in the last couple of weeks... I just had to do it... I wanted to keep them, and i save everything... including voicemails, texts, emails, pictures, and IMs for as long as I have my AIM up... I don't know if I was pissed off at the time, but I just deleted EVERYTHING one day... I couldn't put myself through reminding myself of what we had... I guess you don't have to delete them... if it's easier for you to keep them... I just think it'll hurt, if whenever u open your texts ur reminded of those times... if you truly want to delete them... just do it... there's no turning back after they're gone... so just delete them right now...

Answer 12

Yes hun i am exactly like you, i cant get rid of these texts and e-mails, i dont even delete his calls.

When i see them i just remember all the good times we shares and how much we cared for each other.

But sweetheart you need to get rid of it, or you will never move on.

Just remember that he cheated on you and you deserve better than that.



Take care and good luck.

Answer 13

break -ups are not easy. its difficult. just allow yourself time to get over it and you will. trust me you will soon be able to find the strenght to delete those texts. at least you have been able to e- mails so that is a start. baby steps hun. don't be in a rush but at the same time do not wallow. time is a healer

Answer 14

i think you should little by little erase them, just remember that while he was being romantic to you he was also with someone else. Its very hard when someone hurts like that, but you know that someone that took you for granted does not deserve you as a human being, i think you should keep them until your strong enough to say to yourself that you dont need them, believe you will get there, you cant just from one day to another get used to the fact that he is not there any more cause it was his choice, but little by little you should be able to erase them all. Good luck and he doesnt deserve you

Answer 15

Thinking of it as getting rid of the old to make space for something new. It's very hard, but all you are doing is preventing yourself from moving on. Trust me, delete them and you WILL feel much better.

Answer 16

the sooner u delete them the sooner you'll get over him. trust me im still in high school and when my boy-friend dumped me( on Valentines day 4 my best friend!!!..!) i got really ticked and tore up all the stuff he gave me and threw the necklace he gave me at him i felt soooooo much better good luck!! oh and if he cheated on u and theres no hope of getting back together then whats holding u back?

Answer 17

He's history, girl.

The longer you keep that stuff around, the longer it will take for you to get over him.

Delete, delete, delete. Just like he deleted the thought of you while he was with someone else.

Answer 18

your like to remember all the good times u had. You neeed someone else to make you happy and treat u just as good or better so u wont remember those times and u can delete him out of your life

Answer 19

Get together with some g/f's and have a ex b/f purging party. Time will take care of the rest.

Answer 20

When u have started to heal is the day u will just delete them, eright now..just try to forget him and his msg..!



Life will have some one better in store for u ..worthy of ur love and trust

Answer 21

Read one, cry, remember why u hate him and delete it. Its like a band aid...pull it off quick...whats the use of holding onto something that doesnt truly belong with you

Answer 22

I know its hard but get rid off everything that reminds you of him because everytime you see it your hurt.



Try your hardest to move on and find someone who deserves you. Just remember he is a cheater and start remembering his flaws and what you did not like of him but was blinded by love.



Your move on little by little.

Answer 23

1.Copy all his messages on to a piece of paper, then put them away somewhere..

2.Delete all the messages from your mobile.

Good Luck: )

Answer 24

You'll do it when you're ready to. Get rid of them a few at a time when you need the space.

Answer 25

just sit down and write down ten things you loved about this man and ten things you hate and i bet you will think of ten things you don't like faster than the ten you do

someone once told me this when i split from my husband of 9 years it helped me get over it and i never felt the same way about him again

Answer 26

by holding on to the texts you proberly feel your holding on to a part of your life a part when you were happy and thats hard to let go give it time don't push yourself

Answer 27

Maybe the curtain cord has got stuck give it a good pull and you should be able to pull your self together!

Answer 28

Just get rid of it.

You're hurting yourself by trying to hold on to something that is gone

Answer 29

I know how you feel....maybe read them all one last time, then just go cold turkey and delete them, then go out there and meet someone new, girlfriend! :-)

Answer 30

the only way to deal with your grief is to banish the past....delete them and forget him....he's your ex now...he's gone...move on, or get someone else to delete them....

Answer 31

my relationship ended in August i still have txts and pictures of my ex your not alone here i find it hard to let go still cos i still love my ex.

Answer 32

Get your best friend to do it for you - better still throw it in the neaest pond and get a new one. (The phone i mean not the ex boyfriend . - but then ..............Hmmmmm.)

Answer 33

Just because its personal to you.



You will be able to in time.

Answer 34

i suggest u store it in a folder of Ur cp . and mark it (do not open )for safe keeping.

Answer 35

keep them as a nice reminder till ur ready to let go.

Answer 36

You broke up with him!!!! Move on. Fresh start.

Answer 37

Hand your phone to a mate. They'll do it for you.