The answer might turn out to be a long one but bear with me oK? ,,,, If you are a virgin then be determined to stay that way ,,,, You need to sit down with a piece of paper and write down standards and rules for your self ,,,, Have your mother help you with this ,,,, You'd not only be getting her input but also be drawing on her experiences ,,,, Think about all the different situations you could wind up in and what you should do if that should happen ,,,, Run all possible scenarios through your mind ,,,, Make rules for yourself about what you will do and what you won't do and of what you will allow and what you won't allow ,,,,
You're going to meet allot more losers and low liefs out there than you will decent people ,,,,They are as common as famine or disease ,,,, They far out number the good guys ,,,,
This guy might like you but he might like better what he's got in mind that he could eventually do with you later on so you have to be careful and remain allert ,,,,
His picking you up and carrying you to the water is just one way for him to get away with touching you and get a little more familiar is all ,,,, I've advised many times before that with the exception of a very few all guys let their glands and egos do their thinking for them ,,,, This is a problem that starts from like 14 or 15 years of age up to and including their 30's and 40's and even beyond that ,,,, Some of them have this problem their whole lives ,,,, You have something they want and especially you because you are a virgin ,,,, They are more than ready willing and able to do say or promise you ANYTHING they have to in order to get what they are after ,,,,
These low life losers are very good at what they do ,,,, They are very smoothe and can make themselves sound very convincing ,,,, With them it's always "I DO" until they don't want to any more ,,,, They finally figure out that they are just in lust instead of love ,,,, They will gladly score with you a few times or for a while but eventually and inevitably they will start losing interest in you and will start looking for someone that excites them more than you do ,,,, The next thing you know they start cheating on you or just plane leave for better targets of opportunity and there you are ,,,, You are left high and dry and used and abused ,,,, And they could care less if they've hurt you in the process ,,,, They consider you old meat and used up ,,,, They are after the fresh stuff ,,,, It might sound crude or vulgar but that's what is going through their minds ,,,,
This is why you need to think about setting standards and rules for your self ,,,, It's for your own protection ,,,, You only go through life once and that's why it's so important that you do things right the first time or with as few mistakes as possible ,,,,
Once you have these rules then stick to them not only now but for the rest of your life ,,,, You'll never regret it ,,,, Once your friends and peers know you have these rules they will respect you allot more than they do some girl that lets herself be used as a toy or plaything ,,,,
When it's generally known that you aren't ready to play little sex games the losers will melt away and go look else where for easier targets ,,,, It's only the good guys that will agree with and abide by your rules ,,,, Always remember that you are the boss and if any guy doesn't like it then tell him to just get away from you and stay away ,,,,
Never let any guy compromise your resolve for any reason ,,,, Never let anyone use you as a toy or plaything ,,,, Never allow yourself to be used and made a fool of ,,,,
Stick to your guns on this sugar not only now but from now on ,,,, I promise you'll never regret it ,,,, If you don't believe me then have your mother read this answer and see if she doesnt' agree ,,,,
It would also be a smart idea if you tried to get as wide a range of acquaintances as you can while you are still young ,,,, Don't be in any hurry or a rush ,,,, Take your time ,,,, Play the field so to speak ,,,, Find out who and what's out there first before you get serious about anyone ,,,, This would help you in making a smarter decision as to who you want to settle down with when you are ready for a more involved relationship later on ,,,,
You've posted a very good question here on a situation that every girl goes through ,,,, You get a star for it from me ,,,,
Like I said stick to your guns ,,,, Be smart wise and alert ,,,, Don't let anyone use you and if you find yourself in an uncomfortable situation then get out of it fast ,,,,
Enjoy your date and your young years ,,,,
Yoda said this ,,,,