question: i am a nice guy but i use crutches is their a special girl out there in my future?

Question

i am a nice guy and have been told by many girls i am very nice and everything. Now since i am a nice guy and treat women with respect and value a relationship i have with a woman, would many ladies really feel sorry for me and not even consider me because of my physical disability? i mean its difficult sometimes to see everyone finding someone but me i keep a positive attitude and hope that a special lady is out there for me. i have a form cerebral palsy called spastic diplegia but i am strong because i can walk and run without my crutches and i am independant but because of my disability, i sometimes have stiff mucles and limited mobility but i can get around just fine on my own. i have been rejected many times by girls and a few have said that "i would make them look bad in public because of my crutches" or that i couldnt keep up. i mean i look for personality in a girl but a lot of times many girls i approach feel sorry for me and i dont want them too i want them to know i am fine and focused on having a good relationship with a special girl out there but it always seems like i always come up short because im already deemed " useless" or not up to a girl's standard's i am a nice guy and im not going to change my disability doesnt make me but to a lot of girls its like i dont even get the chance because im different. i hope there is a girl out there for me.

Answer 1

There is someone for everyone. I think once the right one comes your way she will not care about anything but your heart. She will not even notice that and be there for you no matter what. You have to be patient and I know it's hard but "You can't hurry love" lol. Take advantage of being single, and the attention you do get. Some girls will feel sorry but others are being real and want to get to know you. If you keep thinking that they are feeling sorry for you, your making yourself go through more than you need to. Girls like confidence as long as you feel good and know you don't need anything and your fine don't worry about the dumb little girls who just "feel bad". Good luck I hope you find that special someone soon.

Answer 2

I believe there is a girl out there for you! You sound very nice and physical appearance doesn't matter. It's whats on the inside that counts. If you are as respectable as you say you are, you wouldn't embarrass me to be in public with you. Other guys are having the same issue, except they don't have a disability. Just be patient, there will be the right girl come along who cares more for you than your disability. I realize it doesn't seem that way now, but I guarantee there is someone for everyone in this world. Hang in there and be sure to get out in order to meet others. The library or church is always a good place to meet and have something in common. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Yes of course! There is always one person out there that you are supposed to be with. I mean i was on crutches for 2 months but anyway. If you are a nice guy you will find someone. Girls look in personality too so you will find the right girl. Anyway if girls say that stuff to you then they don't seam nice so you shouldn't be with them anyway. A nice guy should be with a nice girl! Just shake off the rejection and enjoy life until you find the right girl. I hope this helped, and good luck!

Answer 4

I don't know what's in your future. I'm 27 and have a disability as well. I have a type of muscular dystrophy which effects mostly my legs. I can walk without crutches just fine but I can't run, have trouble walking up stairs, and get tired rather quickly. My muscles can also get very tight and make me look like i walk flatfooted.



Now i am also very positive and exercise often which helps. I think i'm good looking and have a good sense of humor and personality as well. But i have been single all my life. I don't think however i can blame it on one thing. Maybe our personalities didn't match. Maybe she wasn't looking for a serious relationship. Maybe it was my disease. Maybe it's due to the fact i'm indian and most girls i'm around are white. Maybe i was just being too picky. I try not to think about it because you can never really know.



The thing is that the majority of people, especially young people, like to date someone they are familiar with, someone they think they can relate to. There are exceptions but most people don't date someone of a different culture, ethnicity, or someone who is physically different. Too many people are raised in their little boxes and are afraid to date someone dealing with something they are not familiar with or appear different. It doesn't have to be race. If your style, interests, personality, or physical attributes are too different many girls won't consider dating you.



Now i think there is a girl for me and girl for you out there who will be very special because a typical person doesn't date someone who is handicapped. I hope you find that person, but personally i really don't mind being single. I find there are many other things in life to appreciate and i have a feeling you have the same positive attitude. I think you just want to understand what's going on and I hope my explanation helped.

Answer 5

Yes!!!! Of course if a girl won't be with you cause you have crutches then its her loss. Personally i think any girl who would reject you because of that is stupid. Even the holding her back reason i could see but then again not. Trust me you will find someone forget about those other girls. I could tell you personally that I would date someone with crutches. You will find someone that is really special. And I doubt that a girl would go through a relationship just cause they feel sorry for you. So don't worry and keep looking it WILL happen!

Answer 6

I have to agree with you.... people shouldn't just feel sorry for you right away. If you think about it, most people out there have problems and challenges of their own but they are not always as visible or obvious as yours. I myself have a rare disease related with hemophilia but on the street I am just another person.

I think that you may experience rejection simply because a lot of people are afraid of the unknown or how to handle being with you (even though I doubt it would be much more different than dating a man without crutches) but for their sake, I can see why they would work themselves up about your condition.

Honestly.... everyone faces dating challenges and wondering if they will meet "the one". I am a true romantic and I believe that there is someone special out there for you.... however, I also believe in karma and doing everything possible to continue to make yourself a better person. If you are doing those things then you are bound to meet Mrs. Right. Make sure you are socially active and putting yourself out there... you will not meet someone sitting at home or just going to work, school etc.... get into special interest groups or adaptive sports.... radiate your self confidence with your head held high and don't be afraid to be very vocal about your condition when you meet a girl. If she fully understands it then she is more likely to feel at ease about it. Like I said earlier, they are afraid of the unknown. Really show a girl what your world is like and help her understand your strengths and weaknesses. Sure you are different... but you are also the same... a person with a hand to deal with.

