Should i send this to my asshole ex?

Question

OK, i know it wont achieve anything, but really i feel the need to tell him these things.
He broke up with me 3 months ago, and continued to use me and pull me in and out like a yoyo. But i have had enough, i called him today very upset and he was rude and hung up on me, told me to "grow some balls" and that he doesnt wanna speak anymore.
Its not meant to be super mean, just meant to make him feel guilty really..
Heres the letter:


Sometimes i wish i could take it all back. I gave you so much love, time, energy, tears, everything, i actually gave you everything i have... You are the only person that i have ever done that for in my life! And i feel like it wasnt appreciated.
Its easy to say "hey i appreciate you", but you never really showed it.
Your all talk no action. Always saying your gonna change something but never doing it. How many times did i hear the words "im gonna try and be nicer to you" or "you deserve better"? And your right, i do deserve better, but you never gave it to me :)
Your actually a bit of a dick dave, ive never really said that before and meant it. Maybe not all the time but sometimes you are.. Everything you do is to fit in and impress. Sometimes you act like you know so much about life and whats important but my opinion is that you have no idea whats important. Its sad because i think im one of the few people that really really know you.
When iv recovered from all of this someone is going to thank you for throwing me away, haha what a typical line. But its true, and this person will actually appreciate me, ill make sure of it. And maybe your gonna kick yourself because no other girl is weak enough to stand there while someone uses them up like you did with me. Then again maybe you wont kick yourself, maybe you will fall in love with someone like i did with you, and you will know how it feels!
I dont care if this makes you feel bad, you should feel bad. Actually, i do care for making you feel bad, and hate myself for caring, i hate that i continue to care about you no matter what you do. I guess ill end on that note cos its kinda happy, knowing that someone cares about you no matter what. I wish i had that and hopefully one day i will.
Take care,
Not yours faithfully, :)
Ange
Ps. Drive safe

Answer 1

you'd be a fool to send him this

play it smooth girl, he treated you like **** and walked away

just leave it be, block him out of your memory. Yes I understand your need to get closure and dis him like he did.. but take it from experiences it ain't going to help

this letter will only make him laugh or he would just read it throw it anywhere like he did with you.

ignore him, take it as if he doesn't exist and move on

find yourself a guy whose going to respect you and that will kill him.

best of luck:)

Answer 2

Send him a message back saying the following Omg, *Enter friends name here* *Enter guy's name here* Just sent me a text saying My ex sent me a text saying I'm sorry I was such an asshole to you. Should I respond?you think he is trying to clear his conscience? You think he wants me back? I end things with him about 3 weeks ago or so, because he was ignoring my few calls and texts. Even blew me off. So I just sent him a text saying I hope you got all that you wanted from me, I'm not a toy to be played with and I wished him the best of luck. I haven't heard from him since he was ignoring me(3 1/2 weeks ago)until today. I'm not completely over him. Thanks for you input and thoughts/advice. It will seem like an accident. He will see your doubts.

Answer 3

Don't send him that letter! To me it seems like you are just confirming that no matter what he does you still care and love him. That won't make him feel bad it'll just boost his ego. You were def not mean at all in the letter. At times you sound just plain sad. Seems to me you are not over him yet. The best thing to do is not send the letter and just stop talking to him. Cut all ties and begin the process of moving on. If you don't this will just continue until you hate him and yourself.

Answer 4

Trust me, I've been there, and I promise you it's in your best interest NOT to send him this letter. The best way to show him you've had enough (and the only way they ever seem to listen, ironically) is to ignore him. Act as if you've moved on, even if you haven't completely inside. Don't call, don't write, just live your life as if he didn't exist. Keep writing letters if they help you get out your feelings, but don't send them - better yet burn them (safely!) or tear them up, as a ritual exercise to help you express and move on from the emotions that are holding you back. The best way to get a cancerous growth out of your system is to cut it out completely.

Answer 5

I'VE BEEN THOUGH YOUR EXACT SITUATION, and am going through it RIGHT NOW.

It SUCKS.

But, you've given it time, so that's all good. You need to find a main POINT of the letter. Why are you sending this exactly? You need to make that clear otherwise you might resent it if he acts negatively.

BEST of luck, really!!



(Oh, and just keep in mind, that there's always someone better. If he doesn't care about you, he's not worth your worries.)



Love Lizzy

Answer 6

wow, what a great letter



i bet it made you feel better as the words were

flowing...:):)



if sending it to your exbf will make you feel

EVEN better, then send it.......

(just make sure to realize that he might not

even read the letter)



now, all you gotta do is follow thru........

what if he does read the letter and wants to get together

with you to 'discuss' it---what then?

do you meet with him? or do you tell him to

'READ THE LETTER AGAIN' !



your letter pretty much says it all.....make sure he knows it's good-bye this time FOR GOOD



leave out the p.s. tho.......yeah, i know--you care, but.......

well, i'd just leave out the p.s.



Good Luck A !



:):)

Answer 7

thats good i wrote one for my ex when i broke up with him. he actually wrote me back saying thank you, I was really surprised but my ex was an asshole too. I dont know why guys think its cool for tehm to hang up on you it used to really piss me off . id cal him back like 5 seconds later he wouldnt answer but eventually i got over it. I think women now days r the ones with the balls because guys do stuff that girls normally do ..

Answer 8

you know what, I've wanted to send a message like that to my asshole ex too. its a long distance thing and he ignored me and hasn't talked to me in a month. ive typed horrible texts and messages but i just can't send them.



KILL HIM WITH KINDNESS!



believe be if you let him get to you like that he knows he has the power!



(:



do this,

if you still want to send this message in the morning do it.

but sleep it over.



<3

Answer 9

I would not send it. He isn't going to care anyways so it would be a waste of time...Just move on and put this guy out of your head...he isn't worthy of your time or energy.

Answer 10

I think you should screw that letter up and chuck it in the bin along with your memories of him.



Don't waste your energy on a git

Answer 11

NO ! " Least Said , Soonest Mended "! Forget him and start your life anew

Answer 12

No....



Even if he was mean to you, why hold spite to him? IGNORE HIM, HE OBVIOUSLY DOESN'T CARE/RESPECT YOU!



JUST LET HIM GO, AND FORGET HIM!