Also you could possibly get into local support groups for CB - not only would you have the possibility of meeting other women with the same condition (which would skip all of the explaining and worries) but you could also network and meet friends/family of people with the condition - people that already have a background with it and know you are totally fine! =D I had a roomate in college who had 3rd degree burns all over her body from chin down... she chose only to date men that were in the same situation just simply because she felt more comfortable doing so. Do I think you should limit yourself as to where you meet people? no. These are mere suggestions.

"I would make them look bad in public" - that girl sounds terrible... who the heck would want to spend their life with someone that shallow anyways?! people never cease to shock me. Thanks for sharing and hope this helped a little! :)

Answer 7

Dude, of course there's a girl out there for you! There's a LOT of girls out there for you! I do not doubt this at all, you are a nice guy. You respect women. Clearly you care about us (women) otherwise you wouldn't have written such a long and thoughtful question :)



I don't think girls care that much about a physical disability like this. I just don't think it's that big of a deal. Every body has their "thing" that they live with. Nobody is perfect!!

Answer 8

Of course there is. Just be patient and don't just lose it for the first one that gives you the time of day. Get to know the girl before you decide to put your heart on the line. You do not want to give your heart to the wrong person. If you do that too many times you end up with a cracked heart. And you want to have your whole heart for that right person.

Answer 9

I know the feelin. 2 yrs ago I had a turmor removed from my spinal cord. I was very athletic, now I need a cane to get around as well as the lost of abillity to use my right hand. Somtime I want to ask a girl out but I dont want people feeling sorry for me. keep looking. I am.

Answer 10

if a girl doesnt like u just because u have crutches, they r obviously not the girl for u. theres nothing wrong with having crutches. im sure u will meet the perfect girl who will appreciate u in every way. until then be positive

Answer 11

I dated a guy who had severe idiopathic scoliosis. He had three large curvatures in his spine. He always was self conscious about his appearance. My mother fixed us up because I was a single mother with a 1 yr old daughter and I didn't think Mr Right was out there either. Who would want someone that had excess baggage already. We we had our first date, he asked me if his appearance bothered me. I told him that it is not what is not on the outside, but what is on the inside that matters the most. He asked me to marry him on our second date....and said he wanted to adopt my daughter as his own. We have been married 22 years. Yes, keep looking and ask God to send someone who is right for you. He answered my prayers.

Answer 12

My friend, at one point I thought I was hopeless, you have to wait. Everything will work out for you. I wouldn't worry at all. She may not find you for awhile, but she is out there waiting for you. Just like my situation except I wasn't in crutches (sorry about your problem there too... I didn't mean anything by my comment...). You will find love, and when you do, it'll make everything right. I did, and she saved my life six years ago!

Answer 13

You sound like you have a lot of character and don't worry, those girls that told you all that **** are just bitches. A girl will come along who will not be superficial and she'll see just how good of a catch you are. Don't give up hope! I know it's hard sometimes but good things come for those who wait!

Answer 14

there is more than one girl out there for you.just because your on crutches and have a disability doesn't mean anything.those girls that are shallow doesn't deserve you or anybody else if they're gonna act that way.i think it's just crude that they said that to you.but anyways.yea,there are plenty of girls.including me.just by reading this i think that you are a nice guy.

Answer 15

not every girl is the same. yeah, it sucks some chicks can't look past the outside & discover what's in deeper. some girls are just complete jerks. but dude, there IS a girl out there. everyone has someone else. it's just a bit time consuming. don't lose faith, stay strong. keep your head up.

Answer 16

there's definitely somebody out there for you. (: maybe one of your friends can direct you to a really nice church where the people are accepting and sweet. people can just be so shallow sometimes, and if they're turning you down even though you're a genuinely nice guy, they weren't right for you to begin with. keep your chin up, and you'll find a girl. (:

Answer 17

wow whichever girls told you that are bitches! i think there is definetely a girl out there and you just have to wait. remember, relationships arnet about the outside its about the inside so no matter what you have, or look like, if you have a nice personality, people will love you

good luc :)

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Answer 18

awww... there is some1 for every1 out there sweetie.. the girl u should have is a girl that sees u for who u are, not for what u use or what u look like. and if she really likes u she wont care wat happends in public. heck, im not trying to be mean, but seriously maby u should find a girl who has the same problem, and date her... im not joking thats acculy a good idea

Answer 19

yeah if she likes u for u then she will ignore the disability and love u for who u r and my friend has a bf wid crutches and i actually got them together

Answer 20

if a girl really loves you then your crutches won't matter! especially if your a sweet guy! you'll find a very lucky girl and she will love you no matter what! don't worry about your crutches! "love is blind" as they say.

Answer 21

well i guess there is some bit ch that might want you crippled body but she is not going to be pretty and another thing i dont feel sorry for u so i dont need ur life story asshole if u want chicks ur parents need to die ever since mine did i have had 4 girlfriend and had sex with 2 of them

Answer 22

there is someone, not all girls are the same apparently, there's a whole variety of them, just find the right one

Answer 23

how old are you? what are your interests? etc etc. Send me and email like to get in touch you sound really sweet and im for personality not looks or we could just be friends i'll leave it up to you :) xxx

Answer 24

wow.id eff you.

lol nahh. but freal, wtf kinda devilistic girls are you speaking too.

see this is why we have such a bad reputation. id like you in a heartbeat =) your so sweet.

ahh i love guys lik you. n i don care if ur in crutches.

HEEEEY ;)

Answer 25

yeah man, crutches can't hold you back.